Trying to find our soul-mate. It's dating thread 108

[PrizeyPrize]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP

Thank you all, I will suggest a time and place and see what his response and attitude is when he replies.

Life is busy, I think because mainly men do not have their children as much as women do they forget that we do not have as much free time as they do.

I replied with 'we appear to have nothing in common other than height and geography, neither of which are must haves for me' and he's gone immediately to slightly aggressive 'you don't know know anything about me,likes or dislikes, you must be psychic huh?' sigh mild aggression -so sexy eh?

There's really no point is responding to those sort of things, I'm afraid I just block. We're not obliged to reply to any messages we receive online harsh as that may seem especially as you've explained your reasons perfectly well.

Block!

MrShy seems to be of the unusual (too shy to kiss you) breed of getting the kids thing and not putting any pressure on me. We don't live near each other and he has his kids a lot so it's a bit like military planning - oh the romance

Hi all
Any tips on how to say (with wit & smiles) that maybe it's just not happening...
Messaging someone for weeks now! It was exciting/flirty/he was hilarious, now messages every 3 days, still haven't met, I'm getting bored. Meant to meet next week, he is now postponing & I'm going to get back on the dating site I think...
How can I say ' is this ON?' Without sounding like an intense crazy cat?

That is a hard one butmaybe it's just better to say 'hey, nice talking to you but I don't think this has legs with us. Good luck with dating have fun and take care!'

we appear to have nothing in common other than height and geography, neither of which are must haves for me

I'd probably get defensive if someone said that to me tbh ... but what do I know haha!

I just want people to be straight with me. Is that just me? If they think i'm ugly/fat/disinteresting/too short/too tall, i'd rather they just say. Then I can just block

So date with the Young One is tonight, hopefully. We're both really busy. It's a maybe from both of us. He said if easier we can do next week which is a good sign hey?

Morning all btw

myuser Mr Shy really needs to get a grip and just kiss you ... or maybe you can kiss him? Be brave

Thanks myusername
I'm back on Ok Stupid after a week off it did my head in but deep down I kind of missed it

Myusername
I had a Mr shy type bloke once
I just got a bit tipsy hammered and went in for the snog. It was all cool after that. He was great in bed in turned out

Ok, I have text mrfridaynight saying that yes I am always busy, I have to earn a living. I have suggested we meet up tomorrow morning.

Mrsurveyor has said we can meet whenever I want so I have asked when is good for him and I can check what I have booked in on that day.

Mrlovely exchanged numbers with me last night I would like to meet him asap as he is fit !
And so very nice.

tex

Getting shitfaced would work I think

We've never been drunk together but we talk about it as I usually keep him quite entertained if I am with my friends and he tells me I am mad/crazy/hilarious which I read as SHES TERRIFYING ME BUT I LIKE IT

As I skipped off yesterday I said 'let's get drunk next time!'

Then he sent me some texts saying he was in traffic

Then I sent him a funny meme from the internet but I hope it wasn't offensive and he hasn't replied yet.

If we got drunk I would become my alter ego self - Poundland Beyoncé

Haha
Poundshop Beyoncé!
I LOVE that
Right I'm gonna email this guy & just say au revoir.

Poundland Beyonce … bloody brilliant!

So back on ok stupid...
First message
'What brings a girl like you to a place like this?'
Arghhhhhhhhh!!!!!!

Girl

I am excited, mrlovely wants us to meet !

So date set with carguy tomorrow evening in nice pub. Very nervous I haven't dated in a very long time.
Texting has been an eye opener, but has made me a little sad as realise that some of the signs that ExH was a wrongun were there at that start. Carguy is clearly aware that to quote the thread 'I am the prize that he needs to win'. However, I know what to watch out for this time.
However, part of that is what is making me nervous what if I am a dreadful disappointment in real life. Don't think I'll sleep well tonight.

Don't let that eat you up that thought. Just go be your normal self. If it isn't right then it's just incompatiblity not you per se

I called Mr Shy out on being shy in a jokey way. He was surprised by that but then I changed it to 'reserved'
He text me back to say he's very loyal but takes some time to trust. I dunno what that means. I now think he is refusing to snog me on purpose as he wants to see what kind of woman I am? Is that mad to think that? Does he want some kind of saintly lady who waits 3 years to hold hands???

lonecat wow that's lovely. And myuser is right of course; dont forget it should be you choosing him if anything.
I'm wondering if the Mr I've set my sights on thinks I'm the prize... it's too easy to get carried away and forget the rules...
Blimey myuser I hope you find out soon...

Ive never used the rules and wonder what I do wrong. I wait to be chosen.

I don't think it's 1830 when you wait for someone to ask your dad for your hand in marriage it's 2016, there are no real rules.

I really think you could do with some help with your confidence and self esteem I am not sure you are in the most positive mind set for dating right now?

Lone you won't be a dreadful disappointment in real life!!

Since I posted earlier we have both confessed by text that we are both nervous. So I don't think I am meeting some who expecting moose burgers served up on the first date.

Lone he sounds great already

Just had a really bad day. Had some bad news the other day. I wasnt bothered about him but now I am again. Wondering why he doesnt / didnt like me etc.