Opening up for happiness

[hareinthemoon]

We are continuing on with our 30 days (or more) NC with the past (see previous thread here ) and we are looking into the future with hope and positivity.

A little bit of trepidation is allowed also. Contact with exes is discouraged, but support is the constant.

Thank you so much. I'm glad I helped you and now your words are helping me too. This too shall pass.
It's so difficult when you just want to ring them so they can take the pain away. It's a form of very cruel denial.

I'm at my friend's house. We might take a wander into town. Is it normal for it to hurt so much?

Morning all.
Happy Birthday to JennyMe! Hope you have a peaceful and happy day.
PF the anxiety is awful in the early days. As waving says it does ease off. I'm not out of the woods yet, it comes over me and I still sometimes wake up with dread. It feels like a nightmare!
It's a lovely sunny day and I'm on my own with ds. May have a day out somewhere. I find I've been taking my moods out on my ds a bit and it's not fair.
With it being bh, I wonder what he's doing

Just woken up again after a lie in (the only advantage to these antibiotics). Final day today thank goodness.

Happy birthday Jenny. Have a lovely day.

All of you have a lovely day. The sun is shining here so a much more positive start to the day. Good luck

I think it is sometimes the mornings that are the worst. I do have an awful sense of dread.
Happy birthday to you Jenny.
It is a beautiful day, Liz. I hope you enjoy the sunshine too.

I know what you mean PF, it's when you're sat around the house. In 20 mins I've gone from feeling positive to feeling anxious for no reason. Thank god for work tomorrow. I need to be surrounded by people.

Well- a common theme here. I got with ex while he was separated. So there you go. I too won't risk getting together with someone just out of a relationship again.

Sorry you feel tearful waving.
Yes I'll never get involved with a separated man again. At the moment I don't particularly want to get involved with a man again either. I'm feeling very wobbly and sad. Hoping I'll feel better soon. I knew in my gut it was wrong. I've deleted his number so I can't text him.

Waving - it's ok. I was thinking similar, I'm letting the thread down. I don't feel I'm doing as well as others, I was, but I'm just meh. Ditto, down about everything.
I've just tidied house, not even showered yet, so much for our sunny day out. I feel angry though. Angry at the world
I'm going to pull myself around somehow and get out for a few hours. Always on my own expected to just get on with it. Family not concerned, just get odd text from them.
Last time I saw him was 9 weeks ago and I had the text a week gone Friday from him but nothing since. I'm wasting my life I just can't seem to get out of it.

Hi all and welcome PF. Thanks so much for the birthday messages, I really appreciate them. I've got a lunch time lull.
I set off for the beach with a friend at 4.30am (yep, I'm knackered now) and we lit sparklers, I made giant bubbles and jumped in the sea. I'm really glad I did it.
Sad to say but I did check my email to see if he'd remembered today but nothing and there won't be so I'm using today to draw a line under it. I think I've been waiting to see what would happen so I could move on after today. I'm out again with friends this afternoon. I'm half happy that I'm able to manage today feeling relatively good but if I'm honest still feeling like I'm the eternally unhappily married / single girl. I know this is because I've had no standards, boundaries or ability to say no in the past.
I'm glad we're all honest on here though and say when we're down and that at least we're processing it and not rushing into anything else too soon.
My friend this morning said a wonderful thing that made my day, he said however he is feeling, happy or sad that I take his mood up a notch.

I'd love to walk around a local garden this afternoon and just be at peace but I've got to get ds and his friend out.

Apple, I've often found myself alone (which people seem to find surprising). If it wasn't for a hobby my son and I have I would usually be alone and I have a small family who usually do their own thing.

I don't think any of you bring the thread down, it's helpful to have people in the same boat who are honest about how they feel.

I too feel like the rest of the world are in happy families and I've been the odd one out for years before and after 2nd husband. I know that's not reality.

Afternoon all. JennyMe sounds v therapeutic. What is your hobby?
I've now weeded the garden and made picnic lunch. Lovely weather and am feel quite peaceful- no one is around...

I'm finding it difficult to trust anyone now. How do I restore faith?

Glad you're feeling at peace Apple, my ds and I roller skate.
Skating every week really has saved me at times. I've made friends with lots of people (men, although nobody I've clicked with) my age, it gets him out and we can still spend time together.

Emotions change so quickly don't they. I know feel really low, I just don't know how to move forward. I feel used like I wasted my life, invested in people who have let me down and I'm alone. I wonder what I've done to deserve it.
That sounds good fun JennyMe I need something where we can meet others. I feel so trapped, I'm still in marital home, I live not far from parents but may aswell be a million miles away.

Good waving.
I think my heart is breaking. I'm having a good cry

A cry might do you good. Thinking of you apple xx

I haven't been out but have caught up in house and done all washing. Wasn't really the plan for bh. I'm tired and drained and have a headache.
Good luck with your date waving- let us know how it goes!