not feeling OLD?....dating thread 107

[PrizeyPrize]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP

skyrabbit I've been thinking the same as in what do I have to offer! I have my kids all the time and they do get anxious if I'm out a lot. At the moment I could probably offer a night a week and maybe a couple of lunches/coffees! Doesn't seem much ( yet was too much for my FWB!).

I'm also feeling not fussed about current irons/dates. Think the whole mrkent thing has worn me out. I have a second date with mrcricket on Friday but our first date was a few weeks ago and I've not heard much from him in between and it's sort of lost momentum. I can't really remember much! I think the date was pleasant enough and I was very much into giving everyone a second chance but now I'm not sure I can be bothered. I want to feel excited! Also meant to meet mrcagey for coffee on Thursday but having agreed to meet, the only texts I'm getting are very early morning ones implying he's having a wank! So that's really putting me at ease for meeting him for the first time . I despair at some men's idea of wooing!

Worse though is that I have bumped into ex FWB in a cafe and we had a coffee. He offered to help me with something I've been worrying about and has put a lot of time in and done an amazing job and been very supportive. All fine and good, other than I've woken up feeling like I've fallen for him! It is totally ridiculous on so many levels. I'm feeling particularly pathetic that a man is kind to me and my reaction is to feel like a love sick teenager! Grr. Need to distract myself ( and not think about the hot sex we had previously!!)

outnumbrd as its warm I'd go for a short skirt!
Good luck and look forward to updates!

waving glad you're having fun!

Waving at least he's good looking! Claw I did go for a short dress! On the bus now

I've gone for wedges I hope he's tall enough

Have fun outnumbrd and waving, at least he's better looking waving not the other way round

Ooooh outnumbrd ....loving your bravery!! Hope he stands up to the wedge test, I lurve a tall man (years of abusive men with Napoleon syndrome has taken its toll)
Waving routing for you with a glass bottle of prosecco on my sofa...he sounds like a thumbs up....have fun!!

Prizey Napoleon syndrome .
Oh dear but the date-no :(

Waving omg!!

On my way home

Am going mad re Mr Eligible, think am falling for idea of falling, memories of past loved etc, but there is SERIOUS chemistry, God! Had forgotten how intoxicating that is-and rare??- or have I forgotten? Why the hell did I ever marry dh, never had the hots for him the same way or anywhere close, and that's not fading memory or prickly glasses, really was the case. What a waste. Also Mr Tall still in background, asked me out at weekend and not had that no exclusive talk with Mr Elgigble so not sure. He can be a bit funny and don't want to blow it with him. Sigh.

Some time to be ex dh should I say.

Waving am appalled at that awful man! Worth reporting to date site even? What a racist wanker . Here's hoping he crawls off somewhere to a hole and never comes out.

waving how truly horrendous. Are you ok?

outnumbrd such a shame. Hope he wasn't too horrible.

sorting fab re the chemistry. It's been an awfully long time since I've had that intoxicatingly feeling. How long have you been seeing MrEligible?

waving at least he showed you what a twat he was fairly quickly so you dont waste time!

outnumbred how bad was it? Hope you're ok

Waving, glad you're okay.

Clawdeen- only 2 or so weeks really, known him for a little longer than that so am aware v early days. But yes intoxicating! Is that normal,,red flag for burn out etc? I just want to be with him ALL the time, he's like a drug . He's not even tall, my usual type or particularly attractive, just does it for me somehow!

waving what a twat, at least you know early.

outnumbrd oh no hope your night wasn't too horrific

sorting how many dates in with MrEligible? chemistry is amazing when it happens can't beat that feeling

6 dates now! Not a red flag then? Feel might be projecting past stuff onto him, whatever. Works somehow anyway. Would want his babies if I hadn't already had my own!

Date wasn't bad, just disappointing. He was overly happy and wanted to keep cuddling me! Didn't fancy him though and left after one drink. Oh well I have MrClassics and MrAffluentHippy to meet. Hmmmm should I even bother?! I could have got so much work done tonight!

Urgh outnumbrd & waving

claw the early morning message thing hadn't occurred to me

I'm working on new irons. Slowly. MrKeen hasn't taken the 'slowdown' message to heart and continues to message, and tonight started phoning...

outnumbrd cuddling?! Oh dear.

sorting oh I don't want to worry you about early morning texts in general. This guy made it very obvious he was having wank. He's gone quiet so hopefully he's found someone more enthusiastic about waking up to texts about the strength of his swimmers!

Ewww claw bet that was a lovely thought to wake up too.

sorting I don't think it's a red flag maybe you're overthinking as you can feel yourself falling for him, try and enjoy it!

outnumbrd cuddling you, on a first date? Repeatedly?! No just no.

Sorry slowly not sorted!