I'm a bit of a fan of MyUserName's messaging too! wink
Most of my OLD contacts have succumbed to the dick pics and dirty talk so very quickly. Indeed, nothing shocks me although I'm willing to venture into the world of stats by saying that the younger ones are much more docile and the older ones become more agressive when I dare tell them they've overstepped the mark.
I'd love some advice from you, please; I'm definitely sitting in the OI corner and I'm struggling a little.
I've been going to a bar in the city centre where I live for a number of months now; the barmen have always been so lovely with me and there's one particular one whom I've fancied from afar for a while (he's younger wink ).
A fortnight ago one of them got married in Normandy (three hours away from where I live) and I was invited to the wedding which I went to with two other friends. Anyway, the night of the wedding the barman I've had my eye on confesses that he'd been looking forward to coming to the wedding as he knew that I'd be there, that he had feelings for me and had been happy at the thought of us getting to know each other. I was touched and surprised because somehow my sixth sense had told me that there was something between us. The conversation which ensued, cut short, because my friends needed to drive me to the B&B at 3am, was wonderful. He genuinely seemed to care about getting to know me and we talked about all sorts. He always remains very respectful towards me.
The next day we saw each other again; my friends said that he spent the majority of the lunch trying to catch my eye and was lurking with intent. We talked again but the conversation was less free-flowing as we were exhausted (hung over) and our friends were winking and around us iyswim!
A week later I return to the bar with a friend and we sat outside with dozens of others. My barman, who always stays behind the bar, came out once only and that was to serve my drinks and he was all shy. The next day he sends me a friend request on Facebook. I wrote him a message telling him I'd like to talk with him again one day if he agreed. He immediately wrote back 'I'd be delighted. We can have a drink together next week,' and then he wrote 'I'll let you know''.
So, next week has come and I still have no reply from him. Granted, I saw on FB he moved flats yesterday (he'd told me about it at the wedding) so I guess he's been very busy with moving and work.
My question to you is this: what would you do in my shoes? Would you switch off and stop hoping (as much as possible) that he'd contact you or just stay calm and trust that if it's meant to be he'll get off his arse and send that message? And would any of you write a message on FB congratulating him on his new apartment?
Sorry, if I seem completely pathetic and ridiculous.