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[314dPiper]

Here we go!

Let the wisdom commence
The universe is in our favour!

ha ha yeh, she'd know. I never look thin because i'm short. I'm 5'1 and a fag paper and about 8 stone 8 but I can still look quite dumpy with an unsympathetic camera angle..

Are your older children old enough to hold the fort?

Did you hear?

My daughter just told me, Oxygen and Magnesium are dating. I was like, OMg

You could tell him you're meeting some friends at 8. I've never used that excuse myself. I always end up hanging in there. :-/

Yeh, you'll just have a different radar switched on this time.

I know I will if I get back out there again.

I haven't drunk a drop since that night I was out with mr canceller ten days ago. I should call him the zombie now. He keeps reappearing.

Nothing wrong with a bmi of 23 314 thats healthy :) I was only scraping into the good zone at the best of times & need to get back there

I hope it wasn't him saying the bikini shot offset the kids Waving ?

If I were dating a man (if that ever happens again) the number of children not a factor really it'd be whether he had them all the time or not. If he had an amount of time when he was definitely free.

I'm a really bad date and it takes men a while to figure that out. Maybe at first they think, oh, only two kids! the youngest in double figures as well, but I am NEVER without them

Msg 'only' had two who spent time with him (he had an older one too) but they seemed to come and go all the time and there was no routine that I could observe. The only time he was definitely free was Saturday.

waving reading about your date tonight I felt the urge to go back and stir the pot a bit but no no no no no
I won't allow myself to until I have a job offer.

Day off today so I've tidied the house, phoned an agency, sent off two job applications. I'm going to do a workout later. 6w6p I reckon. Must try and apply for so many other jobs that I don't get invested in to the outcome of the interview I went to yesterday.

Job-hunting. Man-hunting. Different jungles. Same self-preservation techniques.

I hope you find an au pair!

You were up early Waving
I'm fine thanks apart from a runny nose maybe a bit rundown through not enough sleep?

I was always the same 314 : took me ages & much time wasted in scrolling through trolls/email conversations that petered out between each date which was almost always a once only disaster despite my 'research' :( Its a game of chance but we do learn from our less skilful moves...

I think I'd have to lose 2 stone to even think of a bikini shot(!) but would settle for losing 1 to get back to where I was in about April... crisis point reached as can't currently get into my jeans & autumn is just around the corner

Discounting being overseas, this thing with CB is only about 2 months in although we are very comfortable together so I sometimes forget- I'm not getting carried away but still keep reminding myself not to as well... Home now & good to get down to work this week as well as keeping engaged with other people & stuff...

Good luck with the jobs Sweetie314 hope you did something nice this afternoon after that flurry of activity earlier :)

waving you don't need a motivation hypnosis! you need a whoah cool your jets 8 hour hypnosis session. I could never compete, there are slimmer pickings here in my neck of the woods.

I'll listen to the motivation one tonight to make sure I fulfil my quota of applications tomorrow at work. I rang a few agencies today though which normally terrifies me. Well, it doesn't terrify me but I'm the Queen of putting stuff off and the motivation thing helped me just bloody do it.

Right, six week six pack now. Jillian will have me gargling my heart.

MSG was only 'about' for about 7 weeks and I still have to push him out of my head. Luckily though, and I think this is better, I feel anger not nostalgia. I feel anger that I didn't listen to all the signs. That Saturday night we went out a few days before he went away, there were more than a few signals that he was checking out and now I wish that I'd said to him, look you've checked out, I'm going to be brave enough to call time of death on this corpse. Next time I'll say that even if I'm devastated.

Waving I still think about M quite often but the difference is its not painful any more. CB has (unknowingly!) helped with that - even though for a long time I was resistant as mentioned here(!) -but it was when I was away on the work trip (that M had said he would be proud of me for :( ) ie 8 months(!) :( after he dumped me that I realised I was feeling myself again :) So I think it will still take more time for you but nothing like that long!
I can see now that although I felt M was my soulmate (& to some extent still do) he wasn't relationship material (that's a v.short precis!) whereas CB is & his kindness & thoughtfulness make up for sime of the things we don't see the same :)

Yes, it's different isn't it. And that can be a worthwhile realisation.
I don't know if I'll ever feel that compatibility that I felt with Bear but he didn't want me so that is about as incompatible as it gets right?! I felt Myself again immediately after I walked away from Bear, more myself than I had felt when I was with him because he did jeopardise my equilibrium. I felt like a puzzle I couldn't figure out had been finally solved when I walked away from him. I still miss him sometimes though.

Unlike MSG. The sex was more exciting with MSG but I'll never miss him. I can see now he was just ''my next mistake'' to quote the relationship expert TS . I do not miss him. And that proves he was right I guess.

That's interesting about the compatibilty with Bear but then feeling yourself again as soon as you walked away which suggests you were subsumed by him when you were together but his hold over you dissipated quickly? I guess I was in a way subsumed by M too but then it took me so very long to find my equilibrium again...I never want to be in that situation again :(

I was quite panicked by CBs certainty(?) at first but I'm glad I didn't run away as a felt like doing several times... though I'm still not sure where its going (but know thats fine for such a short time :) )

Yeh, I loved talking to him but I hated that he was 'not coming in' you know what I mean.

Yeh, I felt panicked by MSG's certainty to begin with too. HA! That's fukkin' hilarious now.

Sorry for swearing.