DH's extreme reaction

[Thelaundrylady]

I really need some help with getting things into perspective right now.

Yesterday was my birthday and my DM bought me a12 month membership to our local leisure centre ( gym, swimming pool, classes) as she knows that I want to regain my fitness levels and lose some of the weight that I have gained over the last year or so.
I thought that this was a lovely gift and told my DH about it.
He has gone absolutely nuts about it saying its a waste of money, I shouldn't have accepted it, that I should have asked DM for cash instead so that we can put it towards next years holiday, how dare I expect him to look after DC so I can go to the gym (which i don't) I'm being selfish etc. We had a massive argument and he drove off to god knows where and is still not back home as yet.
It seems such a ridiculously extreme reaction but I don't know if I'm missing something ??

What an selfish, childish arse. Good for you for not caving in to his bullying tactics and emotional blackmail. He sounds so unattractive.

How strange. A husband who thinks YOUR birthday present from your mum should benefit HIM?!

I think I'd have replied to the txt:

'Just checked, insurance void if suicide, make it look like an accident. Ta'

But I am delightfully heartless and have zero time for manipulation

Fuck me, he was going to top himself because you would be going to the gym?

I would sit him down, very straight faced-and grave, and explain you will be contacting his GP first thing on Monday as he is clearly very unwell.

Chainsaw that mad me laugh - I wish I'd thought of that last night

Laundrylady this really isn't funny.

He is starting to sound really "odd". Are you normally happy with your relationship or would this be the start of maybe you re-thinking it

Mephistomarley - I thought it was

He is a controlling fuck. After sending a text saying enjoy the life insurance i would leave him. I could never forgive the flouncing off and sending me a text like that.

The comment was bloody hilarious but the situation is gravely serious

He was never going to top himself it was a control thing pure and simple.
I use humour as a coping strategy but this incident has made me reflect on our relationship.
I do love the old goat though.

Laundrylady this really isn't funny
I thought it was a suitable reply to some one who is trying to bully and manipulate.
He was deliberately trying to worry OP because he wasn't getting his own way so he stepped up the ante.

The op knows what state of mind he is in and of course it wouldn't be unit able for someone that is vulnerable but it is the perfect response to show you won't be brow beaten or scared of his behaviour.

Controlling. Tantruming. Immature.

Are you sure you married an older man? .

Motherfuckingchainsaw - hehe I'm pretty steely about emotional manipulation too and your reply is spot on.

How has his behaviour been today Laundry Lady? This really is very bizarre behaviour, is this a normal thing for him?
I know you love him, but that's really not accepable and he needs to know and understand just how much it has affected your relationship

I liked your suggested reply too Motherfuckingchainsaw perfect response in this situation

Frankly, he sounds quite unhinged (and like an awful, controlling, immature idiot).

Good for you for ignoring this.

pictish doit

I hope you get to the bottom of this op. Joking aside it sounds a horrible situation for you. Manipulation is a shite thing to have to deal with, I can only advise to go in hard headed and don't fall for any of his shit.

He has been very quiet today. Has apologised but we've not spoken in any depth. I've been busy with the DC and DGC all day.
I have made it very clear to him though that I will not put up with his childish, manipulative behaviour.
He is now working nights for the next three nights which is good as it gives me some head space.

insurance void if suicide, make it look like an accident. Ta

Bloody brilliant 😂😂😂😂😂😂

I should think he'd be very bloody quiet, you've got enough kids to look after without him regressing to toddler behaviour.
We'll done for saying your piece, I hope he's had a good long word with himself too.

What a monumental prick.

I said that before, but it needs saying again.

Jesus OP, how do you live like that?

What a prize arse.

I wouldn't believe he was driving around until 3am either to be fair.

Although I LOVE the void insurance comment

Does he go to the same gym?

No he doesn't go to a gym.