not feeling OLD?....dating thread 107

[PrizeyPrize]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP

Actually I've heard that US Navy Seals are often given training in online dating. Part of their martial arts. Swipe left, swipe right. Wax on, wax off.

You've got to wonder what's going through their heads. I'm sure some women fall for it though.

Phew this thread moves fast! I've had a few days to catch up on.

prizey excited for you; youngchef was obviously as his pictures promised!

minop well done. Trust those gut feelings

tyger I could so easily be you. Confusing isn't it. How are you feeling now?

destiny really pleased for you with new job. Ex doesn't sound like he deserves you in his life. Maybe more irons needed.

waving the right man is totally on his way to you. Good luck tomorrow.

myuser I think I'm in same boat you were in last Fri? Except I haven't been on the date yet! I'm excited for you . Bugger about the kids schedule thing though...

1 date lined up; Sunday. Arranged last week. Not a fan of endless chatting but no time to meet sooner! He's nice; i'm quietly excited, although difficult to judge how excited he is? He tells me he's 'fussy', so i guess that sets me up for the whole 'am i good enough' merry-go-round that I'm trying to avoid now? Think I'm used to banter/promises/fireworks turning into dispare and distruction, so I'm hopeful this is a good thing! Although I had a wobble when he found me on another dating site. I reasoned with myself that he was clearly on there too but still somehow felt I was cheating

I'm still feeling a bit rubbish at all this. I've got some stuff on my 'list' that is important to me for 'reasons' but. .. I feel like I'm maybe being a bit shallow... but that's ok, right? Because I'm the prize, yes?? Curly I'm wondering if you're thinking the same?

Slowly

"banter/promises/fireworks turning into despair and destruction"

Think that's pretty much the theme of this bloody thread!

Well summed up😀😱😈

Yikes prizey

Aaaaaggggh. Best friend (smug-married-a-rich-guy) just texted me and said there are plenty of divorcees my own age and I'm wasting my time with someone younger who won't get 'roll his sleeves up and get stuck into my life'. And loads of other condescending crap to go along with it....WTF? I told her I'm independent and don't need a man to carry me and my family and at the moment I want a side line of fun with no expectations. I also said if the age gap was the other way around no one would bat an eyelid but that's just the kind of fucked up patriarchal society we live in. Sorry had to rant.

I have married friends who say oh if I was single I wouldn't bother with dating. Sure, but you're not the one spending all weekend alone. It's good to have friends but it would be so nice to have someone just to hang out with, make dinner together and snuggle with. Pay no attention to those who want to judge you and tell you what to do!

Slowly yep I think we are thinking the same

Erm.... sorry to barge in but I'm just thinking about dipping a toe in to OLD. I'm a separated, 50+ introvert who can't be bothered with drama or neediness or lots of going out (what a catch). I have lots to offer though! Could anyone recommend a good dating site that won't terrify me? I'm happy to pay.

Hi argymargy I have no recommendations as such as they all initially terrified me (well the ones I've used). What about EliteSingles and eHarmony. Haven't tried either, well I did try eHarmony but got refused as I'm separated, you need to be single, widowed or divorced.

Ah - good tip thanks Curlylox. Hopefully won't be too long before I'm divorced. Part of what terrifies me is the potential to be recognised...

argy completely understand that, I was the same and still am to a degree because my ex dh and I are still living under the same roof. He has found me on Match and not taken it well at all. Bizarre really considering he called it a day

Just thought I'd share this classy guy's chat. I'm really disturbed by him tbh (blocked now and reported!). He doesn't see what the problem is

I also apologise for the moustaches and sombreros - all I could do to hide identities

sky in a word wow

Oh dear. Run for the hills!

Oh love that's hard. Maybe you need more time to grieve him. 😥

Oh waving thats crap. What are the chances of that happening. Ffs. Try and enjoy tonight. At least Mr Chin will be a good distraction, hopefully.

argy I'm so excited for you that your divorce is on it's way. Mine took forever. It was like being re-born😂
waving really hoping you're having fun
Remind me again... snogging on first date... ok? Or resist... I'm getting more and more excited about this one... but hearing what's been said about date 3 being clearer...