Trying to find our soul-mate. It's dating thread 108

[PrizeyPrize]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP

Hey Evilwater

Welcome ... OLD = Online Dating

Get yourself out there again, but protect your heart. have you read the rules on the Original Post? They're very helpful

Why do people message with 'Hi Mrsfluff'?!? Where do you go with that!?! Why not a ' We've looked at each other profiles and I thought I'd brave getting on touch' or 'you look fun and we have X in common.........'. Just give me somewhere to go with the conversation!

Wow lots of dates been happening!! No dates for me but been messaging a lovely guy on tinder. Seem to get on, have loads in common & he's only 4 years younger than me! BUT he's not making a move to meet so should I do the asking?

The lovely guy I was chatting to has seemingly gone AWOL - bit gutted as we had lots in common. Got chatting on Saturday night to someone who tried to invite himself over (knowing I was home alone) at gone 11pm - that's not normal behaviour is it? Or have been out if the dating game too long??

I think it's normal behaviour for some blokes!

Ewww Welsh, he sounds like a real creep!

I'm in the same boat Hue and I'm rather gutted, I really quite liked him

My Hello chap from earlier seems nice though, quite a few messages going back and forth!!

And we already appear to be playing innuendo bingo - which is a record, even for my conversations!?!?

Haha Mrs fluff go you! So, would you be ok with asking him out?

Hue, in your shoes, I think I would! Maybe something along the lines of.......we seem to get on really well, are you ever going to ask me out for a drink!?!

To be fair, real life conversations with me seem to be strewn with innuendo, but I'm really not sure how its happening on Match

I've often had to give a 'you'd better get your finger out and ask me out on a date'. I don't know what they are waiting for sometimes.

Prizey maybe they're waiting for you to ask them! Nothing wrong with a "so what you up to this weekend? Fancy meeting for a hello in person?" I'm happy to do the asking.

Evening all, can I ask if everyone is just registered on one site, or more than one?
Do you tend to meet the same people on multiple sites?
Thanks

You are right Sick, sometimes I do that too.

Oh! Another dating wake up for me tonight. I've been out of the game for some time, and I realised tonight that my children are (young, but) beyond the age where I can keep dating strictly to myself. So they know I go on the -very occasional- night out, and sometimes even with a man. And my DD10 has even asked me if I might ever have a 'boyfriend' one day. And I've kept it simple, honest, and just enough to answer the questions -not that there's been too much to divulge-, but I realised tonight that actually what I'm looking for, eventually, is something I can integrate into my 'real life' as a mummy too. At some point. Maybe. One day.
Will catch up with all your exciting news once I've picked myself up off the floor

strikethrough fail

Ok, can I grab a bit of advice re: my disappearing hipster? We had several really long chats, lots in common, very funny, bit naughty. He vanished for a few days and popped back up explaining he'd hurt his wrist and was on really strong painkillers and struggling a bit, but was happy to chat for a bit. Then he vanished again.

I don't know if I've been 'ghosted' or if he's just genuinely distracted, I don't really want to write him off without one last shot at contact, so do I drop him a quick hi, and if do, what do I say? I was just gearing up to ask him on a date when he vanished

Like I said, I've been out of the game so long and I don't want to look desperate but by the same token he confessed to being a bit insecure and he doesn't seem like a twat, so what to dooooooo?

Ok, can I grab a bit of advice re: my disappearing hipster? We had several really long chats, lots in common, very funny, bit naughty. He vanished for a few days and popped back up explaining he'd hurt his wrist and was on really strong painkillers and struggling a bit, but was happy to chat for a bit. Then he vanished again.

I don't know if I've been 'ghosted' or if he's just genuinely distracted, I don't really want to write him off without one last shot at contact, so do I drop him a quick hi, and if do, what do I say? I was just gearing up to ask him on a date when he vanished

Like I said, I've been out of the game so long and I don't want to look desperate but by the same token he confessed to being a bit insecure and he doesn't seem like a twat, so what to dooooooo?

Ok, can I grab a bit of advice re: my disappearing hipster? We had several really long chats, lots in common, very funny, bit naughty. He vanished for a few days and popped back up explaining he'd hurt his wrist and was on really strong painkillers and struggling a bit, but was happy to chat for a bit. Then he vanished again.

I don't know if I've been 'ghosted' or if he's just genuinely distracted, I don't really want to write him off without one last shot at contact, so do I drop him a quick hi, and if do, what do I say? I was just gearing up to ask him on a date when he vanished

Like I said, I've been out of the game so long and I don't want to look desperate but by the same token he confessed to being a bit insecure and he doesn't seem like a twat, so what to dooooooo?

Christ, sorry!

welsh I'm a bit rubbish at this. But I tend to think of it in terms of a game of tennis. So you go, then they go, then you go again. If it goes quiet and I really like him, I might send one more parting shot, just "hope you're ok, I was enjoying our chat" and then I think you're supposed to get swiping again for new irons...

I think I always initiate the first meeting talk too. Not sure what that says about me, but I'm mindful of trying to remember that I'm supposed to chose them rather than the other way around

Well I took the plunge & asked him & he's disappeared

Hue

How long ago did you text him? Have you met up with him? sorry if I've missed that part

Hi everyone, I'm catching up with what's been going on!!

If someone is taking to long to ask me out, I always prompt then and I'm very much of the one strike and you're out rule but that's only my experience, if you think sometimes got potential then go for it. If he doesn't reply, block and move on.

I was out on Saturday and met a guy in rl!! I was naughty and brought him back home with me. Which was lots of fun. I saw him Sunday and we went out yesterday. We've got plans to see each other later in the week and possibly one day at the weekend. He's older than me and seems nice and normal so here's hoping!!

Ooh a RL encounter, how exciting! So much better I sometimes think. So many less hoops to bloody jump through. Hope you had lots of fun...😀