not feeling OLD?....dating thread 107

[PrizeyPrize]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP

IT was good thanks. He came to mine. He was a bit early and I'd just got out the bath when I saw his car outside! Had no make up on and had to answer the door in my dressing gown! He didn't seem bothered tho. We had a good chat, I made a nice meal, watched videos on YouTube and drank lots of wine. Went to bed at midnight and we were both so knackered we just fell asleep!

Made up for that this morning tho😀 I do like him a lot, he's a v interesting and intelligent guy and we have great conversations. Unusually it's not all about sex and we have a lot in common and seem to be on a similar wavelength. However I still don't know what he wants ( and don't want to ask directly, it feels too soon ) so am keeping my options open...

Thanks Destiny I knew it was a big red flag but trying to put my head in the sand. To be fair when I read over texts sent there are signs of possessiveness. Despite the fact he's fit I think I'm going call it off with him. Looks and been great in bed aren't everything

Glad your date went well. Sounds like a great night and even better morning.

Well done Minop, Destiny has a made a very good point. Good that you've recognised it too. So easy to ignore the warning signs when you really fancy them.

Well done, it's much easier to not get into a potentially abusive relationship than get out of one once you're embroiled in one. What about his texts has made you realise he's possessive?

Can I have a moan?

I had two dates lined up this weekend and they both cancelled. I'm worried I'll be celibate forever.

I joined old early June - and had 3 dates which were nice enough to but no second date and 1 who didn't show up.

I don't even know why it's aggregating me!

That sucks! It's horrid being messed around. How much had you spoken to the guys that didn't show up? Unfortunately there are men who aren't serious in their intentions, are maybe already in a relationship or are just on OLD to play the field. You just can't take what they take seriously until you have spent quality time with them. Make sure you at least have a phone call before you meet. If they won't chat on the phone that's an obvious sign they're not serious.

Take care of you!

Hi all!
I've posted on the thread before but not for a while! Been doing online dating for nearly a year now But had a break since June as I was away a lot over the summer.

I've been struggling to find anyone I'd want to date to be honest and feeling rather disenchanted....

One guy I've been speaking to intermittently since January I've asked out for a drink (normally I wait 'till they ask) and he said yes and is back off holiday next week but doesn't seem very enthusiastic. He's also 5yrs younger than me... I'll wait and see if he gets in touch but not expecting great things here!

The only guy I really like lives about 40 miles away and works shifts. He's asked me for a drink, I suggested next Saturday. He said he could do Friday evening or Sunday brunch (he seems to have a really busy social life wheras most of my friends have had children fairly recently and I work a lot and am always tired so my life feels comparably dull!) I'm a bit worried if I say yes to Friday (or Sunday) it's obvious I had no plans for the whole weekend....

I'm going to read the thread now and see what everyone's been up to!

Hello ladies, can anyone join in?

Ok so I went on my date
It was one of those ones you will always remember as being briliiant.
No awkward pauses, flowing convo and time flew.
He's so polite and nice, NO GAMES. I mean I think he's a keeper type except for 2 issues:

Not sure about sexual chemistry. We didn't kiss. He's not unattractive but we seem like good mates more than other dates I have been on where you feel a bit giddy and flirty and want to snog their face off.

Our kids/work situation is going to make things complicated. He has his kids when I don't. I really can see it being a problem for anyone he dates who has kids not just me. And then he says, like me, dating someone who doesn't have kids is hard as like me he doesn't want more kids and childless people often don't understand quite the 'I'm busy/can't drop things at a moments notice'

So... Hmmm what to do

I've run out of steam too- agree about feeling disenchanted. I think I'm going to put more effort into seeing friends for the next couple of weeks and using my money for a babysitter to see them rather than listening to random men drone on about themselves!

I messaged mrcricket when I got home on Friday night to thank him for a lovely evening and for paying for dinner. Can see he read the message within minutes of me sending it and have not heard anything back. If he does eventually get back to me, I'm not sure I can be bothered making time for a 3rd date. I don't want to be pestered but I do want an indication of enthusiasm it seems!

Hi newbies all welcome here! OLD can be exhausting and demoralising at times. Just occasionally you meet a good un but they are few and far between. Don't make it the centre of your life and try to be happy with your life and what you have. You don't need a man to make it complete. Better a good single life than being in a bad relationship!

The best thing I ever did was take off my time stamp from whatsapp. It's saved me countless hours stressing if I can't see when someone was last on then I don't think about it

I have finally told the time waster guy to fuck off. My actual words were Go fuck yourself! He has shown no initiative in actually meeting up,rarely replies to texts and phoned me once! Wtf was I thinking,I am so much better than this!

I advise it to you all ladies, thanks Waving I totally agree! Do it for your sanity!!!

I will go out on another date with him, he is such a pleasure to spend time with I just wish I felt a kind of something 'more' I suppose and TS really making me angry I don't.
I have quite a bad history of only really wanting the dangerous guys and finding the more balanced ones boring and unattractive. Partly why I haven't dated for such a long time I wanted to try to rewire my own brain.
I'm not expecting fireworks but just something a bit more you know, tummy flipping

I took my time stamp off months ago, mainly due to ex dh.

How do u take the time stamp off please?

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Thanks!

Morning all! Have date with youngchef today! He's driving 40mins to take me for lunch....good start. Hope I fancy him.

You all sound like you're doing pretty well with OLD. I had four dates since January. Made a friend from one. I will try and read right through the thread whilst I'm job hunting. I have a question in the meantime. I am naturally suspicious (not a great trait to have) and OLD has made me more so. Local-ish guy has asked to meet during the day in the week (he has his own business), he's assumed I'm free (normally depending on what day I wouldn't be as I would have had work - worked part time before redundancy). I shouldn't complain as it would be easier for me whilst daughter is at school however I'm already thinking why not the evening is it because he's married/attached etc??? Your thoughts please

Sounds promising PrizeyPrize hope it goes well for you

Thanks curly. If he's self employed daytimes will suit him well, although he shouldn't have assumed you were free. Good to go for coffee/light lunch first imo, then you know if an evening date is worth investing in.