I think (having read ''Attached'' by Heller and Levine) that Mr Canceller is Fearful Avoidant in his attachment style. Listen to me, psychotherapist on €8.65 an hour 
I just need an office with a leather chair.
Not sure if you're familiar with the attachment styles (I started looking in to this after Bear, who is a dismissive avoidant but like all DAs would deny it). Anyway, Canceller unlike Bear does want a relationship and intimacy and would acknowledge that but he is very sensitive to rejection, real or perceived. I know he'll be agonising over the rolling around in bed comment. There is some sort of glue though, we keep going back to each other. I think he knows I get him.
He's very good company though when you're with him. I said something about my parents' intrusion and he was asking me if they smoked (no), drank (hardly) took exercise (yes, always walking) ate much meat (they eat like sparrows) and he says cheerfully "they'll live to be ninety, they'll still be letting themselves in to your house when they're ninety, to do your shopping for you. Your joints will ache at 75". I was laughing my head off. There's a click there, but then, he shakes your hand.
But I'm thinking very practically. I just can't fling optimism at another situation that is weighted against success, practically logistically etc..