Evening ladies, welcome socks. That comment about prison is just vile. If he's clutching at that sort of straw, well, he knows he's f*ed. I don't know how the child arrangements order works. Can it be varied, stopped, if you have evidence that your dc are suffering?
Purple - hope your ds is ok today, and still standing firm about not going to his dads.
frog - I see you have been a lazy, non-contributing SAHM like me in the past! Apart from the car business, my ex is so pompous that he's never asked for anything from the house (which we own jointly).
He took most of his personal stuff. His nasty parents gave us a couple of bits of furniture years ago. Just before we split (which involved his dad) I had a day where I just lost it. I dragged said furniture into the garden, chopped it up with an axe, and left it in a pile to dump.
When he got in there had been some "rearranging" shall we say. He looked very sheepish and said, "Oh, weren't you going to paint that?" Obviously not.....
Thanks for car related thoughts. Donners - that is genius! Perhaps one where they do a weekly valet as well, for an extra charge !!
Some light hearted relief re. Car Gate ! Courtesy car collected today. It was new, lovely. Insurers still obliged to provide me with a car till all is settled. The guy from the new hire place was very friendly, kept saying you should have a like-for-like vehicle. I said yeah, great, but really just a car will do. So, they come and collect you and take you to their office.
Earlier this evening me and dc are waiting at home. Uber luxurious, sporty car cruises down the road. "Dusters?", says very young, hot guy driving it. Well, hopefully my neighbours thought look at Dusters, out on a hot date (although my son in the back somewhat spoiled the look!!)
So, we get in. The seat is so low I'm practically horizontal. Too embarrassed to say "Young man, is this seat in the right position?" So I spend the journey looking like I'm in a Bob Sleigh going down the Cresta Run. Dashboard looks like a flight deck, all super slick. We're talking about this and that. Ds asks what car we'll be getting. "This one". Yeah, right, I say, what one really?
He wasn't joking!! I now have the Duster Mobile sitting on my drive. My neighbours will either think I've pulled, moved, or become a drug dealer. I've paid a small amount to waive any liability as I'm terrified of damaging it. So, if anybody out there wants to come cruising with a mother of two, just check me out 
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