not feeling OLD?....dating thread 107

[PrizeyPrize]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP

Haha! nomore I do seem to be attracting all the charmers recently! This guy is in his 40s. Do you think he's been doing this for years and that some women like this approach? The mind boggles. Chat vaguely normally about hobbies, secure date, immediately switch to wanking texts and nothing else! Can't think it would get much of a hit rate!

See I've got a new iron on POF, he's gorgeous and we're talking lots and he said the number of women he's had messaging him for cock pics is unreal, it's like some alternate dating reality, all these wanking men are clearing having success with someone, grim!

I do like a good dirty pic or sext but only if it's someone I'm actually having sex with otherwise what's the point?

Hi all, just popping in to say hi, really busy this week as started my new job! It's all a bit overwhelming at the moment and daunting as I haven't worked for a while. Not doing any OLD right now but MrPosh is coming over to mine for dinner on Fri! 😀 Ex still keen to meet up but been putting him off so far...

And all you lovely women who are saying you don't have much to offer, stop it! You're lovely intelligent gorgeous women and great mums, value yourselves. And if a man is worth it, he'll recognise that!

nomore that's hilarious! Who would have thought! Perhaps my iron has scuttled off to POF for more success. They should have a separate dating website! Similarly, I do like sexts but not when I haven't met the person- otherwise it's just a bit weird ( and also makes me slightly apprehensive that I'll be rohypnoled/groped if we do meet!)

destiny good luck with the new job

WavingNotDrowning that sounds like an absolutely horrific date! Though it did make me laugh on 2 counts:

1. I couldn't get the spitting image song "I've Never Met a Nice South African" out of my head
2. The irony that if you knew that he was South African you wouldn't have met him is actually a racist comment Outnumbrd sorry to hear that your date was short and unsatisfying. emilybrontescorset I get that you were just trying to say that you don't have to be polite to the point of sacrificing yourself, but it is something that is relevant for both sexes. I am glad you have met someone really nice and that you managed to avoid meeting up with any of the dicks that were messaging you to meet up unsafely (presumably for only on thing). SkyRabbit it sounds like you do just need a bit of "me time" for a while

Onwards, Waving, to Friday. It's a basrard process, isnt it? Am feeling confused, overwhelmed and rushed by it all while assessing potential for long-term something with each nan i meet. Out of habit desperation i think asxthat was what marriage was. But don't even know what i want from a new guy really. Reckon i come over asxeither aloof or needy, neither good!

And i feel slighly cornered by circunstance into exclusivity before am ready- v rare opportunity to pick rather than accept or not a man's choice of me, 3 irons but need to be sensitice to Mr E as he asked me to be exclusive - i chickened out and was evasive stupidly.

Oh Destinys How’s it going? Is everyone nice? Good to hear that things are looking good with MrPosh.

Waving Who is the Friday date? Is he from an OLD site?

NoBloodyMore That’s really interesting. So some women obviously love them (even from strangers). Maybe that’s why they do it then. Maybe women just SAY they don’t like them but really they do.

Well, I had a long text convo exchange with AudiDriver last night which was 100% romantic (no smut – ha ha!) He said all sorts of lovely things about me. I’m not sure what’s come over him. He's never normally like that. Will have to see how he is when I next see him. He asked to stay over last week too but I wasn’t sufficiently prepared so I said no! but I will do now I know he’s keen to.

Would you believe it, I’ve had another hot man making advances today at work. He’s doing a job for us in a professional capacity and this is the first time we’ve met and my word, he made it obvious he was interested and has been e-mailing since he left. When I spotted him I instantly thought 'well, hello!' He's 6'4" and built like a rugby player SO my type.

Nice to be admired isn't it.

Hi all I haven't posted for a while as I'm a bit of a phoney where OLD is concerned. I'm still dating my original iron Mr Walker (I was writing to over 10 at start but he said things that felt familiar). Apart from sarcasm on a date, when he was tired, rest is good.

The many pages ago quote about not having butterflies about a man but feeling peaceful applies in my case.

He wouldnt normally be my type, he has crazy hair, wears unusual clothes, doesn't have the level of ambition I'm used to (puts family first) and it's lucky I'm short as he's short-average. But he's lovely and I find him funny and attractive. My ex was taller, more ambitious, regular dresser, but a complete manipulator and liar. So a lesson to me about going for what feels right. Will see where it goes.

I wanted to wish everyone well and I will definitely be back if I use OLD in the future.

Admire your spirit, Waving! And lovely news, Lilac, good luck!

Hi all, did a 10 hour day at work today! Was exhilarating but had a bit of a wobble, have got a bit of imposter syndrome. Need to be kinder to myself and recognise my skills. I've had such a crap few years, got made redundant from a job I really enjoyed, ended up leaving London, where I'd been for 20 years and living in my dull home town looking after my dad who had dementia and have really struggled to find a decent job since.

Things finally seem to be looking up but I'm still lacking confidence in myself, just need to give it time I guess.

Love how we are all so supportive of each other on this thread! 😀

Well done, Destiny, you really deserve that break!

And ex is still sniffing around! He wanted to come over tomorrow but I've put him off. Was devastated when he ended it ( by a text message) last year. I'm so bad at setting boundaries for myself and asking for what I want - or rather, feel like I deserve. The organisation I'm working for is an overtly feminist one, maybe that will help me not take so much crap from men!

That workplace sounds healthy. Bad at boundaries too, forget to 'ask' then push back the other way wgen i can't cope. Feel in quite a mess atm.

Sorting why do you feel in a mess?

Destinys that's great! Thats a long day too. Met any potential friends?

Lilac He sounds really promissing!

waving good luck on Friday. Come and tell us all about it.

sorting Maybe wait until youre in a better place emotionally. Its hard to be strong when you're feeling fragile.

My bounsaries, ridiculously distracted by current irons who'll provably just be ships in the night... Can't sleep therefore work so sabotaging job. Skero should do the trick! And time. Had to battle through a lot recently and guess all catching up with me.

Thanks, Waving, feels hard going yes but been 5 months already. Am getting counselling, but they've been off on hol recently so maybe am down due to that. Just could do with some carefree fun but not so easy is it? And not sure even want carefree - would rather a fun, loving vaguely functional & committed relationship (don't we all?)

Hi all

Can I ask what OLD sites you use? I've tried Tinder and no one ever replies to me I don't even get the terrible opening lines!

Do you have to kiss on the first date?

Am I doing something wrong here?

Depends, only kissed 1 guy first date, another not yet after 2.

Also, I could really do with some casual sex - how do I get some?!