not feeling OLD?....dating thread 107

[PrizeyPrize]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP

rosetta I love that saying! I will etch it on to my mind for future reference.

I remember after my first kiss/first date with my last bf (who sadly passed away) I got in the car to drive home and I just felt so calm, just felt 'yes, this is it', and it was, he was the love of my life
I also feel strangely chilled with the guy I'm dating now, in fact I remember saying to him on our weekend away just gone, 'God, I just feel so relaxed, its just so easy and comfortable with you', he smiled, gave my hand a squeeze and said 'good' (he's a cool James Dean type, a man of few words this one - so sexy )

prizey I'm sorry that you lost the love of your life but it sounds like you may well have another good one in the making there.

Thanks rosetta....its early days but he certainly is floating my boat right now, I really hope he's a keeper, he's an amazing guy....so far anyway.

Also Waving, do not rule out chatting to them for a good long while before meeting, I was normally of the 'no chit-chat, lets go on a date' camp, but I have to say with this fella we were chatting for 6 weeks before meeting, I know that's a really long time (my work commitments made it difficult, but he waited) Gave lots of opportunity for the red-flags to fly, and thank God no kiss of death (for me, anyway) 'Good Morning Beautiful' text at 7.01am, not texting everyday, infact sometimes with a few days inbetween, for me this was a good green flag (ie not a desperate, over keen weirdo)

Meeting to see if there's 'chemistry'. Yes I do that because if there isn't at least something then nothing else is going to happen and pp can be v different in RL than online. Also stops me projecting how I would like them to be onto them!

So MrPoshwriter is making me dinner this evening.

Wonder if moose burgers will be on the menu...?

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He's so polite and well mannered I can't quite imagine him getting down and dirty. However since I've read his 'erotic novel', I do know he's got quite a filthy mind...!

Yes I am!

Re chemistry, in RL I def agree and have often found someone more attractive the more I've got to know them. But that's just getting to know someone in a natural way without any pressure or expectation. With OLD, it feels like you're both testing each other to see if there's a fit and so expectations sometimes seem unnaturally high and unrealistic.

Anyhow I've never watched any of Amy's videos but will do so.

Anothe book I found good was 'Are you the one for me?', lots of useful stuff in there especially about why we are attracted to certain types of people, often related to unresolved childhood issues.

Link

www.amazon.co.uk/Are-You-One-Me-Relationship/dp/0722532989

I can't believe how quickly the old thread moved and that there is now a new thread!

I have commented and made an appearance in the last few, but the last couple of weeks I have put on hold OLD as I seem to have a 'rinse and repeat' cycle at the moment of choosing the wrong guys!

The last was someone I have known along time IRL, but never really had a detailed conversation with as we have both always been taken. We were at a social event together and hit it off, and we ended up doing the no pants dance. We had SO much fun (really, it still makes me hot under the collar several weeks later). The issue is, I had genuinely thought 'oh he has potential' and feel like by acting too quickly, it has possibly spoilt that. If I listen to MH though, there is no right or wrong time, as long as you stick by your standards and decisions. I don't usually just take someone home that early, and had thought he was 'different'. Now I feel lost as to how to handle the situation, particularly as we have a social event together again in a few weeks. We have had polite conversation once or twice since then, but nothing detailed.

Waving - I remember you from the other threads, good work on the new irons!

destiny - good luck with the meal and date! Updates please!

Anyway hi again, I will keep checking in for now and will catch up shortly :)

Hi misszp I remember you, and I feel the same way this moves so fast you loose track if you're away. So your RL iron, how did you leave it with him the next day? You say you've had polite conversation only have you called /text since ? Do you think he's waiting for you to let him know you don't think it was all a drunken mistake ? He's probably as confused as you are. Hope you get it sorted one way or the other.

destiny well done on the job and good luck with the date tonight.

I'm eventually seeing mrvtall again tonight after our badly timed 3 weeks of holidays. It's been a long 3 weeks!

Hi all, I've been able to see Mr Walker twice more and it's going well. I wish I could stop thinking ahead (putting myself off by thinking how does this work in the future) and enjoy the moment. I do have fun, but then my serious hat comes on!

Misszp sounds like you are doing a lot of thinking ahead too. Has he mentioned a date or do yo think he's nervous and may say more if you suggest meeting (before event)?

Prize and Wave I like regular communication, not looking for txts on what he's had for lunch, but like to get 'morning' and one asking how my day's going and arranging to meet. I don't like phone conversations though, as I can't ignore and reply when convenient to me.

I'm meeting the greek chef tonight, I'm really excited to meet him he's so pretty! And seems so intelligent and funny. We're just going for a drink but If it goes well I'm definitely going to be inviting back to mine.

Haven't seen gingerpubes all week as he's had car troubles but been snap chatting each other throughout the day and hoping to meet him Monday.

Waving I usually try and talk on the phone before meeting I find it gives you a better idea of what they're like, plus you can ditch them if they've got an Alan Carr voice 😂

Alan Carr voice 😂

I would talk on phone if asked to, but I like to see body language if possible. My ex was a liar and I've read lots of body language books since split. Sounds very suspicious but body language does say a lot if you watch carefully. Liars often 'block' with a physical item, shake head or bodypart, turn away, and can look directly in the eye. Honest people often look up or to side on and off while talking, and their body mimics how they were positioned st the time as it's active recall rather than bullshit. Anyhow I am now better at identifying my DCs telling porky pies!

Good luck with all the dates coming up 😀

Hi everyone!

Just a quick question about POF - I just joined it today as have been using Once but not much going on there!

Lots of guys have sent me a 'meet me'. I think if you want to use that you have to pay and upgrade..?

I don't know if I really want to do that at the moment. How would I get around it..?

misszp Who is this RL iron?

Waving I quite like talking to an iron on the phone before meeting even if it is a bit daunting to speak on the phone to someone I've not met before.

Good luck with the dates tonight everyone!

With pof I rarely used the meet me bit, I either just got messages from men browsing or sent them myself.

You can click on who you want to meet but not see who wants to meet you unless you pay, although you can see if you have a mutual match without paying.