Hi ladies I've been following for a long time now, I was on several threads back (not a regular poster but I got lots of fab advice) and I just wanted to tell you my story to give you all a little bit of hope that these bloody sites can sometimes work!
I had been single for five years (five years!!!) and not a single sniff of a guy even glancing at me in real life. I did the whole 'it must be me, there must be something wrong with me' shebang but eventually decided to chase romance and get online dating.
I experienced everything you guys are going through, rude messages, people ghosting, cancelling dates, everything! I met a guy a few times and he ghosted me after I delivered the moose burgers after a few dates and I was thoroughly pissed off and demoralised. I deleted pof and decided to develop a new attitude. I registered on tinder after some good advice on here about guys only being able to message after they had matched with you and decided to treat it as a pen pal situation. I was bored in the evenings and I thought if nothing else it was someone to chat to during my lonely evenings when dc was in bed...
I didn't have a lot of matches on tinder but got talking to mr computer who worked away and I thought 'well...it's someone to chat to, he can be my pen pal'
It transpired that I was the only match that bothered speaking to him and we have been dating ever since. He is thoroughly wonderful and I honestly, honestly never thought I'd find anyone like him. A few months down the line he has met dc and they get on like a house on fire and we are going on our first holiday together on Friday!!
I hope this (very long!) post gives you all hope that there are decent guys out there, and I hope you don't think I'm rubbing it in or anything.although I had to go through crap situations it was worth it in the end. I know you'll all get there too!