Trying to find our soul-mate. It's dating thread 108

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1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP

Hi 😄 I don't contribute here much but I do read quite often. Wanted to share a tale...

Met a guy on tinder a couple of months ago, we met in person about three weeks ago, have had three dates (and lots of snogging but no more). Yesterday he sent me a photo of a woman in a coffee shop that he had taken surreptitiously which would have been bad enough but he gave it the tag 'just my type' 😮 Why would he do that? THEN when I said I don't appear to be his type because she was nothing like me at all he said something so disgusting and shocking I was absolutely stunned. He said, god I can hardly even type this 'as long as it performs and has a hole' FFS! So he basically told me I was a performing hole, or would be if I slept with him.

What the fuck is wrong with some people?!! He seemed relatively normal too 🙄

Jesus that is both disgusting and quite chilling. I really really would not see this guy again. Misogyny at its worst. And the fact that he felt confident enough to send that to you? WTF is wrong with some men?😱

Someone who messaged me put on his profile he was looking for a 'hot bitch'. I said I wasn't interested in someone who would describe a woman like that. He immediately messaged me back to say he wouldn't be interested in someone who got offended by that.( but not in such a polite way ). I blocked him straightaway. Shouldn't have even bothered to reply in the first place!

Onlyme WTAF?? Please do not see this guy again. What an arsehole (no pun intended), absolutely disgusting. You must have been so taken aback. Are you ok?

If I could have a superpower I'd like to be able to recognise the misogynists and ones just after sex instantly, it's the covert ones (fake feminists) that get me everytime.

I'd then round them all up for the sake of womankind and place them on their own separate island with an ongoing supply of fleshlights.

Hahaha this thread makes me laugh

Hello, can I join you all please? My 20 year relationship/marriage broke down earlier this year and I feel like it's time to get back out there (terrified!).
I've joined Match and am mostly finding it good fun, but not necessarily for the right reasons There are two guys I'm actively chatting to at the moment. With one it's very chatty, full of banter and flirting, but I worry he's probably a bit of a 'player'? Not who I'd have pictured going for, but he does look good fun/filthy
The other guy and I have been messaging for about a week - more of a slow burn/getting to know each other. I think he's very attractive and lovely and tall (ex was shorter than me) He's chatted a bit shout his kids and our messages have been getting longer and more frequent. Well he's asked to meet me, tomorrow evening!!! I'm absolutely nervous as hell, but have said yes. God I feel 19 again, lol!
Any words of advice, please? Will let people know where I am, times etc.

Of course I'm not going to see him again he basically called me a performing hole! I'm fine, I was furious yesterday but I've largely got it out of my system now 😉

Funnily enough I suggested to him that he got himself a fleshlight.

tsonly

Excellent work there in suggesting a flesh light

quarter I did speed dating in London earlier this year and the quality of men was pretty poor! Most seemed to have just arrived in the country and were looking for tour guides

I did meet some lovely women though...

tsonlyme that's disgusting
I have a tinder question, although my age range & proximity is quite wide (I think?) it often says there is nobody near me - so does it only show you so many per day or is there just nobody on there? Tried bumble & there wasn't a single one!!!!

I did speed dating in London once. It was pretty grim TBH. Firstly you weren't allowed at attend an event with men your own age only older. Secondly the men who were there were mainly sad bitter divorced men who seemed depressed and didn't really have much to offer. Think I was around 43 then, it's probably better if you are younger I guess?

I also wish there was a way of finding out who the misogynistic twats are early on...

What's a flesh light btw?

< scared to google it > 😱

Googled it for you, Destiny

www.lovehoney.co.uk/sex-toys/male-sex-toys/fleshlights/

Ha!

Good grief!

Think maybe for some guys they would prefer that to an actual flesh and blood woman.

I was a bit shocked when I googled it too. Takes quite a lot to shock me as well. And I agree, Destiny.
I'm waiting for my friend to arrive, & drinking quite a generous glass of wine & taking the bull by the horns (well, messaging a few half decent looking blokes) because I need to know if they're all crazy cats before I jump ship.....

Just realised its Saturday night! They're all out on the lash aren't they? Or on hot dates! Oh no.

Just realised its Saturday night! They're all out on the lash aren't they? Or on hot dates! Oh no.

Ha Destiny I was 43 when I went speed dating! They weren't all older but I wouldn't go back - even my experiences with OLD have been better I think, crap as they are.

And good luck for tomorrow mrsfluff - just read the rules on page 1 to get your head in the right place for it

Thank you London I've read the rules and can confirm that there will be no moose burgers on offer (however frustrated I am) I'm sure this was all so much easier when I was 19!?!?

Oh, it's a no to speed-dating then! I suppose it seems a bit too much effort when there is a catalogue of women literally at their fingertips...

We need to collectively go on strike and leave OLD in droves. Then what would they do...?

I see I need to give this guy a name so you know who he is hmmmm carguy seems good. We both have crazy jobs me on call, him travelling a lot. But it looks like we can meet on Friday. Details yet to be sorted. It appears he has been burned by OLD and is also a widower. There I thought I would be the fragile one.

Mrs Good luck, where are you going to go?

The fleshlight is a new one on me!!