I'd missed that your ds was only 4 2012. Yes, too young to toddle out the door on their own, especially if they're reluctant. If we were really nasty women we'd video our dc celebrating not going to their dads. But we haven't been broken by them so we don't - bet they would.
Greencar - pleased to see that some of the mindfulness related stuff has been helpful. I don't have the time or frame of mind for meditation. But there are other ways to meditate, such as walking meditation, or just really concentrating on a very specific task, like making something. I've always liked this description:
"The purpose of meditation is to take full possession of our experience of the heart's unutterable intervention in the world. It helps us to inhabit the real world instead of semi-consciously inhabiting our own world inside the "outside" world and muddling up the two. It is only in the full presence of the inner world that the outer world can be fully present to us."
Just typing that made my brain hurt a bit !
Alternatively we could just ask Lilac to give us a few highlights of her on line dating/flirting tonight?! Never done OLD myself. A friend told me she quite enjoyed it until every other man felt compelled to send her a shot of his wedding tackle! Is that really what happens?