Trying to find our soul-mate. It's dating thread 108

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1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP

Thanks Labrador It certainly avoids the Hi, how are you messages - I'm quite witty, even if I do say so myself

Oh mother I hear you. And I totally think that having cake and eating it sounds fair. You are the prize. You choose.
garlic damn that oxytocin. Even being forewarned doesn't seem to help.
evil I'm a total rabbit virgin. I'm thinking I need to get one.

So, I am on match.com adding photos, eeek. I have no idea what to write for the little profile box though. I am trying to do this before I feel week and change my mind

Has anyone any suggestions as to how to write it?

are they bad, the hi how are you message? I'm only on POF, and it sends those out for me...

Am currently having a fun and silly messsage exchange with a youngster.

Mrs Fluff - you will have to give me tips on being witty.... but your failure to committ to a date man would drive me potty! If he's that annoying when messaging, surely he's not worth a date...?

Baklava, I just find those messages difficult to respond to, as they don't help to spark off the conversation. Failure to commit guy won't be hearing from me again - he was lovely, flirty and funny, but I do actually want to me someone, in person!

Enjoy your chat with the youngster I've had a nice evening chatting with my local chap, he seems very nice and has a sense of humour!!

And also - if men call you beautiful within the first 10 messages, is it a sign of a good flag filter that I think 'fuck off you slimy wanker' - or a sign that I have self-esteem issues?

(not the youngster - he's much more fun than that :)

Thanks Mrs Fluff - I'll take that on board

Hmm, that's difficult - whilst I hope a man would find me attractive, I'm not beautiful!

Your youngster sounds good - I've been winked at by an absolute fitty tonight, only 32 - but he's 4 inches shorter than me 😂

Good work. You can do that thing in a bar where you rest your pint on his head - sounds ideal

Ooh, I hadn't thought of that and he really is stonkingly hot

Well we've been chatting steadily since about 4.30pm and it looks like we're making plans to meet! He seems lovely and has a good sense of humour and is tall!! Oh God, this might actually happen

Your short man is tall? That is very exciting! what will you do on your date?

(as in coffee, lunch or dinner! Not graphic details )

Just had to re-read the rules to remind me. When they disappear after chatting for a while I always think its me & I'm not good enough. Bloody hell this is so hard. Just got 'super liked' by a 62 year old on tinder

Morning all

Date No 2 with the RL Toyboy last night

He's so lovely ... and funny ... and mature(ish) ... but I don't know if I properly fancy him? I don't know what to do. He's more keen than me. No games. At all Do I stick with it? My type clearly wasn't right anyway ...

Morning everyone

Stick with it Looby. As long as you're enjoying it. I think you do have to fancy them though.... Weirdly, my one, I liked him after 1st date. I was curious about him. 2nd date, it took everything I had to not go home with him. Third date..... was spectacular.

OLD really is such a mixed bag... I've hidden my profile on POF now since things are going rather well with Young Fella... Planning a weekend away together atm, and I'm really looking forward to seeing him at the weekend. I can't seem to manage more than one man at once, and besides, he's not seeing anyone else. He didn't see anyone after I ended things in the summer which is more than I can say.

Not been on here for AAGGEESS...

had a few Tinder dates over spring/summer - nothing wrong with them but didn't ask them for much info about themselves eg height (!), hobbies etc.

Now have 2 irons both Tinder.

No. 1 it appears to be going well with, chatting for past week - widower of 44 with daughter lives Surrey, seems really nice - will call him Checked Shirt.

No.2 - Italian/German - have been messaging on Tinder and Whatsapp now meeting on Sunday for lunch and a walk.

He is a consultant for his own business (I think) - Italian - 45 or 44 lives in London, looks German/Austrian - very chatty, seems to think he's funny.

Both are really nice.

I have another story which is weird but will type in out later. I'll probably get told "what were you thinking?" but makes sense now!

Hope everyone else is doing well.

aint - Match or other profiles usually say to keep it light but not serious.

this link is something I'd agree with also looking social - my most recent pics have been:-

with 2 friends in Florence
at a fancy dress party in Elvira costume
and a normal pic where I'm smiling

my old OLD dating ones have been me in countryside
me on sofa with glass of wine (social party) etc

uk.match.com/pages/advice/dating-advice/online-dating-advice/step-3-top-tips-writing-your-online-dating-profile?v=1&utm_expid=55691082-26.2FRPL99mQQSYji263MMcKw.1&utm_referrer=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.google.co.uk%2F

It turns out that the guy who was going to pop up on the train, can't because of his nieces birthday.
So do I give him a second chance?

I still nothing concrete.

Mrs fluff- :)

Lol Baklava, they're w different people, in my excitement 5I really wasn't clear 😂

We'll Mr Nice (tall one) is still seeming keen, lots of messages. Still very funny and very nice! So, we're planning to speak on the phone later and I'm thinking well make plans then.
Thanks Evil

Sounds good Super

I am still enjoying silly conversations with my youngster - and not enjoying my messages from somene who is interesting apart from every 1 in 10 messages is borderline sleazy.... I must learn to block more effectively, mustn't I!

Any news on Mr Nice'n'Tall mrsfluff?

I'm not sure about the second chance evil - do you want to...?

Glad things are going well Gansey - waves at Loo and Hue (the rhyming twins )

Baklava- honestly he's the only one that wants to meet me. Honestly I'm quite lonely.

Give him a chance Evil. Why not? If he fails again, move on.

Baklava, we've been messaging all evening, whilst I've been out. I'm gonna ring him in a minute
Waddle it does seem to be texting and Whatsapp, rather than actually speaking. On one hand its good, but I think the longer it goes on, the harder it is to get to the actual speaking stage.

Good luck on the actual conversation MrsFluff

==> Totally nonchalent question - what happens when you discover that you work with someone that you've been indulging in silly flirting with online?

Hi everyone, can I join in please? Was on a thread in the 90s, met someone but needless to say it didn't work out so 9 months later I'm back again.

Registered with POF this evening and disillusioned already . One guy I went on a couple of dates has already tracked me down, messaged and What's apps me, messages from people I just don't fancy, and I've seen someone who I liked, but then ghosted has seen my profile but clearly doesn't want to give me another chance. Not that I can blame him.

Was all hopeful before I registered again, now just a little meh about it all.

Looking forward to the journey with you all though x