NoCapes thread 3 - flying solo

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Thread 3

Oh no, what a nasty piece of work he is; I'm another who urges you to report it Capes.
If he can't see this for what it is, then he must be shown that he can't just dip his wick whenever he feels like it and to hell with how you feel about it.
Speaking as a Mama (not to mention grandMama) myself, I really hope you tell MamaCapes.

if u dont ant to phone police at least phone womens aid for advice or get some help for arrnaging access for kids-u sholdnt have to see him

Oh Capes I'm so very sorry to hear your latest update.. the man really is a nasty cunt. (Sorry I know that word is harsh but totally warranted here!)

I hope you now know that he cannot and should not treat you this way.. if you don't make a stand now I fear things will only escalate, he will assume he can do that whenever he feels like it.. and god forbid what would happen if one of your children walked in on him hurting mummy, I so hope you find the strength to report him.

Please tell mama capes, she needs to know the full extent of his evilness, and she can deal with the shit from now on.

I hope you are as ok as you can be

sky you need to write a book or something, your messages are so well written and lovely (and I feel like you're inside my head!!)

kaitlin I think 2 high fives would be a high 10 no?

So the conversation went like this (copied word for word)

Me - Just need to ask what the fuck that was about last night? I said no 100 times and yet you still carried on, why? You know what that's called don't you?

Him - Don't say that Capes. It wasn't that and you know it, you're probably just regretting it now you're sober which tbh fucking kills me. I wish it wasn't like this, I miss being allowed to kiss you and hold you and have sex with you 😔 X

...I don't even know what to say to that

How can you regret something you said no too? He is minimising his behaviour.. you need to make him very aware that saying no once equates to rape. He raped you capes

Try something like 'I said No over and over again. You held me down and had sex whilst I continued to say no. I didn't regret it this morning I told you no more than once at the time. We both know what that's called.'

OMG - words fail me - the shitty entitled bugger. If you were my daughter I would be straight round to his house to punch him on the nose. Capes you can't let him get away with that. He really thinks he has done nothing wrong.

Giddy please come along and suggest a good reply for Capes.

The only thing I can think of is:

"Why should I not say it when it is true? I repeatedly and clearly said no and you went ahead - this is called RAPE and YOU know it. As for all the bollocks about regretting not being allowed to have sex with me - it is YOUR behaviour which has caused this

Then you could say something about him no longer being allowed in the house as he can't be trusted.

Giddy please come along and suggest something better.

He doesn't even realise what he did does he? "You know it", eh naw bawbag you're a rapist scumbag! It's still all about him! I'd reply with "well you weren't allowed last night and it didn't fucking stop you did it??" Sorry that's probably not helpful. Have you told him he's not coming in tomorrow?

"You heard me saying no though. You understand no, don't you? I can't risk you doing that to me again. I'll figure out handovers so I'm safe".

Too soft?
"I regret letting you in the house. You ignored my pleas to stop. You have something to regret. You crossed a line and you know it. You missed sex with me so you took it"

And then tell him your mate Giddy is fucked off that his rapey behaviour requires these texts at all.

Giddy I salute you

I've said -
It wasn't?? Ok what if it wasn't you and I said I'd met.l a guy in the pub last night, kissed him and he started trying to have sex with me, I said no repeatedly and asked him to stop and he didn't, then he held me down and had sex with me anyway - what would you call that? Or what if in 10 years time DD comes home and says a boy did that to her - what would you call it then?
I don't regret anything because I didn't DO anything - you did it, and worst of all you can't even see it for what it is.
I won't be going to the spa tomorrow, if you are still having the kids you can pick them up at the door, you aren't allowed in my house anymore, I can't trust you to be around me without hurting me.

He hasn't replied yet
Remember I told you about my best friend who moved to another city? Well she rang for a chat before and I told her - she is currently on a train

I feel sick reading that Capes

Here should be your reply.

"I said no. You carried on. You raped me. You might wish you were allowed but you're not. Next time you lay a hand on me I'm calling the police."

Or you could tell me where he is and I'll go and put his dick in a blender for you.

send this back :

^Whether sober or drunk, you have no right to use physical force to pin me down & rape me, whilst being demanded repeatedly to stop.
You are so entitled you don't even see raping me as wrong.
I am deciding whether to contact the DV unit. particularly for contact with DCs as from this point on you will not be setting foot in my house.
I will endeavour to find a 3rd party to hand them over.
You can quit stalling finding your own place, there is no way you will be living in this house again , ever."

Haha Giddy fuck it it's Friday!

Oh I put DD's real name in that post whoops

I'm so glad your friend is coming to see you Capes well done for opening up to someone, that's often the hardest step

Oh I did it too soon, some of your replies are much better than mine

Your friend is coming to see you ?

Is it a long journey, send her a link to your threads.

You did good with that reply. Do we need Dd's name removed? I'll report for that.
Good work by your friend. She sounds excellent. We like her already!

And FWIW Capes I think your reply was fantastic

to a Fuckwit Free Friday night.