not feeling OLD?....dating thread 107

[PrizeyPrize]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP

Hi all (incl. new posters)

Since last date *Mr Walker has text lots and seems very keen. I've decided I'll be straight with him when we next meet about the unfunny sarcastic comments and distance and see what he says. He won't have recently worked a late shift so there will be no excuses if he's moody. Won't do through text or phone as I want to see his body language my ex has made me so suspicious of all men.

I've still kept off POF. Prize I understand your dilemma. Part of me thinks I should see other men, but (as Mr Walker, overall seems geniune and good moose burgers when he's not worked late) I'm not for now. Also we did tell each other that we weren't seeing anyone else. I can't lie the guilt would stress me out. If you can do it without worry then I think it's ok, but you sound like your conscience would struggle with this?

I think if things don't work out I'd be more confident in the future to multi-date (if that's the right term?).

London I'd definitely hold out for more options. A 20 year age gap works for some but not ideal!

Waves when's Mr holiday back? I'm hoping things pick up there for you as he sounded good match.

Good to hear about success stories on here 😀

Nobloody I'd go for a short date with the good communicator. One photo doesn't tell you that much and the other photos looked better.

Personally I have some flexibility. Tall is fine but I like average men as I'm short, and don't mind some weight (broader builds) but don't like skinny builds. Natural muscles on arms and hairy chest are ideal for me

Waving What was wrong with Mr Actor?

Oh Waving Oh dear! Haha! Erm I just sent my last sweet guy but no future a text saying I didn't feel any chemistry after all but all the best!

Prizey It's not cheating. Do it the American way and date no strings attached. How else do you find 'the one'?

Waving This was me a couple of weeks ago! I decided to be more choosy as don't like letting them down once we have met and it's been confirmed not for me! I was ironless but just got loads of messages this morn, with a definite contender- MrAffluentHippy!
BUT just had my first negative response to having 4 kids. Some ugly, skinny, bald guy, says he's 42 ( only 4 years older than me but looks 15 years older, messaged saying "you look nice but don't think I'm prepared to date someone with 4 kids". Well it's clearly on my profile that I have 4 so that guys make the choice before matching with me!

I know the feeling Waving, I've met up with several guys thinking "well, I might really fancy him in the flesh" and, guess what, I don't! That's why I'm started to feel a bit fed up after a few months of this. Maybe I need to be a bit more choosy too.

Earlier this week I had a third date with one guy. Nice, decent company but the desire to see him naked hasn't appeared with time so what's the point.

Onwards and upwards

out what is the point in him sending that message? He sounds like another dickhead.
waving definitely be more choosy, you may get less dates but concentrate your time and energy on those who you really want to meet.
out but I want strings attached with this one I've decided I'm keeping oldiron on the back burner for now basically because I wouldn't want him to do that to me.

Am giving up alcohol (spent last night with a bottle of JD and watching videos of my late DP....I miss him alot at the moment)

I'm also giving up texting H&C unless it's for planning dates after another stupid pointless text of mine got ignored by him and I hate the feeling I get when he does that. I will pick up the phone and call him on occasion instead.

I'm seeing Mr Walker this Sunday. Having gaps between dates is good as I can see my normal life and it's already busy (2DCs and work 3-4 days a week). There's space for a man, but being single gave me more 'me' time.

Outnumbered really not your loss there, he sounds like an arrogant idiot and unattractive to boot.

My view on both irons and alcohol is that you will be better off if you have less but better quality.
Life is too short to spend time on crap dates and bad hangovers.

However, on a side note, if you do find yourself with a hangover I advise taking a rehydration pack (yes, the sort you take abroad in case of diarrhea). It replaces all the electrolytes, salt and sugars that are missing from your system (stripped away by the alcohol) and causing your hangover. Also take ibuprofen for immediate relief from the headache. This works a treat and causes far less guilt than a fry up

Good luck with Walker lilac
waving great news on the matching and messaging yes high value guys is what you want.
Do you mean do I have any reason to feel that he doesn't feel the same way about me as I do about him? I don't, but he's so difficult to gauge he's so mysterious (that's the appeal, I think) but yes he's as soft as butter and so sweet and affectionate when we are together. We are spending the weekend together again from tomorrow morning so that amount of time is a good indication he's keen, I need to stop analysing stuff that happens in the time between seeing each other and concentrate on the great time we have when we are together.

Recycled you sound like you are a professional at the hangover game. Very sound advice, thank you.

I think for me abstention is the solution, I'm starting to realise I have a bit of a problem

Must be difficult prizey, my last relationship was with an introvert who was forever blowing hot and cold, I'll be honest 5 months with him left me more messed up than my 9 year marriage, I was constantly questioning things, forever hanging by the phone waiting for him to text, then he'd text constantly for a day or 2, then back to being ignored. When we were together it was always amazing, but I couldn't handle it. I'm at the stage where I doubt everything he ever told me, he may not be the norm though.

Thanks lilac, I'm 5ft 7 so tall is a must, and I'm not super skinny so like a man with a bit of meat/muscle but this bloke told me he's 17 stone, which is big.

I've got 3 dates this weekend! 2 just for coffee and 1 Sunday evening, not bad for my first week.

I'm with you waving and decided I'm going to be more fussy, this date I've agreed to Sunday night he's 10 years older and I'm not attracted to him from the pictures, I'm going to sit down tonight and write a list of things that are important to me and stick to it.

outnumbered he sounds horrible, not hard to see why he's still single.

I've been surprised by the number of men without children of their own who don't appear to be put off by me having kids, but then it makes me paranoid that they're just after casual!

Outnumbered- I'd be tempted to message back, that's fine I don't date men who cannot read.
What a dick. Block him and get straight back in.
I'm meeting my friend later, she'll want to know all about my dates. The last time I saw her I was meeting Mr profile alterer. He was great company but not as nice as Mr straight laced who has booked us a hotel for tonight. God I hope it all goes well, he's told me I won't be able to walk when he's finished with me!!!!

Nobloody that is exactly how I feel, its really not good for me at all. Taking up far too much headspace and making me feel so insecure. I'm thinking of calling it a day to be honest, I really, really like him, but he is not good for my mental health. Don't know what to do.

Emily sounds fantastic!!

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Life is too short to spend time on crap dates and bad hangovers"

Haha that's how I seem to have spent much of my life recently...

Had a message from MrPosh saying his journey back from Italy was a nightmare. Nice to hear from him but he's still not expressed a desire to meet up again. I keep obsessing that the fact he gave me his Netflix code must mean something? Oh well I've got another date lined up tonight. This guy looks like a bit of an ageing goth so not sure how that's gonna go...😈

Well what a depressing read (apart from Emily) tell us how it goes and if you can walk the next day

Does anyone else feel that men are more happy to stay single longer now than they used to be now that the social pressure to be coupled up is less than it was?

Audidriver was talking about the pressure he's getting from friends and family to meet someone and get married but what's putting him off and making him think that he never wants to get married is that all his married friends complain that they never have any money, are always tired because of the kids and never have sex. It made me quite sad really.

waving really? I must have missed that about Handy and Twix...that does give me a hope though. Oh....and he just called me!! Just out of the blue, between meetings. I'm over the moon! (and feeling ravenous for hearing his voice) roll on tomorrow! He said he'd love it if I called him from time to time too 🙈. Much happyier Prizey!
Destiny I've given my Netflix login to people before, then when I get pissed off with them I change it, and lock them out. If it still works it looks like MrPosh is into you.

Can i join? Am unexpectedly dating tho theoretically "too soon". Men must be like buses, all at once, can't see that lasting for a 40-something single mum so feel ahould capitalise while I can! Currently 3ish irons - 2 from OLD, 1 from RL. Met all, leading from the back is Mr Tall who's rather attractive, local and v educated but rather aloof and mainly about him so not sure.. Then Mr Dangerous Ex-Player, hot, v erudite, big tease - can imagine FWB which have never done yet, lots in common apart from v same cultural norms, if that makes sense (he's Afro-Caribbean and born outside UK) . Then Mr Eligible - great chemistry, fun, know of him from RL which reassures but meeting too soon, sparking too soon and not v tall. Any thoughts?