NoCapes thread 2 - No cape necessary

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Can't believe we've filled up a whole thread
But I'm still not ready to be without you all yet ...

Just because he finishes work so late so he couldn't take them anywhere and he and the kids were saying just weekends is too long not to see each other - bloody traitors my kids ha
When we've broken up before he's always came round one night in the week so it just feels like what we should do, but maybe they'll all just have to deal with weekly visits

I don't know if we'll be able to talk rationally, it completely depends what kind of mood he's in
I guess we'll see

Hope you're ok Capes, if he does become irrational will you be able to get him out of the house? I see why he's round, my XH used to do the same, purely to see DS. He knew fine if he started any shite or tried it on he'd be roundly told to fuck right off.

glad hes seeing them u do need to set out a routine though just because hes not settled doesnt mean he can turn up when he wants because its convineient to him

Well that was easy
He genuinely doesn't seem bothered
We decided set days and times, he kissed the kids goodnight and he's gone!
Mentioned a little bit about us but he wasn't bothered in the slightest, laughing and joking about it and then said he was viewing a house as I'd clearly made up my mind
I don't know if I feel relieved or a bit gutted

Just catching up. Oooh I would be cross he's not more put out but maybe this is how shallow he is.

I think he's doing it to make you crumble. He's testing you and pushing you. He's hoping that you're going to think "oh god, he's given up, what have I done" and go begging for him to take you back.

I know it's shit, and we can offer you all the support and encouragement in the world, but at the end of the day, this is your life and you need to do what is right for you.

And again, it is perfectly right for you to be feeling all the emotions you are feeling. This man is the father of your children, and the man that you had planned to spend the rest of your life with. Personally I'd be worried if you weren't having wobble moments and "what ifs/is this right/what am I doing" moments.

Im sorry capes. He doesnt give a shit about anyone but himself and nothings changed at all. Bet he didnt even ask if youre ok.

Classic manipulation tactic, begging and bombarding you with "I miss you" hasn't worked, belittling you hasn't worked, he's moved on to "if I act like I don't care she'll be begging to have me back in a week". Twat. Of course he's bothered Capes, you're fucking awesome. He's just pulling yet another cunty trick to try and bully you.

yes its just a game i agree with aye

keep strong x

I knew you'd all say that, and that's probably what is be saying to myself if I were one of you too
But I'm not, and ooof it hurts!

Oh capes
I feel for you
I remember that
The rejection was fucking hard.
It was a - I don't want you - but I want you to want me. (Totally normal to feel like this)
But still hurts like fuck

Wish I could give you a real cuddle xx

I'm sorry you're hurting Capes, you've been through enough without him adding to it! I've never sent hugs on here before, but I'm sending you a massive squeezy one now. Xxx

Oh Jesus Capes and I thought he couldn't be more of a dickhead!

He is playing a game. He's also showing complete disrespect for everything you've done for him and for your relationship. He's acting more like a lodger who's been told he can't stay anymore. I'd be raging too! He simply cannot be fucked to put any effort in. A few texts didn't work so he's shrugging and going to let you do all the work by manipulating you into trying to win him back! He should be on his fucking knees with remorse and I still wouldn't suggest taking him back

Can we put all these guys on a desert island so they can be twats to each other instead of us??

and for you

Oh capes, that has to hurt. This is a real rejection. & in spite of you not wanting him, a shrug & a joke is a kick in the teeth.
But your ultimate goal is detachment
He begs, who cares? He gets angry, who cares? He moves on, who cares?
It will take time. (There is more that he will pull out of his hat.)
If he has his own house, he can see the kids there. So you will not be subjected to this fiasco of paying attention to the kids. You know it's temporary, it's for show, don't be conned again. He is trying a new tactic.

Think, learning curve. breath slowly, think what you life will be like in a years time...You will survive this.

I'm absolutely raging

We have just had a bit of a conversation and oh my god I am frustrated beyond belief

He basically just kept repeating that I know I've over reacted and I know I've made a huge mistake and that he doesn't even know whether he would consider coming back (no I didn't ask him to) because he'd be on edge now wondering if every time we argued whether he'd be kicked out again
And basically just made out like he's not kicking up a stink because he's waiting for me to admit I was wrong and ask him to come home
He said "yes I went to strip clubs a couple of times, yes I put my mates and poker before you but kicking me out is a bit extreme"

I just don't even have the words to express how ducking annoyed I am
He still thinks this is his decision and he's still in control And decides if and when this break up ends
NO!

Hes continuing to text me the same shit he was saying now, he 'just wants me to admit I made a mistake' - yeah you're right I did pal, I made a huge mistake ever letting your greasy little hands anywhere fucking near me

I've just text back - 'fuck the fuck off you insufferable cunt'
That really is all there is to say to him right now

X-post mix he changed tactics PDQ

That is the best text I've ever read! Fucking horrendacunting patronising thundercunt stay angry Capes, he deserves it. One of my personal favourites, nicked from here, is "off you fuck". Says it all really!

insufferable little Pillock,
He is so self important, he still thinks he can walk back in & continue the same bullshit. (I knew it was Poker )
excellent news that you are incandescent with rage!
Anger is good !

Go NoCapes!!!
. What a wankstain. Hopefully he does fuck the fuck off!!
At least he has the stupidity to remind you why you had the sense to walk away.

You've had a lucky escape from him.

Thank God he showed what an absolute tosspot he is asap, just when he had you on a wobble. I'm so sorry he's still trying to play you, wish I could say something useful but another little pom pom cheer for fuck the fuck off you insufferable cunt .

I was going to type 'don't fall for the game' earlier but I didn't want to upset you...and here we are with the dipshit giving you that spiel.

Glad you told him to fuck off.

Yes let's all call him lots of names
I don't think I've ever called anyone a cunt before, I tried prick and knobhead, but nothing else felt strong enough

On the plus it's definitely got me over my wobble
I actually did say to him earlier that his attitude today has just absolutely erased any little doubts I had about when I was doing the right thing
He really is just not a nice human

Whether* I was doing the right thing

I cant even type, I'm too annoyed!

He really is a bit thick isn't he. Remember this is him on his best behaviour trying to win you back! Glad you told him to fuck off.