Online Dating ... and this is a thread for while we are waiting! Dating thread 109

[loobyloo1234]

I know these threads have come in handy for many dipping their toes for the first time into OLD. So here we are again ... another 1000 posts down:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP

I dunno I have been doing it for years! I have no single friends anymore so no one to talk to about it either and I think no one cares anymore it's been so long! I don't know how I managed it all that time until I came on here.

I'm fatter than my date guy. Also we had a weird convo tonight when he asked me for a 'normal' photo of myself (to show his mum) and I said 'WHAT?' And it turns out that I indeed do not look like my profile pictures at all (obviously he covered by saying I look nicer) but then I sent him about 4 pics of myself from my phone over the past 2 years that I don't mind much and he didn't think they looked like me either. So I sent him the most boring one which is my work pass and is little make up and just not what I think I look nice and he said he loved it

loobyloo1234 and myusername I'm up for a meet up if you are. Anyone else wants to join us?

I think that was a long winded lesson in what other people see is not what you see
Generally I send him photos of myself where I have a pig face snap chat filter over it or am distorted and look like elvis

Forme, get you, Monday moose burgers

Mr 31_is still being incredibly attentive and filthy st the same time. Tells me how lovely ii am and that he can't wait to get sweaty with me again. I'm hoping to see him Thursday - for moose burgers, but also just cos I like him and he makes me feel fantastic.

Still lots of messages from Mr Gosport, flirty and fun!!

Will go and read the rest now.......you've all been busy!!

Here's an honest question for you all ...
Out of all these men have you met somebody you a) click with and b) find attractive and c) is into you ?
I cannot seem to find all three.
Fancy the Arse off them, nothing in common, loads to talk about, no spark and as for into me ... Well they all seem pretty up for it at first but I either blow it with moose burgers too soon or make them wait for moose burgers and they stop texting.
I do not want to do "photos". I just think it's fucking weird. Is it just me ?
Give it to me straight girls !

Hello Pissed!

I'm here to do the same thing! Ie ask for advice from the experts here on this thread!! I'll come back later to answer your questions too (got to get on with some work right now !) but just wanted to comment on the coincidence - it's nice to have somewhere to go to ask these things cos it's not the easiest thing to share with people in real life...

Pissed I think I have now
Although admittedly B was the last but that happened. It didn't happen all at the same time.
Clicking came first and then other stuff followed. Bear in mind I think I have been chatting with this guy since at least August, it's now November so I think I let the 'click' work it's magic because he did not repulse me, or make me cringe I just wasn't sure about attraction. It had to grow

Pisssedddofff morning!

Yes a few years back (he's the one now moved abroad). I held back on moose burgers and he was never into sexy pics but sexting yes. I did get semi naked first date though.

The rest have been a combo of them wanting sexts and I find when they're not emotionally invested in you that can kill things.

It's strange too because not all second dates seem OK and I'm a big believer that if a first date is completely crap then don't bother with a second one.

Mr NI businessman who I'm seeing later isn't my ideal man on paper lots of baggage etc and shorter than I'd like etc. But there was a click and we've texted and sextet steadily since. Will be interesting to see how tonight goes!

I think divorce has changed me and there's no going back. It's awful but 3 years on, nobody is hitting the mark, I'm not even sure what the mark is any more

Photos require significant trust - I wouldn't do them either with a new relationship if it's even a relationship at all! Everything lasts forever on the internet.

Messaged Mr Posh. No reply but I expect him to be working and unable to look at his phone so not getting upset at the lack of immediate response. If no reply by midnight, then I'll take it as an official brush off.

My names Baklava and I'm on over-invester...

So, I shouldn't sack off all other irons after one coffee, should I?

an not on, gah!

Sending sexy photo's sounds terryfying... Not something that I'll be doing. I can't sext either - or at least, I can hint but can't bring myself to be actually rude...

Good luck pringle - I hope he texts a reply which contains an actual information/second date request!

I got accused of being a player earlier this year because I was still texting other men after sex.
So that's my new cut off point, I make it utterly clear if he puts it in we are in a relationship - needless to say I've not had any for months 😂

Oh dear pissed, maybe you should have waited until he left the bed

😂

Pissssssed {grin} I can't breathe.

I have sent many sexy photos in the past but I won't now because I realise it does nothing for me!

No no no to sexy photos … That’s what Snapchat is for

I've just come across this thread ladies. I think Cest has got this spot on. A lesson to us all that have been ghosted ... men!! and some women no doubt

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2767083--and-then-he-vanished?pg=3

I just send silly face shots nothing else

Pisssssedofff ha ha! youre funny.

The more time goes in and the more I read, the less hopeful i am of meeting someone whose into me, who i click with and fancy. The main problem seems to be a dire shortage of men and those who are availabe being unwilling to commit. They all seem to want 'no strings'

Bakalava - I used to think Id never send 'pics' or sext but I send some utter filth to my very appreciative 'iron' these days and he does the same. He sends me some beautiful pictures of his bum/back, abs/chest with beautiful lighting plus some spectacular knob shots!

I send cleavage shots, but nothing else. My rule is, if I'd be to embarrassed to show the photo to my bestie, I wouldn't send it!

I do sexting and phonesex and actual sex.............I thing after 20 years with one person, I am keen to explore my sexually.

I fancy both my 2 current irons and it seems very mutual, but as to where either of them are leading, I haven't a clue. I am trying not to overthink things, which is my absolute default position and leads to me tieing myself in rather large knots! I am worried about people getting hurt......probably me

Baklava, don't put your eggs in one basket, after one coffee. Give it another couple of dates to see how things go?

MrsFluff sounds like fun!

Re 'pics' I never show my face or identifying items (jewellery or possessions) and i only ever send boobs bum or legs in underwear or a glimps of hip/thigh/arse peeping out of sheets. Very tame compared to some so i gather. I always make sure that theyre beautifully lit too

No strings makes me fucking laugh, go and hire an escort mate is my usual response