Online Dating ... and this is a thread for while we are waiting! Dating thread 109

[loobyloo1234]

I know these threads have come in handy for many dipping their toes for the first time into OLD. So here we are again ... another 1000 posts down:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP

A turn off for me is any of the following:

No car or a disgusting crap heap that's falling apart
Bad ugly shoes
Clothes that aren't clean
Bad teeth
Any man who uses the C word or calls women bitches
Racism
Homophobic views
Drug use (even pot)
Complains about how hard done by he is
Rubbish job he hates and no intention of changing it
Binge drinks every weekend

Who sent the last text Single ? Could you text him something casual about how was his week and does he have plans for the weekend?

Myuser ... as in Mr Shy? And when you say bald, are we meaning actually bald or shaved heads here? As I can def live with a shaved head

Its half and half. Shaved as going bald!
He has a spooky resemblance to my children's father which will freak them (if they ever met him) and he wasn't my 'type'. My type has always tended to be stocky, dark haired, loud mouth cocky wankers

Ok - that I can deal with. I don't like the whole 'im going to keep combing this bit of hair over and hope no one notices that im going bald' Men just need to embrace it and shave it all off

Where did Dad go anyway?

Oh god no. You just have to go Jason Statham with it don't you

They know I am dating. Flowers, smiley mum who shaved legs in autumn (unheard of)

Convo:
Is he bald?
Me: well...
I knew he would be bald

myuser please don't mention teeth! Met a guy from pof a few months ago and within seconds realised why he didn't smile in his profile pics!!!

All this talk of mooseburgers....I'm tempted to go treat myself to something from Ann Summers Please take one for the thread team!
I have a date tomorrow and he is hot, can't really believe he wants to meet me and I will do everything in my power to NOT jump him, although will probably cave if he kisses me ......Bridget Jones pants at the ready as a deterrent me thinks.

I once didn't do bikini line as a deterrent to myself then forgot. It was like the Forest of Dean. I was mortified

Loobyloo He sent the last text (as it was about 10.30 at night and I was tired. I know, I should try harder). So I could send him a text but he has his children this weekend so don't want to bother him as I know he'll be super busy. His last text did say that he'd try to get over to see me this week but I've heard nothing. It doesn't bode well does it.

I've just had a look on Guardian Soulmates. Might set up a profile and see if there are any likely candidates near me although I'd imagine that they'll all be in the cities. I don't meet many left-leaning liberals here.

Myusernameis myusername Brilliant! like the forest of dean

Myusernameismyusername - done that too, they don't care if they want moose burgers they want moose burgers

He obviously didn't mind then myuser

This date tomorrow, he is hot looking, comes across very well, opened up and been honest (it seems), has a job, drives, lives about 40 miles away, no kids, 9 years younger than me, met off Tinder, countless messages on WhatsApp, had a couple of calls and openly discussed what we're looking for......however I'm looking for a negative, which by the way I have thrown up in our conversation. I'm not the most confident, quite self critical....could this be it perhaps as I just think there's an angle mainly because he is sooo good looking. I'm being stupid aren't I???

Hmm single - if you never replied to him, surely he'd think you weren't interested? I have a bit of a rule with that. I don't want to be the last one to text? He might be like me and be completely awkward? Text him text him

Curlylox you are being daft, my main squeeze at the moment, not ready to use the BF term, is gorgeous, 31, successful. After the last bunch of knobs I've been with I genuinely can't quite believe my luck. He does think blowing circles with capes is great fun though. Small price to pay for multiple orgasms though

Vapes not capes

I want a multiple orgasm (never had one)

Looby I have that rule too. Quite while I'm ahead/leave him wanting more type of thing. Trouble is, he cancelled our last date on the day so I'm a bit reluctant to chase. He did apologise but I think the ball is firmly in his court now. He's the opposite of awkward. very forthright.

Pisssssedofff he sounds great fun and gorgeous. Jealous of the multiple orgasms. Audi driver hasn't quite got the knack so I have to help him along. Tried showing him - to no avail. He lacks ... finesse. You can tell he's watched too much porn.

I've asked mr birm if he still fancies meeting up he said yes, so asked what he fancies doing ... "I'm still at work" not quite the helpful answer I was looking for .... He doesn't seem very keen!

Wondered what you ladies thought of this tale! It's fairly long but relevant

So I met a guy on tinder in June we had 4 dates, they were pretty good and we had mooseburgers once which was awesome

Date 5 he was coming to my house for the first time to stay over. I cooked dinner for us, we were going to watch the football and shag!

He stood me up.

Never heard from him again. Totally out of the blue as he had pursued me and been really keen, no hint of a problem so it was a bit of a mindfuck to be honest. I was hurt and confused for a few weeks.

4 months later a few days ago out of the blue he messaged me..hey how are you! I was my initial thought was to rip into him or ignore but thought no I'll go calmly or I'll never get an explaination.

So I was cool, not over friendly but calm and asked him where he'd been and what happened. I don't really know and have no way of knowing if this is true but he said he had depression, was on medication and alcohol played a part that he shouldn't have been drinking. He told me he was sorry, that I had every right to be hurt and angry, that it was nothing I did or to do with my being less than attractive etc.
I asked him loads of questions, he answered them all.
I said well why didn't you explain the next day? He said he was so ashamed that he thought it was better for me to think he was a complete bastard than admit the truth, because he was in a bad place and embarrassed. Says he had time off work then quit, has had counselling etc. Saw me on FB as people you may know and thought he would come to give me an apology and explaination.

So we had this stilted conversation, i was really pleased I didn't block him as it would have been the one from 2016 that i always wondered about. And I was pleased I had the chat and kind of got an explanation as to why he stood me up though I'm still a little wary that he could be lying.

We've chatted briefly since, I just wondered what anyone else thinks? Plausible or am I being a mug?
What would you think? Do?

For me turn offs are;
Bald head,
Earrings,
Un-gentlemanly behaviour,
Lack of spelling,
No job.

I need some help, I've been talking to a guy, for about a month. I keep saying, that we aught to meet up for a tea/coffee. He blows me off everytime. I'm just going to call it quits. What should I write?

lastnicknamefree. Unless the explanation is he fell into a coma I'm sorry there is no excuse for not texting. I can forgive almost anything but rudeness, I'd say jog on mate. And block him this time

evil just say you are not looking for a penpal but to date. If he can't find time /space to meet up you wish him well?

I'd say pass last