Online Dating ... and this is a thread for while we are waiting! Dating thread 109

[loobyloo1234]

I know these threads have come in handy for many dipping their toes for the first time into OLD. So here we are again ... another 1000 posts down:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP

I'm a sucker for a massage I would be snoring my head off after 2 hours!

2 hours? That's about an hour and 50 minutes longer than I would want to be massaged for!

myuser I'm in Devon. Does this make the lowest, one?

Me too evil

all these wonderful nights, of mouse burgers do give me hope.

All I'm finding is nothing but damp wood. Not worth the effort. That's the problem with living in a semi rural area. Lots of traveling, and not a lot wood. Just damp, mouldy wood.

tess waves.

evil mouse burgers? Yuk

Oh Evil, I'm loving the damp wood description- perhaps they could dry their wood in your hearth??

Belated round of applause from me to Missfluff ! Thanks for TMI!! I'm glad it's not just me.

I too have noticed that the thirty somethings have... erm... more "capacity" than out of shape older blokes. Which is very very nice . I've encountered a couple of amazing forty somethings too, to be fair, but they were exceptionally athletic types who'd looked after themselves which, I'm sure, is why they seem to have managed to keep the "staying power" found in younger blokes.

So who's going to first to report back on a unruly massage?

Unruly massage? Lol
Nuru massage

mrsfluff you have to dry the wood outside and then look for mould and stuff. I don't want to sick off bad wood!!!!

On a werid note. Mr friend, says I need to date him! He lives an hour away on the train and had no job, and no place to stay.

Next!

I'd be lying if I said the conversation wasn't getting me a little horny

Repeat to self: Do not sext before you meet.

evil I hear you loud and clear - my date last night was took a car journey, a train and then a hoof up a hill. As I was standing on a platform in the middle of nowhere I thought to myself how much easier this would be in London.

The damp, mouldy wood analogy was spot on, sadly. We might have beaches but we have no men!

tess we have beautiful beaches, coast lines, forests, moorland. Places to loose you soul to.

Ok so my profile is up and I've had 4 matches so far. Conversation only flowing with one guy mr shortie (5,8) and already I'm already bored and obviously boring as when he asked what I do in my spare time outside of DC I don't actually have an answer, I truly have no life
All of the profiles of the fat and balding men are making me depressed

Looby I have a date Wed and Thu.

Think I've been ghosted by another man who sent me lots of photos over 2 hours then stopped writing completely. We had lots in common, he had good reliable job, said he really liked me, this could be it. Ha ha is so funny as being on here has actually given me thicker skin. Thanks to everyone on here who has shared ghosting stories. I carried on with getting DCs in bed and writing to other men.

Plenty of fish...but I'm waiting for salmon.

Twolines lots of things that you do with DCs are your life. I bet you walk and run around with them, so 'walking' and 'running' are two interests. Reading with them is 'reading'. Helping them with glitter glue is 'art appreciation'. Stick it down and be vague. Everyone puts cinema / films / swimming down. So 3 more to add ☺

Lets face it, it's more about the chemistry when you meet.

I went out with a bunch of strangers tonight and had a great time! This is A Good Thing, because it reassures me that I do have social skills and can talk to people, so if the conversation runs dry on my date tomorrow, I know it's not my fault and we just have naff all in common after all. Which is fine.

I can do this. Meeting someone for a first date is not a big deal. I just have to turn up, be me and see what happens. And if it's shit, I will message some of the other men and have a first date with one of them.

I can do this.

Re massage, I have a fantastic masseuse who no man could ever compete with, so I feel like it would be a disappointment trying. He's so talented and so lovely, but he's not into women. Otherwise I'd probably marry him.

Hello all - I have been reading your thread for therapist few weeks and to be honest it has kept me sane. Like someone said, no one in LTRs get it. So can I join you lovely ladies please?
I've been on a couple of OLDs. First no spark. Second I thought there was loads and he sent lots of super flirty texts all week and then we met yesterday and it seemed massively like I was being friend zoned. Totally different. Not sure why. It's pretty soul destroying.
Great to read some of your success stories tho 😄

Therapist? Wow what a Freudian slip!
... A few weeks that should have said!

Oh and I am South West too so if you guys do sort a meet up, I would love to join 😀

Morning! Happy Halloween, certainly met a few creeps between us and ghosting has been a thing LONG before today!

Pringle hoping your date is fab, if not it's his fault!

I've now been un-ghosted. He's writing very keenly again. I'm now thinking he just had reason to stop, but it was very abrupt. Not particularly late and he was in watching TV. I get the feeling he's highly emotional, but it's moth to the flame as his messages were really interesting. First time someone has said same point-of-view on life, poetry and food as me (I could have written it). Writing to 4 other men and the 2 dates to look forward to, so have other options.

Hi Crazy I've had highs and lows with dating. Think it could work, then realise it can't.

Lilac - good luck for tomorrow and Weds. Do we have nicknames for these two gentleman?

Crazy Welcome. What OLD sites are you using?

Happy Monday all

last so sorry to hear about copper date... from my experience with them the one I dated very briefly was a detective and always super busy with work (not lying) the other one I met at a police auction and won clay pigeon shooting with him but turned out he was gay but hiding it!

mother maybe try another date? what was wrong?

My date - eek looked at date for it it isn't tonight but next Monday. Yippee

I have Mr mytype and Mr professional.

I also am writing to Mr care and Mr mysterious and talking about potential dates.

I'm writing to another one, but he's not long been separated and I think is too emotionally shocked. He'd have to be Mr fragile, if I did meet him.