Online Dating ... and this is a thread for while we are waiting! Dating thread 109

[loobyloo1234]

I know these threads have come in handy for many dipping their toes for the first time into OLD. So here we are again ... another 1000 posts down:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP

I can't keep up, who is the booty call to Mrsfluff??

I reckon he is just as nervous as you, hygge, honestly. Gin then jump him! He can only run for the hills and if he does more fool him and at least you will know!

I've got to get better at finding people to message/booty call/chat to. You know that beggars can't be choosers expression? Well I am a choosy beggar (metaphorically!). But when I do choose, thinking i'm being ever so picky, over-picky in fact, they are so dull. What are the strategies for selecting good ones?

It's probably the ones who don't get back to me who are the good ones, isn't it? sigh.

Though they can't be the good ones or they would have more taste and get back to me immediately! (I'm having an evening of swinging between confidence and despair.)

I am about to pick Mr 31 up, I am a trollop! I've not even got make up on

Have a good night, Mrsfluff! I'm sure you will!

So update, mr birm who I met on Thursday, appears to be very keen but still very shy, he was drunk last night and flirting (slightly!!) mesg this morning to apologise for getting over excited!! . Then mr mountain bike came back yesterday from hols, I'd decided not to mesg him ... A week with no contact is a long time on Bumble lol!! But he mesg me a couple of hours after getting back .... Keep telling myself this is really positive .... I really really fancy him .... Which is daft when we haven't even met!!

Have fun mrsfluff !
They both sound positive wingle , any suggestion of meeting Mr mountain bike?

Go for it, fluff!
And you wingle.:)

Hyggeligt, He's had an operation and can't drive, but think it's only another week or so. Before he went away he said we needed to sort a meeting out.

MrsFluff ... that has made me truly LOL. I missed half an hour of the thread and in that time, it was I'm ignoring Mr 31, to i'm picking up Mr 31

Have fun

ikr, looby! Lovin' fluff's style.

Hi, I've been here before but I post more on a narcissistic ex thread as my ex is a manipulative game-player. I have now been able to set two dates up next week. One Tue with someone who is more my age and type (lookswise), but not so reliable at communicating and Thursday with someone who isn't my type, and older, but I like his messages. Do I tell them I'm seeing someone else if it's just first dates?

Lilacpink40 It's weird, isn't it. I have no doubt that every man I've messaged has set up multiple dates, but having agreed to meet one on Monday, I now don't want to reply to my messages from other people about meeting up until I've met the first one and given that a go.

It'll probably go horribly wrong and he'll hate me and yet I still don't want to set up the second first date yet.

Bloody' ell, this OLD malarkey is complicated when you haven't done it before.

Pringle glad I'm not the only one feeling this. Both men seem nice and I want to feel a rush of 'this is it, the one', but I won't get that unless I'm with someone in person, possibly over several weeks.

Another issue I have is self-doubt. I have a good steady job, which I needed a qualification to get, but Mr blonde (9yr older) seriously is ahead. I've cyber stalked and found out as he has unusual name. My general knowledge is rubbish. I'm useless at quizzes and remembering basic information. I'm used to being with younger men with steady jobs, but with a similar background. I'm already talking my way out of this date aren't I?

Then I'm also selecting out men that don't have regular employment. I have ghosted two mid-40s men as they mentioned training for sales type jobs. It just sounded like they were unemployed and Alevel type courses were easier to do. I'm not sure if I'm being fair and ultimately if I'll select every option out.

sorry long post. Just having lots of doubts!

Sorry I haven't been keeping up... mr shy had fallen flat so I have finally uploaded tinder probably the worst OLD app I could use but it was the least faff to set up.
I'm sure I'll be back shortly full of woes with the lack of interest I receive

Messaged you, Lilacpink40. I may be off the mark with your job, but it sounded familiar.

twolinesplease Good luck with Tinder. I chickened out of that one. Interested to hear how you get on!

Morning ladies. Well, I've had a fantastic night I checked with Mr 31, before I picked him up, that he wasn't an axe murderer and that he knew I had wobbly bits. No he wasn't and yes he did. I picked him up in my not best outfit, no make up and hair a mess. He really didn't mind!

I'm with those of you that feel bad we have you are messaging people, when you have plans to meet someone else, but I'm not sure what option there is?

Giant mooseburgers with MrShy
But it is date bloody 7 or something and before hand I made it really clear that if he wants to have sex with other people he has to tell me, as I will him. He laughed and said he has no more free time.
Unfortunately I was really quite drunk and neither of us were unable to erm, conclude the session so it just went on and on and on but not in a bad way.
He bought me flowers and took me on a lovely date and held my hand a lot

Yay Myuser!! Sounds like a fab night

for Myusername

MrsFluff more info please! How did it go? whate did you go? What did you do?

It's happened. I have emotionally invested. Up till this point I was seriously keeping my cool now I am just pining for him, worrying about whether he liked the mooseburgers and when I get to have some more
He had to leave this morning to go to something he is committed to and I really didn't want him to go
There was some mooseburger embarrassment as I started my period (or something is wrong and I am seeing doctor Monday) in the middle of it
Mrsfluff how was your night?

Single - it went very well. Um, we didn't go anywhere, I just picked him up and brought him back to mine. It was bloody fantastic!!!! For some reason he didn't see my lumps and bumps send wobbly bits, he seemed to think I was gorgeous He is slim and very fit and was absolutely lovely.

I'd say this isn't like me, but then I'm only 9ish months out of a 20 year relationship and ex had an affair and left me for someone half our age. I think I'm rediscovering my confidence and sexually. I can't believe I've just strutted round naked, like I didn't have a care in the world. Sorry for the over share, but it's not something I can really discuss in real life.