Trying to find our soul-mate. It's dating thread 108

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1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP

Banty - I hope MrSexyVoice gives things a chance!

Louisa did you see my update? Mine was the same but it was because he is being respectful and wasn't sure of the right moment. It's ok we have really snogged now haha.
Keep going I am sure it will happen!

A little update, Mr Beard has replied & would like to meet again

Thanks for the suggestion Myuser.... I know that's the only option I have, I'm so nervous about asking that... not sure I've ever asked anyone out face to face before! Yes he is definitely single, he told me! (No I didn't ask, wasn't brave enough!) thanks for your replies everyone. I'm going to sit and read through this thread later and see some of your experiences!

At this rate we will probably sleep together by nye ha ha
I really shouldn't complain because I've been saying I want a respectful man.

I actually find the slow burn a much bigger turn on! Don't knock it!

Well it appears that both Mr Gosport and Mr Tall are keen to meet me - eek!! I'm not sure which I'm more worried about - liking them both, or not liking either!?!

Kitten sorry I didn't reply to your question, I'm not sure how I feel about a long-distance relationship when there's no prospect of spending real time together on the cards.

My controlling, cheating ex left me 9 months ago so I easily doubt relationships!

How exciting Mrsfluff any ideas where you are going to go for a date?
"Mr Geordie" is taking me to see the illuminations and bowling ..I feel 14 again and kind of like it haha
Lilac- after a horrible cheating lying ex myself I get how you feel,I wasted 6 years and I don't think he ever liked me,it's hard to trust again

Louisa, no, not yet. Mr Gosport is hoping to be this way next week with work, so hopefully dinner with him. No firm plans with Mr Tall, but he sounds like he works a lot! So I've said to let me know when he'll be free and we'll go for a drink.

Your date with Mr Geordie sounds fab, fingers crossed for you! I so know what you mean about feeling like a teenager - its brilliant

I'm meeting Mr Tall on Friday evening, for a drink!! He seems lovely and not quite as shy as I'd first thought. Not inappropriate or anything, but a little bit flirty

I'm very excited for you myusername ... I told you to stick with him didn't I? I better bloody get an invite to the wedding

So ... Toyboy - we're still talking every day, not as much though. He's less clingy which is better. Makes some strange comments now and again. Seeing him again Weds I think ... 4th date

BUT I am also OLD again, just Tinder though. I have currently 30 matches - do men just swipe right for everyone? 30 matches and about 4 messages though. Am I expected to message first every single time? Why won't men just be brave and message ... or are they in this just for the matches? So confusing

Hi. Have been meaning to join you guys for a while so I can exchange tales of woe and (hopefully, eventually, one day, though it seems doubtful) joy with fellow travellers in the online dating world. Just joined match affinity and bloody PAID in the hope that it would deliver some new blood and mean that I could stop wading through the dross of polyamorous wannabes and unashamedly married men on okCupid but it is absolutely shit! There's no one on there at all. They sent me a perfect match email with a blurry photo I can't even see. Apparently the first step is to message blurry photo man and ask for the privilege of seeing his photo. Dream on blurry face. Sob .[cancels subscription]

In the meantime I have a date on Wednesday with someone from okC whose 2nd picture showed his nose next to a lightswitch... This proved a conversation starter as he thought I was a horrible troll when I messaged him to say I was practising morse code in order to communicate with him. I think he might be too sensitive for me...

Oooooh how exciting Mrsfluff

Loobyloo- when I was on tinder I found the same not many bothered to speak

Do you think a skirt will be ok for tonight? We will be outside but want to feel good..it's a denim skirt

I don't think you can go wrong with a nice denim skirt. What will you wear on your legs? Boots/tights? Stockings (oo err missus)?

Thinking black tights and ankle boots and I've got a nice cream coat to wear over the top as its chilly now on a night

Sounds lovely.:) Classic.

I wish I could wear cream. Makes me look washed out plus I am clumsy and would spill something on it immediately! Talking of which, perhaps stick to champagne in case of spillage!

Do the ankle boots have a heel? I'm concerned re heels and bowling! Though a chunky heel might be ok...

No they are flat ..I'm terrible in heels..well actually terrible in flats too ha ha
I'm so clumsy too..I'm thinking if I get a hot dog it will be minus the ketchup.

Hi sumo, I joined Match hoping that by paying it would cut out the weirdos. I've still had them though!! I hope your date goes well - it's not easy if they don't get your humour (I'd judge them on that ).

Thanks Louisa, I'm rather excited myself!! Your outfit sounds great. I love that you're not great in heels....... or flats

Step away from the ketchup in those dangerous flats, Louisa!

ikwym, mrsfluff. I judged him but as he sounded genuinely distressed at my first message sent another to say i hadn't meant to make him cry but just to capture him with my scintillating sarcastic wit, whereupon he got all interested and sent a lot of messages, some of which were quite funny. So thought i'd give him a chance but am in 2 minds to be honest! He went from offended to seemingly interested rather too quickly. So hard to tell when things are normal rough and tumble and what's total no hope territory... Still, feel like there's nothing much to lose in meeting him. I won't go so far as to wear a lovely denim skirt though! And he's neither a Geordie or from Gosport so that's bad too.

Lol sumo! Yes, nothing to lose by checking him out and it's all good experience isn't it.

Mr Shy is getting less shy - just locked down another date with me for the weekend and it's going to be a really fun (sober) one too.
I'm so excited I can't wait to see him

Great news myuser so glad you stuck with him

Mrs fluff - sounds promising!

Louisa - hope tonight went well and there were no ketchup disasters and was lots of kissing

Sumo when I had my first couple of dates (I'm an old timer now, been on at least 4 ) I decided that if their messages were friendly and funny enough I would meet them, based on the law of probability there had to be a spark with one of them! Well, no there wasn't with the first two. The third one Mr Hurt was nice and we had arranged to meet again on Saturday but he was let down by the babysitter and had to cancel. BUT stick with it..

This led to number 4 - I was calling him Mr Millions but now he is Mr Interesting - met him for a drink on thursday and had a really good chat but wasn't sure there was an attraction. There was enough of an attraction for me to invite him for a walk on Saturday (after 2 hours on the phone friday night) and the attraction was definitely stronger - he just knows so much STUFF and can talk about it all really easily. So....after Mr Hurt cancelling I invited Mr Interesting round - turns out he lives literally 3 mins walk away - and by the end of the evening the attraction was definitely there .

No mooseburgers but there definitely could have been, I wasn't sure as haven't slept with anyone other than my STBXH since I was 18 (bar one utterly mind-blowing but ridiculously head-fuckering Mr No Strings). Anyway - Mr Interesting was the perfect gent and we had a lovely evening. I texted him when he got home to thank him for being respectful and he sent the most beautiful message - I keep re-reading it

Reserve me a place in OI corner ladies....it's not easy this game is it?

Lots of fabulous promising men being identified on this thread! Hope Misters Shy, Geordie, Interesting and Tall all carry on being lovely.

I have established that Mr Cheese likes halloumi tonight. He has not yet replied to my amazing message gorgonzola though it is quite late to be fair. Perhaps a mutual love of cheese will lead to greater things such as a date at a dairy farm or a visit to the philadelphia cheese factory. Perhaps he will have a dog called Grommit. The possibilitiesare endless. And there is also my date with MrLightswitch to look forward to...

Had a good night last night.
We did kiss at the end of the night ..still no full on snogging tho.
Think that's more to do with feeling nervous and should I/shouldn't I.
Arranged Friday or Sunday to go for drinks then come to mine after to get to know each other in private ..not sure what might happen.
I think he was making a move for a kiss but I was freezing and wanted to get warm.