Online Dating ... and this is a thread for while we are waiting! Dating thread 109

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I know these threads have come in handy for many dipping their toes for the first time into OLD. So here we are again ... another 1000 posts down:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP

Sky, Indie boy sounds good for you - enjoy!!

Myuser - ooh, get Mr Shy........he's not so shy now

He needs a new name. He isn't shy. And he has a really big knob

Who said that

myusername that made me laugh! Def. not Mr Shy now!
I am in the South West -Bath/Bristol area; would love a meet up

Loving reading the messages of dates going well on here and good mooseburgers. Gives me hope.

Tess I think that bloke had sexual issues if he was busy considering what your face looked like while DTD. He may have a very low libido to not be in the moment and enjoy it. I'm sure you won't have the same problem from other men. My confidence would be low if I heard that too, but I'd carry on and try again.

Just off on a last minute date! But hungover and not in the zone will update

Have fun mother!
I'm grossly hungover

I'm in Hertfordshire. Come on ladies surely it's doable, no?!

You might not be far from me Curly

Was on thread I think last one?

Had date with Italian man, we chatted but the things that put me off was that he was constantly trying to touch me... Then also seemed to have huge stress problems with work. When it came to the bill I stupidly said lets go Dutch then kicked myself for doing that (he asked me on the date), what's worse is he agreed. This put me off too. Luckily not heard from him since.

I am still hung up on NI businessman - on paper looks a bit strange only met him once a year ago but chemistry was amazing. Have stayed in contact sexting and chatting (he has so far shared pics of his DD, painting of his holiday home in NI, photo of his golf course, him at an event, his car etc...) he's even mentioned he wanted me to be his girlfriend but I feel he's putting up barriers. Don't know why I'm so drawn to him, not usual type as short etc!

I do have a date tomorrow with a widower I've been messaging since end of September, he lives in an East Sussex town, has 5 year old DD and sometimes comes to work for London. Get on v well almost too well via whatsapp. I'm sort of wondering if I want excitement which not sure he'd have to offer. Not sure how far he'd want it to go as he was with his widow for 15 years. He seems very keen to move on and she died this time last year.

lastnickname sounds interesting re the copper and what he wants, however I know a policewoman as a friend and she warns me off them for relationships....

motheroreilly hope your date goes well and hi to everyone else.

Ps what is a moose burger??!!

Shagging

Myuser to Mr Big Knob and shagging

Last good luck with the copper, they are a funny bunch. My STBXH is one and turns out shagging colleagues ten years younger is what they do - pressure of the job apparently that no-one else understands. But let's not tar them all with the same brush

Forme I've just been warned off that most coppers tend to have affairs etc

Having said that I briefly dated one years ago nice enough man!

I am so glad someone explained moose burgers a few posts back - it's utterly bewildering without the context! Laughed about Mr Not So Shy. :)

TessMcNess So sorry to hear of your experience, that sounds fairly traumatic. I don't know why, but my wobbly bits bother me more than my face. Possibly because I feel very confident that everyone has a stupid sex face whereas not everyone is as wobbly.

I keep telling myself that confidence is more attractive than a flawless body and to just pretend mine is perfect the way it is. Easier said than done though.

Just got my hair cut and it looks fabulous. Hairdresser sent me away with some product to use myself tomorrow. If nothing else, dating may make me less of a lazy scruffy slob and that can only be a good thing... ;p

I don't have a model figure and no one has ever made me feel crappy about it except myself!

Fake tan is also your friend

Policemen come in all types just like nurses, doctors - have met some right pschyo dr's over the years, I do wonder if the job attracts a certain type though.

What about Army boys ? I find them quite alpha male, not that I mind that too much but depends if they can keep it in heir pants, not live like there's no tomorrow and are domineering in the bedroom then make you a cuppa

Myuser fake tan is your friend

... and makeup and hair cuts, anything that gives a boost of confidence.

Oh god all the stories about dating coppers!
This one is very alpha male which I like, also fit and tall but his self control shows in every are which can be a bit on the boring side. He doesn't eat sugar and is very restricted in his healthy lifestyle. No late nights or booze!
He's in armed surveillance though so always on duty...meh

I definately don't think he's the affair type though he's quite hesitant on sex because he got cheated on.
When we met he told me he likes to get to know someone first and has a 5 date rule which is definitely different from a guy but I enjoyed it for a change. But we had 6 dates and still no mooseburgers so I think that's part of my curiosity in going back

Thank you for your reassuring messages everyone; I hadn't thought of it like that before Lilac and you may have a point there.

I'm in the SW too, surely we can arrange something - what an amazing group of wingmen we'd be!

Friends in LTRs just don't get it do they? One of my friends suggested I go to more dinner parties and then promptly flagged down our doctor in Sainsburys and asked if he had any single friends because 'Tess isn't getting any younger.'

Roll on the exacerbated awkwardness of the next smear test.

Friends in LTR don't get it at all!

I don't know what happened to me a little while ago but I was washing up and saw my lovely flowers and got all overwhelmed at how special he makes me feel and I burst into tears

I sent him a text (not crying) thanking him for making me feel really special as I don't know how else to show it!

I enjoyed my date. But I don't know if I'd see him again.

I'm worried I'm too picky. This is my fifth date and there was only one I would've liked to see again.

Am I sabotaging myself?

I think it's better to be fussy, I spent 13 years with a man I thought would "do", really really wish I hadn't

Well the coffee "non date" with copper was bloody awful..
It lasted 20 minutes, we argued and I left in tears.
I shouldn't have gone backwards, we broke up for a reason!

Next!!!

Another one to add to the rules then. No 2nd chances !!