not feeling OLD?....dating thread 107

[PrizeyPrize]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP

Well done waving. First snog with different fella after a break up is a very good healing stepping stone imo. You seeing Mr Chin again?

Thanks Slowly!

Erm, is Sabrina for real??

Ok broke my online dating cherry.

He did not look as good in RL, in fact fairly unattractive in the teeth/chin area. And wearing a black too tight shirt where I could see his chest between each button. Lovely guy but boring, not alot to say. I have not yet replied to his whatsapp but he's keen..

And now I'm tindering...

waving it sounds to me like you're perfectly ready for dating. Just need the right men. You're The prize.
Oh barn that's a shame, but a good start with no drama at least. Keep looking 😘

Waving it doesn't sound like your heart's really in it TBH. Am wondering if you are just dating to avoid feeling the pain of your break up? I know for me I do need to give myself time at the end of a relationship to properly mourn it before I am genuinely ready to have another one.

In other news, my ex is coming over tonight! Despite my half hearted replies on whatsapp he's been v persistent and so I eventually agreed to meet him. It's funny when you're genuinely not bothered it seems like they'll chase you to the ends of the earth. But when you do like them and they know that, they're often a bit meh.

Why does that happen?

waving I think Destiny is right - your heart isn't really in it. You sound like you're in a much better place though - you sound happier.
There's a saying about dating after heartbreak/ being widowed which I love - 'women recover, men replace' - I think it's quite apposite for a lot of us

Oooh destiny good luck with the ex. Do you think you can keep the feelings in check with him? I have no idea why but it happens everytime, must be something to do with the chase or something, it's bizarre because as soon as you start liking them, investing and making more effort they hold back.
waving how you feeling today? Heard from Mr Chin?
Happy Prizey today...YC said a week away seemed like such a long time to wait to see me again, so he's coming to mine on Friday after work, oh....and again on Saturday as he's my plus one for a big party. (Who said moose burger?) And he's actually just texted to see how my day was going and to say that he was looking forward to Friday. This is lovely and refreshing, I think I could get used to this

Prizey that's fantastic!

Well got a message from ex to say he's got a migraine and won't be coming over. Hmmm do I believe him or is it an excuse? Don't know. Feel a bit pissed off as he's chased me for ages, I finally agree to meet and now he's got a headache...??

However I have had migraines myself and they can be pretty horrid. Will give him the benefit of the doubt this time but it's just a sign to be cautious. I don't know if I want to get back with him it's more to see how I feel and unless I spend time I won't know.

Think I need a glass of wine now. Oh well at least I've got a clean and tidy house! 😀

Enjoy the destiny. How's things with Mr Posh going?

Question: is it telling about a person's character if they get stroppy after they don't receive an instant reply? Been chatting to a man on tinder and he asked for my number to whatsapp. I didn't reply for a day because I was busy and he wrote again saying 'Guessing that's a no then.' Made me feel a bit awkward as it comes across like he's irritated when he was so nice before.

bon it could be but it could also be that he thought you were being rude. It's a bloody minefield! If I were you I'd have a chat on the phone if you are comfortable giving him your number. You can tell so much more about a person than just messaging. But in general it's not a good sign. He may have been 'ghosted' a lot?

Prize re MrPosh, I'm not really sure. He's communicating much less and hasn't replied to a text I sent yesterday. I know he's going to Italy again for work and is v busy but wonder if he's cooling off? Which is why it's good to have a few irons. Though would be nice to have just one that turned into a ( can't think of a good metaphor here ) ...permanent poker? lol 😀

Destiny Permanent poker 😂
Ah the cooling off thing, it's like clockwork with these men isn't it? Happens every single time you build a connection. Hope he does a Uturn. Have you still you still got the young fellas number?
waving lunch next week sounds good. I think just take it one date at a time, don't over think, enjoy the dates one by one and see where it leads (easy to say, I know)
bonjour that would be a no from me. How much chatting had you had prior to this?

Chatted for 2 days previously. It was the weekend and I was off work so had more time. I don't think it's great behaviour either and after finding his Facebook through a friend in common, he looks so different from his tinder photos. The ones he's chosen for his profile are very flattering!

It gets worse waving love the kids grow up & leave home! Then your really stuffed. Like moi
I don't do any dating. I can't be bothered to put the effort in. Too much like hard work!
Work, fitness, shower, dinner, telly, bed. Rinse & repeat. What else is there time for ?
You had a lucky escape with that last one waving. Oh my gawd lovey, your far too fabulous for the likes of him! Can you imagine being married to a knob like that? That would make you "Mrs Knobess"

Mind you... Mrs Chin that's not sounding great either.

I name you "Miss Independent" coz that's a cooler name. High 5 sister

I meant "you're" obviously.

I'll have them bludy gramma police after me again

Hello all.
I'm back to dating....again. I get a fair amount of attention but nothing seems to develop.

I've ended up back to online dating but taking it slowly. I'm still in a friend with benefits situation but he is aware that if I meet someone as I did before that it would stop. (Which we did but relationship didn't work out)

I don't get why no one wants to be with me :(

Our oh love, it really isn't you. It's our fucked up modern times! If you read pp's stories and experiences on here you will see how many of us are experiencing the same thing. I'm sure you are fabulous. As we all are. I know I am! 😀💃

Our it's not you it's them! We are all in the same boat here so you are in good company.

bonjour to me that would be a red flag. You are absolutely not obliged to respond unless/until you want to.

Mind you, I might be looking for perfection in an imperfect world. It's up to you ultimately.

destinys you're bloomin lovely. I guess that's why I like it in here.

miracle your Mr lovely is out there. Keep looking. Have faith. You are the prize!

Hello ..I'm new
Can I join in
I've just been ditched because I didn't like champagne and oysters.
Told him I preferred half a lager and a pizza and he deleted and blocked me.
Wow!!!
After 6 weeks of non stop talking

Im now being more demanding lol.
I try as a rule not to speak to someone for too long before I meet them. I've done it before spent months talking and then you meet and there is just nothing between you.

Maybe I need to get out onto the singles scene more (whatever that actually is)

I have a first date Friday night feeling a bit unsure though x