not feeling OLD?....dating thread 107

[PrizeyPrize]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP

Sorry this is just a late night update, had some great moose burgers with a little cutie who I met last week who is 18 years younger than me! He's so cute, he looks like Robbie Williams back in the day. Whoever said women lose their sexual prowess when they get older, believe me, they were lying!

Got to get some sleep now, bloody need it, will catch up with the rest of the thread tomorrow! 😈💤

Inexperiencedchick I think that you need some interests in common but not all. It's all a balancing act between being able to enjoy things with each other and being in each other's pocket and just the right amount if shared interests helps with that.

Destiny 18 years?? Bloody fantastic!! He sounds lush!

Tinkerbell why does he keep disappearing and reappearing? That's odd. I'd say try and get his phone number or ditch and move on - the week is still young enough to sort out a different date for Saturday

destiny 18 years younger!! Bloody fantastic! 😀

Haha- I clearly have the same thoughts as prizey!!

claw great minds!

Well I asked colleague out yesterday lunchtime over email, as we were emailing about a budget thing - not a subject that's exciting! I just thought bugger it why not

No response though.

Regretting doing it now of course

Can't keep up with this thread! Destiny lucky you!
Tinkerbell That would do my head in! Possibly married? But not a good sign for thd future.
Bellbell Wow well done, hope you get a response! Was there any reason for you to think he liked you?

I thought so but maybe now in hindsight no

I've made a fool of myself haven't I!

Wow Destiny, sounds amazing!

All my irons have gone quiet, my tinder date from Sunday night text yesterday and asked when I was free again (not till Sunday) he was sending a few sexy texts and then when I didn't reply, as I was genuinely busy he sent another to reassure me he wasn't only after one thing! But he's slowed down quite a bit with his messages, I'm not sure what's normal contact between dates? My last relationship was very intense very quickly so I'm unsure what to expect!

My recent ex is still texting as though we didn't actually split up 5 weeks ago, he's due back from deployment this weekend so I've agreed to meet for a coffee but it can't lead anywhere as he wanted the split as he doesn't want any involvement with my children, yet yesterday he was texting asking about youngest first day at school! Men!

No Bellbell! Don't worry just move on! If he can't even respond he's not worth it!

I've just arranged a date for tonight! I'm going to call him MrSmiley!!

bellbellunited Sorry to hear there was no response, but I am so please that you went for it! It is very true that the things in life you regret the most are the things you didn't do.
NoBloodyMore Are you sure it is a good idea meeting up and keeping in contact with your ex? I don't think I could do it, it could be too messy
Outnumbrd Good luck with MrSmiley, is he new on the scene then?

bellbell I agree with Recycled you would be wondering still if you hadn't!
NoMore Why did your ex not want anything to do with your kids? I'd steer clear!
Recycled Yes brand new! We have hardly messaged but hey, spontaneity! Looking at his pics though he looks a bit like my ex

ReCycled, this is what I thought...
I don't want to be a copy of someone else. It's the matter of spark and the other things like hobbies and interests is the matter of balance.

Any ways at least I know the outcome ;)

Inexperiencedchick I completely agree with your thoughts, life with a carbon copy could be so dull! I certainly needs someone that challenges me and takes me out of my comfort zones every now and again.
Outnumbrd Fantastic, spontaneity is great (stops you overthinking things that shouldn't be overthought)

outnumbrd the date I had Sunday night we'd only started talking that day, and it was good.

I'm not sure why ex suddenly decided that about kids, he has none and doesn't want any but never had a problem with mine, maybe because we were planning for him to meet them and start staying the whole weekend when he's back, I kind of feel that's why I want to see him, the communication has been crap whilst he's been deployed so I'd just like the chance to say my bit.

recycled_ I understand about the politeness issue, I was trying too point out to the women on here that sometimes it is best to be blunt. I include myself in that too. I don't mean be mean and nasty, I mean Stop accepting people's rudeness.

The point I was making about men quering the short, public, alcohol and basically safe date was that they wanted the exact opposite. I had men say they wanted to pick me up in their car, drive me somewhere where I could have' a good drink' and then go out for hours.
I didn't want that.
Yes it's good to read my profile but then why question it?
To be frank if a man needs to be told why I won't get in a strangers car, get pissed and allow. Him to take me where he wants then he is not a man I want to engage with at all.

I've met someone now and he was perfectly happy to meet briefly for drinks and meet me at a convenient point.

We hit it off and have been out for much longer dates now and I'm really happy.

I don't know what to wear tonight! Casual drink, first time meeting, he will be straight from work so probably shirt. It's grey but warm here. Maxi dress? Short skirt? Or jeans?

Hi everyone, I've been AWOL for a bit - just catching up on everyone's good and bad news!!

Sadly I haven't been gone because I found anyone, the reverse really. I seem to have spent a fair few weeks chatting to guys, arranging to meet up, and then I cancel on them. I just can't be arsed - they'll be perfectly nice blokes, I just won't fancy them. Wtf is wrong with me?!
I had a coffee date after work today - I cancelled that as well. But my people pleaser thing always comes in, and I keep chatting to them. I'm still chatting to 5-6 guys, one of whom (the ginger Brazilian) I'm sure thinks we're actually dating, despite not having seen each other for a month and even then, we only had 2 dates .

I think I need to just stop don't I??

Sky lol! I know what you mean I give them the benefit of the doubt knowing I won't fancy them!

waving I'm 6 months out now, with no regrets (after the initial rocking in the corner sobbing bit, obvs) . I'm not sure what I want from a bloke though now to be honest. I don't want the ex back, but I do like having someone around (but only on my terms ) .
I think it doesn't help that the ex, who I'm still friendly with, is waving his new sparkly relationship at me - with someone 12 years younger than me and no kids . He keeps telling me about their weekends away and gigs they've been to (we never had a weekend away - because, kids) and I think it feels like our relationship held him back or something crappy like that. When we split up, I told him he really wanted someone younger, hipper, less exhausted and childless. He disagreed, and yet thats' exactly what his new gf is

I don't know what I have to offer a guy - the odd evening out, or coffees, some cancelled last minute when TwattyEx decides he can't have the kids after all? Doesn't sound great does it??