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[314dPiper]

Here we go!


Let the wisdom commence
The universe is in our favour!

[314dPiper]

I got about three hours sleep last night and I went for a 10 k walk earlier.

I certainly hope that the universe will reflect love back to me. feeling a bit Pissed off that both H and MSG just went off me so quickly. I have to do something differently next time if there is a next time.


waving safe flight home!

[CiaoVerona]

I think you're being a bit harsh on yourself 314 I don't know either guy went off you, the last guy seemed to have mad his mind up, whom ever he was dating would see him weekly with very little in between, considering you wanted more it looks like you're better of without him.

Safe flight Waving

Ps; did you try the auto car yet 314

[CiaoVerona]

Ignore the typos.

[DrMorbius]

I can't understand why he's just reading and not answering I can help you there Waving. Reading your messages takes no energy. Responding means he has to engage and he doesn't want to do that. He doesn't want to waste the energy, also he doesn't want to get drawn into communication.

[ocelot7]

Hi lovely Moldies (& get thee hence haters - see one just turned up :( )

Back from loveliest festival, lovely son here for a few days & seeing CB after put son on train 6am (!!!) Saturday

Surprising myself re CB - we enjoy each others company, he is kind & communicates without prompting(!) but I'm still cautious about our prospects... M's legacy is to make me pretty fatalistic about relationships...

btw 314 I actually like TSs first album :)

[314dPiper]

wow, can't believe de hayterz showed up, even with the positive thread title! Some people are nuts! They chase after you to tell you you're not doing it right.

ciaoverona I feel now after my 10 k last night and my good night's sleep last night was that I ignored a few red flags. Like when he said he wouldn't let anybody meet his dc for a year and that he didn't want to meet mine either, I should have asked if he was 'cemented' in that, and then depending on his answer I should have backed away to reflect at that point. But he seemed really keen so I thought maybe we could work around it or something. He also cracked a joke about his daughter not allowing him to have a gf. I didn't laugh. I think I knew that wasn't a cute funny story from my perspective.


ocelot7 hope you had a good time! you seem to have been away a good while!

[314dPiper]

ps ciao, my friend is going to add me to the insurance of her car (an auto) so I'll get to try that on the 06/09 (waiting til all dc back at their various schools). I can't wait.

[314dPiper]

And I'm trying to switch to taking lessons in an auto.

[PrizeyPrize]

314 just clicked that you are taking driving lessons! Yay that is brilliant news.
starsky sounds amazing for you too! I can feel my guard going down and its scary but lovely too, especially as I notice his is too. I agree re sex...first date for us.
ocelot he sounds lovely!

[starskey80]

Lol prizey you bet me to it
Funny isn't it when it feels right it just feels right.
I just knew after we slept together that he'd be still as keen, and he was/is.
But agree, it is scary.

[DrMorbius]

Not a hater at all, in fact my olive branch was my answer to Waving, which I thought I was being helpful and may answer her posted question.

[starskey80]

I actually agree with what Drmorbius said.
He just doesn't want any communication at all with Waving because he's moved on.
It's harsh, and he's a dick, but the best thing for Waving is to except he has zero interest.
That sounds so harsh I know but I think you're doing brilliantly Waving but any communication with him pulls you back a few steps when you've come so far.
I'd write off the clothes and forget the loser.

[314dPiper]

id send the au pair round to show that she does want the clothes and that it wasn't an attempt to engage him.

but either way, he knows that you have left him alone for a month. hardly a big danger to him to be 'engaged' but yeh his prerogative to ignore the text. For all we know he could have read the text and already left the clothes with a neighbour.

[314dPiper]

Fair enough DrMorbius. This thread seems to repel and attract you!

Gloria Steinham said that if something really bothers you, you should look at that [in therapy]"

[314dPiper]

omg, thinking of neighbours reminds me, another accent been and gone.

Galway - rolled rrrrs, shsh instead of S etc.
North uv Englund
Espaneeesh

I need a break too but I need to leave it a while so that the neighbours don't judge, more

[PrizeyPrize]

Waving, he probably knows that any form of contact with each other will set you and the situation back so he maybe doing it for that reason, not necessarily to be nasty to you. Kind of cruel to be kind if that makes sense? NC is really the way forward IMO

[314dPiper]

omg,
just had a few whatsapps from MSG. ping ping ping ping. More communication than I had while we were 'together'.

He wanted to clarify a few things.

He's made me angry. It's all such self-justifying nonsense. why come back to me with it.

[314dPiper]

He claims that he realised we weren't on the same page when he was away (fair enough to that part) but this is the bit that makes me angry, part of the reason he realised that is because I didn't respond to his text. This would be the text I'd waited 9 days for. So apparently it was after he sent that text that he decided we weren't on the same page.

L. O. L.

[PrizeyPrize]

So you waited 9 days for a text, took your time to respond and he got the hump with having to wait for your reply? After 9 days?? What is wrong with people? What you going to do 314 ? Ignore?

[ocelot7]

I have no insight into what MTG might be thinking & can see that communication sets one back but sometimes you just have to...

Yes 314 MSG is a self-justifying arse! How dare he make it about the ONE time you didn't respond and conveniently forget how so-important he kept you waiting 9 days then & many times before because he is SO busy(!)

And yes more red flags to note for future re not meeting kids for a year - what if then no-one gets on?! and the daughter saying he couldn't have a gf - or more him saying that to you...

When you meet a good un none of this will matter... :)

you arrived Waving ?

[314dPiper]

I did respond to him. I told him that I knew he was withdrawing before he went away and I gave the situation the benefit of the doubt then, but after 9 days without hearing from him I knew he had 'gone' , so I said don't reprimand me for having identified that you'd pulled away.

There was more. I clarified too. He hasn't done me the courtesy of reading it though. He said his piece. He's probably cleared the chat by now.
Grr

[RosettaPebble]

gast I'm so chuffed for you that you have a new connection with someone lovely 😀

You seemed to have a run of twats a few months ago and I was in a similar situation and almost gave up dating. I did have a break then came back to the dating thread with a new name.

I hope things continue to go well when you get back from your hols.

[314dPiper]

He's read it. Skim read it no doubt.

It just made me angry. I felt like our conversation Monday drew a line under things. Why come back to me with that self-righteous need to ''clarify''. It was like Please respect MY right to dump you fickly with a clear conscience

well, no buddy. You faked being super keen and then dumped me, own it.