Trying to find our soul-mate. It's dating thread 108

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1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP

Hmm Myusername, I think if he's irritating you, then you should listen to your feelings. He's unlikely to get less irritating with further messages.

Hi all
Sounds like some interesting dates have gone down over the weekend.
I'm chatting to a new'un on Ok Stupid. 49 long messages in he hasn't asked my name. Normal or red OLD flag?

Hello all ... new to OLD so a bit of a learning curve! Been on Tinder ... Started the weekend with 2 I was interested in, now think I have neither! So first one made me laugh went on a date got on great, had to kick us out of the pub, then he went a bit quiet, think he wanted a snog and didn't get one! Then started talking again after a couple of days, started flirty then realised didn't talk about anything else, so I'm thinking ditch?! 2nd one chatted to for past 2 weeks, really nice guy said we'd go on a date this week. All ok when we chatted on Fri night, he was moving house on Ssturday ... not heard a word! Thinking just busy moving, but it's driving me a bit nuts! He hasn't deleted me, what do you think? I'm normally a very sane person 😕

Hi Emma
Probably just busy moving! Wouldn't worry too much

Just had the most Neanderthal message I've received on OKCupid so far. It simply said, "tits"

Should I reply?

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I think I have worked out what was missing for me - laughter. While he was nice and good looking and all those things, I don't think I really had fun. And I do need some of that right now.

He also just had two soda waters because he has completely given up caffeine, alcohol and sugar, and is trying not to spend any money due to a career change, so I can't see that the fun would increase that much next time.

I have two dates planned next week and a couple others I am chatting to that might turn into dates, so we'll see where those go...

Haha Destiny I wouldn't!

I had 'hey you big nympho' the other day, which was charming. And a message from a woman on behalf of herself AND her PARTNER. Each to their own and all that...

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Fun is so important. If two soda waters guy isn't making you feel the fun, move on!
Destiny that's amazing. Oh my god there are no words.

Destiny that's really made me laugh!!
'Tits'

So when's the date destiny?

Destiny dear God. Ask him if it's an acronym for 'time I tried schooling'....what a dickhead!

A really really good looking guy has messaged me. I literally never get one of those. I find him too good looking to message back because he's way out of my league!

Other than that all the men are late 40-50's. I'm mid 30's.

Why is he way out of your league? He has messaged you cos he likes you! Message him

Edit: I re read his profile and basically he's living the playboy life style

The sober dating doesn't always do it for me either!

Tits message reply: how observant of you

Ok so now I feel an idiot ... Just message me ... No internet at his house, been moving boxes all weekend ... Chuffed that's he's messaged me, he seems lovely .. I'll call him mr geek as he's very clever!! I'll keep you all posted! 😉

He's very cute but he's into basically everything that sounds hipster and going out raving and doing spontaneous things.

This weekend I put up a shelf.

What is it with the recent trend of men giving the finger or v signs on photos? Do they think it is endearing??

So I have been messaging with a guy from OLD and today he messaged me that he is going to visit his nieces.
I replied with questions asking about his family, siblings etc.., and wrote about my family.
He took his profile picture off but didn't reply me.

What does it mean?

looby how did it go with younger guy. I hope everyone has a lovely date filled weekend

Roo

Sorrrryyyy, only just catching up with this thread. Aargh, busy weekend. It went really well He's very mature for someone so young. We didn't stop talking. Before the date had finished, he was asking to see me again He's so young. We're planning a second date this week though Meanwhile, was at a christening at the weekend, and somehow now talking to someone else. Who needs OLD

I'll try and catch up with the rest of this later. Hope everyone is having a good day

I'm having a lovely time with my young dude as well Looby
What's not to like??

Hello all. Youve been busy bees!

destiny i love the tits comment- wtf!! Why would anyone expect a reply?!

And looby- dont think about the age. Honestly, if it's fun, it's fun- go with it until it stops being so I reckon! I guess it depends what you are after because if you are looking for a relationship then it might just need a bit more thought but only in the same way that say a long distance thing would, it's just an isse that needs consideration. When is date 2 in the diary for?

I had a busy weekend- met mrvw in person for the first time which was lovely. We've chatted on and off for weeks but thought that we lived too far away for there to be anything in it but im glad we made the effort because we got on as well face to face as we did online/phone. Date 2 planned for this weekend and I'm cautiously optimistic- it's made me rethink what I want though as I wasn't after anything more than dating- but I think that could change for him. The only thing that was a tiny negative was that I think he would like someone much more present in his life, and the distance would make that impossible. I'm going to follow my own advice though and keep with it whilst it's still fun. Will need to have a think though as if I start to get more attached I don't know where to go with it. We'll see.

Plus I met an actual real life iron. In a bar, out with friends on Sat, and just got chatting. We got on great and he asked for my number- we talked last night and he seems lovely, lots in common and keen to get together again. But unsure how to proceed because of mrvw - it doesnt feel right to be cultivating something with him but at the same time rl irons are so few and far between! They are similar in that they are both single dads with full custody of their kids, self employed and stable. mrvw makes me laugh so so much though but the distance is definitely an issue. I wonder if I'm sabotaging that because I dont want to fall for someone so far away and risk getting hurt because it would ultimately end badly. A bit confused at the moment.

Good luck with weekday dating you lot- I dont have the opportunity for it as have the kids 24/7 until my every other weekend off. Slightly jealous of you all doing midweek dates! X

Haha UpYerGansey ... I'm inclined to agree

I'm going to go with it for now I guess ... it's only been one date. I'm not over invested so it's fine ... right?

Ooh yes gansey you have reminded me- bumped into my young guy (14yr gap) on sat night too- he is incredibly keen but I just dont think I can do it! Glad yours is working out well x

Sorry X Post

SicknSpan ... i'm playing it a little cool ... date 2 will be this week at some point though I think ... he's very persistent (and not in a creepy way)

Can I join please.
My BF left me last week after 6 months. The only reason we spilt was over children. I'm on tinder, badoo, and match.

I met one guy for a cuppa, It just didn't spark.
I'm speaking to one guy and he seems nice. We might meet Friday for a cuppa.

What is OLD?