Dry 14

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This is the thread for all those who are living, or committed to living, life free from alcohol.
Go sober warriors !

thanks vxa how are you?

I'm just about to start my day 10 yoga and day 11 headspace.

I never keep up good intentions for this long. Most of the time I have big plans for life improvements and small changes, but it all falls by the wayside in favour of numbing myself out every night with an increasing amount of booze. I know I will have hard times ahead, but I am feeling good and strong and happy today.

choco how are you doing? The conversation with your partner sounds positive. Does he agree that drinking is a problem for you both? REALLY hard when there's a drinking-buddy element to the relationship. I do miss that aspect of my relationship with DH, and we're having to find different ways to get close and unwind, and it's taking a lot of time. But it is worth it. Very early on in this thread glad told me that all the relationship stuff is so much better without booze and I am hanging onto the hope that she is right.

Hi im a bit down today still but think that's day 2 of hangover. So annoyed with myself for pickin up bottle again. Think both of us not drinking will do us the world. I said today that he does encourage the drink and have to be strong.

Yeah he agrees that problem is on both of us. If there an argument it's about the booze either during or day after about eachother what we did when we was drunk.

Sorry not been around much today - have been keeping myself busy. Day 6 is coming to a close now - it's tough, really tough but I'm feeling a bit better in myself. Hope everyone is ok tonight xx

one no pressure on me then!
I do still stand by what I said. It doesn't always mean the relationship itself is better though ... just that our handling and awareness of our relationships is better without the numbing aspect of alcohol. Mine has gone through some rocky stuff but come out even better. Hope everyone else does as well xxx

everyone, here comes another week. Nice free hangover Monday morning here...hooray. Be kind to yourselves.

all round to go with that cake.
Looking forward to a sober evening alone doing mindfulness exercises, Netflix and reading Life after life. Oh and mumsnetting too!

The San pelligrino lime and mint sparkling water is such a treat drink and tastes sweet and bitter at the same time.

pimp and onewhite amazing congratulations

How are you holding up buddha and tattoos?

Keep strong lovely ladies

Hey everyone.

Well I did drink last night, knew I was going to by dinner time. So I drank wine until 4am whilst crying my tears out listening to sad music although I didn't get pissed as I drank slowly. All the crying last night has been cathartic and despite not a lot of sleep I feel a bit better. Still sad but I have to trust everything will work out ok. I'm not going to feel guilty about drinking as it's pointless. I didn't handle things very well but at least I'm not going to go on some mad bender like I would have done in the past.

Start afresh and raring to go for sobriety again. As part of the starting afresh I've spent the morning scrubbing and moving furniture for a change of scenery Bought a big notebook and will try that bullet journal, will probably get bored with it quickly but having two dc at different schools this year I need to be a bit more organised.

I'm going to give headspace a proper go myself and start pilates this week which I'm looking forward to.

A week now Alison, well done you!

Congrats pimp and white, awesome going

Sounds nice strong, haven't come across that flavour yet.

Day one and committed to not drinking today

You sound positive tattoos. Keep it up!
strongtea i must try that lime drink, sounds lovely. Cranberry juice and sparkling water is working well so far.
Losing weight yay! !! :)
Waiting for copy of Life after life to arrive. I've noticed a lot of Kate Atkinson books have referenced drinking, attitudes, habits etc which are very astute so looking forward to this one.
This evening I am tackling the ironing pile, OH working away so eating with the kids. I'm not tempted to drink today. Doing well about 2 weeks in (one minor slip) but preferring not to count days. Think I'm over the initial shock and feeling good, definitely want to continue with sobriety

I had a long stretch dry but became complacent. I stopped reading this thread and doing my sober homework. You really do need to keep up with these things! What is the name of the headspace app? I have searched for it but there seems to be so many.

Well done everyone with the big numbers and a kind kick up the bum to those who, like me, had a few false starts.

Hi Hadron, I remember you from one of the previous threads. I've nc about 5 times on this thread so can't remember which one it was now Good to see you again although not under the circumstances obviously. Not long back here myself.

Fab going gotta and on the losing weight too!! Yep ironing will be happening here tonight too, my most hated of chores.

Hi All - Apologies, can't name check yet but will do as we go along... Day 5 for me here. Feeling low today and keep thinking what a lovely G&T looks like all cold and icy with a slice of lemon and then I try to change the picture into what that would look like if left it out on a hot, sticky day - and then drink it - not good! These pictures in my head are actually helping a little.

I bought a Headspace App but not sure if there is just one meditation on it? Should there be more? If someone could please explain about this it would be appreciated.

I did the meditation last night before I went to sleep, the one where you enter a room with a mirror - was very relaxed so think that might help too.

Thank you for listening. This thread is helping as I read your posts. It is good to know there are others who feel the same.

X

Hi all- trying to keep up with a fast moving thread! Hope everyone is having a good evening.

KOKO.

Hadron
welcome back
its Headspace :)

hi all, sober but v hungover, struggling to keep liquids down. friend brought round lucozade. this is all such a mess

Tapas you do the free 10 day foundation course and then the next level is unlocked. So you have to start at Day 1 and then do day 2 , 3 etc. A bit like being Sober :)

Welcome back Hadron, your mention of sober homework many weeks ago hit the nail on the head for me on how to meet my goals. Still getting masses of support here.

Good evening buddha how has the day gone?

Strongtea yes the various San P lemonades and flavoured water were v useful for holiday mocktails. I like the grapefruit one half and half with fizzy water.

welcome back Hadron. I've been thinking about you. How are you?

tattoos lots of hugs from me. Youa re really going through the wringer. You're allowed to have a big wobble, and you are a fucking hero for dusting yourself off and getting yourself back on your feet. Take good and gentle care of yourself.

buddha I'm glad you're still here with us, and glad you have a friend to take care of you a little more. Post as much as you want. x x x x

I am knackered but just off to do my day of yoga and headspace. Feeling calm and alert and ready for a very very early night. Work is bonkers at the moment, but I am dealing with the stress much better than I have done previously. I'm really really grateful not to be hungover today.

day not so great just glad to be sober (albeit withdrawing)

hello, love. Were you a very very heavy drinker? Sudden withdrawal can be dangerous so maybe worth a trip to the GP? Are you on your own tonight? x x

on my own, tapered off the drinking over the weekend. Can anyone recommend some nice non al drinks to get in? trying to keep hydrated but struggling with water?

was thinking lucozade sport or something similar. blessing and an evil that shop is next door so can walk without too much stress.

Hi budda, very glad you came back to post I quite like the berry lucozade sport myself, know my gp once recommended flat coke for stomach flu so there must be something in the rumours. Take good care of yourself and hope you feel better soon x

Thanks for the kind words pillow, made me fill up a bit although that's not a major accomplishment the past few days

Ex dp and I were messaging tonight and after a suitable time and space has passed to get over the initial intense feelings stage would like to stay friends. She touched on something tonight saying what a great person I am and how I never give myself any credit and it got me thinking that I am so self critical. I've always had problems with feelings regarding my self worth and self esteem, always believing I'm never good enough or there must be something slightly damaged in me. One of my very best friends knows me very well, like from childhood and we also dated for a while at one stage and I still don't believe him if he says I'm a good person. Every one of my faults I magnify in my head, things I've done beat myself round the head with it way past when I should have let it go. I'm beginning to see that my perception of myself probably plays a part in my drinking too as it's when I drink none of that matters.

I really enjoyed herbal teas - drank six or seven a night the first couple of weeks. Partly thirst, partly wanting that feeling of having something to sip at all night.

I don't think I have a sweet tooth, but booze is sugar and your body might crave sugar, so maybe a sweet fizzy drink too? I like tonic water myself - still drink rather a lot of it...

you are doing amazingly well buddha. If going to the shop might be a temptation too far for you, maybe just take a couple of quid so you can buy the lucozade but nothing else?

x