He hasn't come home

[NoCapes]

"D"P goes out a lot, I've started threads on him before, I mean he literally goes out 4/5 times a week
And he goes out every single Saturday night
He always gets in early hours of the morning and he sleeps on the couch
There's been the odd 'emergency' where he comes in at 8/9am-ish (friend was in hospital after a fight etc)
He's come in twice with make up on his t-shirt

Last night he went out and I've just got up with the baby to discover he hasn't come home
His phone is switched off

Will you all give me a shake and tell me the absolute glaringly obvious?...

I will probably be here with a little later if you wish to be supervised...

You're right Feck - remember right at the beginning of the thread I said I didn't want to be one of those women who were grateful for any scraps of attention they were thrown?

The texts were just lots of I miss yous, I miss the kids, I'm lost without you all, I'm sorry I made you feel like shit sometimes but I never realised how strongly you felt, if you'd talk to me I can change l, never thought this would happen, don't wanna lose you, this is killing me ... la la la

However ... Patrick Swayze's hips are making me right now

Good God he is FULL OF SHIT. Didn't he miss the kids and you when he was out all those nights??

Wanker.

You deserve so much better than that piss-poor specimen.

evenin nocapes

he sounds pissed or desprate-he didnt know it was so bad

funny that u told him enough

anyway cheers to you an skye am also looking at the playlist

Think about it though...who are his texts about? Him! I miss you, I miss the kids, I, I, I.

Talk is cheap.

We don't judge others by their intentions, but by their actions.
He acts like he doesn't give a shit.

Words do not a decent person make.

I'm here too.
Maybe he "didn't realise" - he should have. Or maybe he did and he didn't care.
He's been completely disengaged.
Focus on you OP tonight kids will be back in full effect soon enough.

Gabs don't think he was pissed, he loses all grasp of the English language when he's pissed and these messages were all spelled and punctuated correctly, does sound desperate though
Probably because he's thinking of how he's going to fill his weekend without my house to slob around in

Yep Faith it's alllllways about him, he hasn't even asked how we are - his baby has been really ill and was given inhalers to breathe this week - and he has no idea!

Bill very wise words, I will have to remember them

X-post 42 he absolutely knew, if he couldn't see it then I told him enough times
Clearly just thinks I'm a bloody idiot

I wouldn't dream of infringing ChumpLady's Universal Bullshit Translator, but fortunately I've knocked up a bit of code for the Mumsnet Sarcast-o-gram.

I miss yous, I miss the kids, I'm lost without you all
Tough fucking noogies

I'm sorry I made you feel like shit sometimes
I totally meant it most of the time, though.

... but I never realised how strongly you felt
Because I am a fucking moron who has the emotional range of a plank.

... if you'd talk to me I can change ...
Because the first ninety bazillion times didn't do the trick, and that's all your fault, ya know.

... never thought this would happen ...
See above re fucking moron..

... Don't wanna lose you ...
Really?!? Are you that stupid? You have lost me. Deed is done, jerkface.

... this is killing me ...
So, die already, asshole.

true nocapes whereever he is hes prob not being waited on

he didn't even think about you, so he didn't think you are an idiot.
he simply ONLY thinks about himself.

Nocapes no sad at all for not blocking him.

I'll let you into a secret... I still haven't blocked my ex 9 months later. Cos you know what, I also get admittedly a sick kick knowing he's thinking about me. I NEVER reply. And I NEVER believe a word he says. But in that moment, it's like... Ok, I did matter to him.. Once... Then I allow that feeling and let it go.

And by the by the other reason I haven't blocked him is because of his mental health issues and I kinda want to know if he's in a bad way and likely to turn up shit faced trying to break in so not quite the same but the point is. I get it.

And he's the father of your kids. When things settle down you do need to coparent effectively. You just never ever have to get into emotional relationship talk with him ever again. There is no law that says you have to. And you can just shut down and blank anything that isn't about your kids and practical stuff. It is totally possible, I promise you!

Enjoy dirty dancing , the wine and the takeaway!

Probably because he's thinking of how he's going to fill his weekend without my house to slob around in

My heart skipped a beat when I read this. ^^
My House. MY HOUSE. MYYYYY HOOOUUUSSSE!!!! Not "our house" or "his home", etc. Did you even realise you'd typed that? Either way, brilliant! Well done, you.

Capes, the Swizzlesticks hips just keep on giving! Just focus on the Swayze....and how ruddy marvellously you are doing. Pom pom wave!

nicking noscapes and adding a bit :)

• I miss yous, I miss the kids, I'm lost without you all

me me me me me

• I'm sorry I made you feel like shit sometimes

Totally minimising. leaving you to miscarry on your own is not 'a shit sometimes', never mind the rest of it. Buggering off out 4 or 5 nights a week is making you feel shit most of the time.

• but I never realised how strongly you felt

But well - ya see it IS really YOUR fault for not making a big enough song and dance, so I'm not really to blame at all! it's actually your fault!

• if you'd talk to me I can change ...

Cos its totally your responsibility to make me a behave like a normal partner, obviously I cannot be doing it all by myself

• never thought this would happen ...

me me me me

• Don't wanna lose you ...

me me me me

• this is killing me ...

me me me mememememe

Nicking Funko's idea that should be :)

Preemptive I noticed the "my house" thing too... So proud

no I didn't even register the 'my house' I had half an eye on the telly

Ahem, Feck. Nicking whose idea...? >taps foot<

Ha

Feck you been on the too?

Pissed as a fart.

You are doing so well, and I'm sure you're giving a lot of people on here (who may not all be posting just reading) some inspiration and courage that they can do it too... I know you've helped me to at least start to think about it

You are wonderful

Apologies to Preemtive :)

Arghhh Preemptive even!