Until I have a Child Arrangement Order in place I don't think there is anything else I can do, is there?
Not a great deal... I'd consider telling him "NO" for a day when it doesn't suit for him to have DS, and then seeing if he turns up at the school regardless - If he does then you can leave without a fuss but then you can demonstrate his behaviour is unreasonable and disruptive to the little one.
I do not have a solicitor, I saw a women's aid one. He advised me to go to Court. I am doing so. I actually don't see any point in wasting time and money on solicitor letters suggesting what he should do. I tried that with the divorce, he knows such letters are no legally binding and thus non-enforceable. It just delays everything else. Even a CAO is not legally binding. He will have to breach it and then I go back to court to attach a penal notice to any further breach.
Good move. You're clearly smart enough to do this without a solicitor! It really would be a waste of money.
I have a feeling of dread over him going to ex Tues and Wed. I feel after 4 nights here we're back on an even keel at last.
Clearly stability would be better for everybody!
I have a large family and they are staring to put Xmas plans in place. I don't have the courage to broach the subject with him.
I'd suggest grasping the nettle and asking, because if you do then you may be able to get christmas/birthday arrangements sorted via the CAO.
Called mediators. They have not heard a thing from ex. The letter he was sent was dated 20th Oct and he had a week to respond, so I have been more than flexible (allowed for post and w/e).
So, they're arranging to get C100 form signed and sent to me within next couple of days. I pretty much knew this would happen, but I feel very, very sad and now have to face up to the task ahead.
A shame he won't engage, but it wont help his case. Crack on with the C100, and give us a shout if you need any pointers on what to write! Sooner this is sorted the better.