Trying to find our soul-mate. It's dating thread 108

[PrizeyPrize]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP

Queen that Is a type of rejection

mrshy is still texting this time after a date.

Have a lovely weekend dating everyone

Ive had loads of one dates that went no further and I just forgot about them.
Either I rejected them if they called after the first date or I never heard from them when I wanted to. I wasnt bothered.

It gets to me when it happens after a few dates.

Evening everyone! I was on the thread back in May/June time met a guy on OKC who I was with 2 months but it didn't work out so I'm back swiping and having fun. I had 2 dates with other guy a few weeks ago, also from OKC but he turned out to be a bit of s sexist pig so moving swiftly on I have 2 irons who I've been chatting to this week, pretty keen on both from the little I know of them and have first dates lined up with both. First one, with local Bobby tomorrow night for drinks and the meeting my comedian Monday evening I think.. So age old question.... WHAT DO YOU GUYD WEAR on first dates?? 😏

I had lots of fun and a lovely snog too. Early finish as he has to be at work at 5am tomorrow. Going to see him again.

Hello all, I am newly single after 10 years but it was over for a long time so I feel ok. I have had a browse on a few sites to see what is out there but haven't put any profiles up yet, and am a little scared to be honest!

What sites are best? I have had a look at POF and went on to match tonight- I had to fill in some details (but didn't stick a photo up, I came out the thing at that point) but was able to browse some things. I was browsing a good looking bloke who must live in the same town and he must have known and looked back and winked. God, I feel out of my depth and need to get some photos taken where I don't look like shit
-feeling old-

Yeah for you lone

Welcome aint I'm on okcupid (okstupid) as it's commonly known on here.

Aint - if you try okcupid you can browse invisibly for free (you have to turn it on in the settings). The only catch is you can't see who views you either, but even without invisibility switched on you can only see the most recent 4 or 5 visitors without upgrading anyway - plus I don't really care about knowing who viewed me but didn't send a message! 😊

It is scary - I'm a week into my first OLD profile after my 12-year relationship ended a year ago. I have my first date today! 😬 Trying not to think about it too much because otherwise I will get anxious and cancel or something!

Morning everyone! How are we all, any dates tonight?
I have to share something with you because I'm feeling terrible about it. So got chatting with a guy last night who I seemed to have lots in common with, he gave me his phone number said he had a great feeling about me blah blah. So I did what any self respecting online dater does and looked at his facebook before disclosing my phone number and texting him. On his facebook profile picture, he was looking much rougher, fatter, much older and it showed him with 2 prosthetic legs, the kind that the paralympic runners use. My last relationship involved me being a carer to my registered disabled partner, who sadly passed away, so please don't think me shallow, but I can't help thinking that this is something that should be disclosed at the beginning and it put me right off him, like he was being sneaky about it. I sent him a message just saying I'd changed my mind but didn't go into reasons why and wished him luck. Just had to share that story because I was
I have a date this evening, MrBolt....he has been quite forthright and decisive (which I kind of like to a certain degree), choosing the place to go and even telling me not to wear heels because he wants to take me drinking along the riverside and wants me to be comfortable with walking. Now I'm thinking has he said that because he's short? Not holding out much hope for this one tbh, but we shall see.

Hi there
I am TOTALLY new to OLD...and need help please...
I divorced 2 years ago and have taken some time to rebuild myself & friendships after a truly gruesome end to my marriage. I'm 43 and feel totally out of this
I would love to join OLD as all my friends are in relationships & seemingly have no single friends, and work is no good for finding someone; I seriously have no idea where to start though, from how not to sound like a total moron to what user name to use.
Any/all advice gratefully received !(should I start a different thread for this??)

Morning all,

Mrlovely turned out to be mrnotsolovely. He has disappeared completely.

Onwards and upwards, still swiping.

I also joined match, first two nearby people were my neighbour opposite and my dd's pe teacher from primary school !

prizey

Yes, I agree he should have disclosed that very early on in the conversation.

hygg

Hello

Prizey I also agree he should have disclosed that!
I have a date tonight, first meeting with a man who is very local to me and a policeman. We're just meeting in the local pub for a drink. Hopefully it will go better than my Monday date who was exceptionally dull and it was the longest hour and a half on record!

I can't find either the guy I'm on a date with tonight or Monday on FB so pot luck really!

In a moment of madness I joined Match.com, and now regret it. Do any of you use it and recommend it? I remember someone on here cancelled and got a refund (they have a 14 day grace period) can you let me know how you did this/where to contact for refund?

Hi prizey I did the match thing a couple of weeks ago just sent an email to the address given on the site. Come to think of it I never checked to see if I got the refund..........

I was bored last night & reactivated my tinder account. So far any matches seem to be looking for a ons or fwb Only one with potential (based on looks Alone!) I messaged first & only get 1word answers back. This is annoying me already

I have another possible on tinder.

He has already shown me his work website and we have discussed lots of things.

He is up for meeting next week.
I won't hold my breath though

Please may I have some help?
I have joined OK Cupid and have had likes and messages, which is great,
BUT, what do you do if you don't want to reply to someone??
Eg I had a message from a 25 year old - I'm 43, I could, in theory be his mum!!
Do you just ignore these messages or is there a polite way of saying 'thanks but no thanks'.
I will get better at this....

I ignore them.
Especially the young ones.

thanks topknob , do you not get snarky messages if you don't reply?
do you just delete them?

I am totally new to this and literally don't have a clue!

One snarky message and they are blocked.

As I said yesterday on here, I am the prize. (I am trying to remember that)

This photo is a message I just got. I won't respond.

I am one week in Hygg and also felt worried about not replying to messages, but I have only had one guy send several messages chasing a reply. Most are used to not always getting a response I think - they know women tend to receive a lot more messages than men do and they'd rather you didn't waste their time by responding even though you're interested. That's what I have told myself anyway!

Thanks Quarter It's all a bit odd, isn't it?!

I am deleting the ones that I find a little off putting or young and hoping for the best! I hadn't thought about women getting more messages than men.
One guy has been chatting a lot with me and seems quite lovely, but I trust nobody at the moment!

It appears I have a lunchtime drink 'date' tomorrow.

He seems nice enough, lives locally to me. We are meeting at a pub just down the road. He has given me his work place and address already.

I have fb'd him and looks wise he isn't what I normally would go for, but I am willing to see how to goes. He does have tattoos and muscles though

Wooohooooo topknob have a great time!