Dry 14

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This is the thread for all those who are living, or committed to living, life free from alcohol.
Go sober warriors !

I'm so sorry buddha - I echo what others say about taking all the RL support you can get (A&E or samaritans).

onewhite is correct (as always! She's a star!) that shame and distress thrive in secrecy - let people know what's going on for you right now. Please reach out for the help you need and deserve.

This could be the beginning of a better new life for you Buddha
Concentrate on not drinking today, eat something sweet. Can you get to an AA meeting?

buddha it will pass. If you can do nothing else, do what you can to make each moment bearable and wait. If you have to lie in bed zoned out on crap telly then do that. If you can call someone - and I know how hard that is - then call someone. If you were my friend and you rang me first thing on a sunday morning, in so much pain, I'd be at the door with bacon rolls and takeaway coffees within the hour. People are kind and they will care.

Please, please seek out some RL support budda

I'm back to day one Four weeks yesterday and I fucked it. I tried to post on here before I picked up a drink but couldn't get the internet on my phone to work. Went to AA but it didn't help as most of the talk was about steps and higher powers and how it's an allergy. Stuff I don't get along with.

Dp and I broke up yesterday morning. It was awful, knew it was in the pipeline as we had issues that can't go away and we both agreed better now than six months down the line but I'm devastated. There was a lot of tears and I feel so very sad about it so I got drunk, one of those ones where you're seeking oblivion. I knew it wouldn't help, today I'm still here feeling so unbearably sad but with hangover too.

Oh tattoos I'm sorry to hear about your relationship and binge too. What a weekend

Really look after yourself today.

Morning All,

Sorry to hear some of you are having such woes. Stay strong and focused. Play it forward is an excellent way to stop yourself.

BUDDAH you can do this, if ur dp has or is going to leave then that in itself is a good reason to stop, it may even lead to a reconciliation , if that's what ur hoping for. Please try not to see it as an 'excuse' to drink as it's actually a positive reason to stop.

I've just completed day 5 (this is day 6). I feel like I've run a marathon and been beaten up!! Very tired too!! Haven't had an energy drink for a few days too (which is really good for me!!). And gonna try n quit the fags tomorrow too. I'm using the money I'll be saving as an incentive (am half Scottish so that may help!) ha ha.

Although I haven't posted in a few days I do come on and read what's been going on. Love this thread as it's so supportive.

Well done to everyone no matter what ur achievement is so far. It takes bollocks to come this far (onto the thread) and take the decision to want to stop. It's far far harder than doing nothing at all and staying as a drinker. The stories on here give newbies 'hope' that they too can do it. Even the stories of those that have fallen are inspirational as these people come back on to start again, serving as a lesson to us all.

❤

Hi my first post here on Day 4 after a long summer of always having a drink in my hand, hungover even whenn going to work. I am sick and tired of drinking. Its interesting what you say Bfb i feel exhausted and like i have run a marathon after 4 days Af - why is this? Good to join you all after lurking for too long x

Well done bigfat that is a massive achievement!
tattoos hope you're ok. Lots of self care today. This too shall pass.
buddha keep posting on here. Are your children with you? Do you have a friend you can phone? You need RL support. Sending huge hugs your way.
I'm irritable and grumpy with the kids this morning as they are hyper and I have a headache but infinitely beter then being hungover. Am starting to plan a few social activities with friends for the next few weeks as I can imagine participating whilst sober so that is positive.

Welcome tapas. I think it's your body detoxing and learning to function without alchol present. It stays in your system for a couple of days, so for lots of us we were always drinking, hungover than starting again drinking the next day or day after. When you break the cycle your body needs to readjust to bring alcohol free and eliminate the toxins, which can cause tiredness and irritability. Great work getting to day 4!

Thanks gotta that makes sense. I have said that i will commit to 8 weeks which for me has never been attempted for about 25 years prob more apart fron being pregnant when i treated my body as if it were a temple and then once the babies were born i started to drink again - crazy!

My Ds has bet me 20 pounds that i wont achieve this which says it all really and feeling ashamed that this is what its come to as im supposed to be incentivising the DC to achieve goals😒. So i know i have to do this

Welcome tapas

Thank you for the kind words. It would be easier if we could hate each other but we don't. Feel terrible todaý, like no matter what relationship I'm in I leave a trail of destruction behind me. She's hurting so very much and I can't fix it and feel to blame.

Worst of it is I have the majority of a bottle of wine sitting here and there's this voice going why not, you may as well.

tattoos you're kind words were such an inspiration to me on my first few sober days. Listen to your own advice and you'll know what to do. Pour it away and play it forward.

Hugs x

Oh dear... for all of you who need them today.
Happy 90 days to you and me onewhitepillow. Ten days to go till the big 100! Then I'm aiming for 6 months I think. ( as an aspiration not an end date)The longest we gave up for was 4 months so 6 would feel...an achievement...and I have hopes it will be easier then...just like I did for 100 days.

Morning all,

Don't know where to start!

Buddha please seek some real life help and keep posting here, what may seem like the end of the world now really could be the beginnings of something new and positive. I know that may seem impossible if you have "the fear" that in itself can completely blind your judgement, I know that all too well. Please be kind to yourself.

Bigfat how well are you doing!!! Never been one for energy drinks but I hear they can be really addictive too, so to go without them and the drink you are doing incredibly well. I'm thinking about quitting smoking too, trouble is the more I think about that the more I'm smoking! I bought one of those vape thingies earlier in the year and had cut right down to about 5 a day, major achievement for me, however we went on holiday and the lure of duty free was too much, did the old it will be ok I'll just smoke on holiday and get back on the vape thing when home, almost 3 months later I'm still smoking away arghhh!

Tattoos so sorry to hear about your relationship break up and your binge. In a way it's kind of similar to the curveball I talked about, you can plan any kind of social occasion coming up and deal with that but then when something one off comes out of the blue especially a break up of a relationship it comes as a shock, I think in your situation I would have pressed the "fuck it* button too. Pour that wine down the sink. Have you anybody in RL you can lean on for support?

Hello to everyone else, new and old

Second the pouring it away, you don't need that option swirling around. Get rid and focus on what next.

I'm so sorry to hear the pain some of you are in, I'm on my phone but however it was that said that you should look on this as the rock bottom was right. I started in on the Brave Babes thread at its inception and the OP JesusWhatsNext was at a point of absolute rock bottom when she stated the thread but she gained her sobriety and her family back. Nothing that has happened this weekend is permanent but to fight for happiness we have to lose the poison first.

Get the chocolates out, get Netflix on, jump in the bath or hide under a duvet. Get through today and we'll be here to support you and each other through every day following.

Hugs to you all and we'll done for coming here and not only know a change has to happen but having thd strength to make it.

KOKO

Urgh I hate auto correct. Hopefully you can decipher what I meant!

tattoos I am so sorry to hear about you and your partner. It's bound to hurt. And you had a bad night, and had a binge. But that doesn't take away the days you already had under your belt, and all the benefits they gave you, and it doesn't mean you have to carry on drinking.

Pour that bottle away and get out into the fresh air. Do you need some hang-over TLC? Care for your body. You deserve it. Big hugs.

Welcome tapas and well done bigfat and everyone else.

I've given up smoking too. I stopped in May, then picked it up again in June pretty much as soon as I packed in drinking. Now I've been stopped two weeks and I am really enjoying it. There's something about saying 'no' to bad habits that really builds the self esteem day by day. I don't know why or how it works, but it does.

Happy 90 days to pimp and to me. I am happy today. It feels incredible that I have done this. There are problems in my life. I am very lucky materially and also lucky to have physical health and two healthy children. Things with me and DP are not great, but he's not an arsehole, neither am I, and we need time. I feel so lucky and grateful.

We will get there, guys.

Thanks again and apologies for not namechecking, struggling to get my head straight.

I know I so would give the advice to pour it down the sink, and yet I haven't done it I am thinking of decantering it into containers for cooking and putting it in the freezer.

Ok hangover wise, surprising given all I had was a packet of crisps to eat yesterday. Waking up at 3 and guzzling water may have helped. Just forced myself to eat some fruit. I do have someone in RL, my best friend was messaging me last night to make sure I was ok and said to call him any time I need a coffee and chat.

I actually picked up the ciggies last night after two weeks off them too. Ugh. Don't care, will worry about that tomorrow.

Becoming, I love your namechange, much more fitting

Don't worry about diet or fags today *tattoos. But do you really need to have frozen wine for cooking so badly, or is that the witch speaking? Your witch doesn't want you to be happy and to cherish yourself, you know. All she wants is booze.

You have done SO WELL. You had a blip in circumstances that would fell most people. You have a hard time ahead - grief, perhaps, and some practical things to sort out? That means you need to be fighting fit and the top of your game.

Go on. Pour it away. Then smoke some fags and drink some tea and call your friend. x

My thinking being I'm ok with wine in the house for cooking, usually buy quarter bottles and they can sit there without sparking off cravings. You're all right though, I'll chuck it once I get back from the park with the dc. Will leave ringing him today as he's spending the day with his partner but will over the next day or two.

Had a lovely hot long shower and have spent the morning with dd giving me make overs with bright blue eye shadow Feeling much better and am resolved. I need to do this for myself and my dc. They are still so little and deserve better from me. I can't let this blip become a slide. Still very tearful and feeling really lonely but it will get easier and I know from previous experience there's no emotional growth from burying my feelings at the bottom of a bottle. I'll cry it out today, smoke and have a nice relaxing day with a chippie tea.

I hope you're still around and reading this budda, please post and let us know you're ok. This is such a lovely supportive, compassionate group with no judgement. We can be here for you online at least if you let us

Tattoos I second onewhites post just please pour it away and take away the temptation.

If you really do want to freeze for cooking can you not mix it with some stock first perhaps? But if you are really on the verge of drinking it, it's best just to get rid. You have come so far and it's just a blip, you know that, just hard to see through the hangover and the sadness from your break up, try and give yourself the amazing advice you've given us.

Have plenty of these and these and some virtual from me.

I'm off out to meet a friend and her dc's for a walk in the hope we can tire them out for an early night ready for school tomorrow.

KOKO everyone

I wrote that post Tattoos before your latest, you sound like despite it all you still have the fight in you, enjoy your day the best you can.

Thanks Falsenails, I must admit my resolve is wavering somewhat, I want to be numb. Bloody stupid song in the Barbie movie dd is watching has set me off crying. However, I'm hanging on for the minute.

Sorry for the me, me posts today.

Hugs tattoos

Pour that wine away - you don't need the temptation there. If your resolve is wavering keep busy, take it minute by minute and play the tape forwards. Most of all keep posting here- we can help you through.

Congratulations pimp and onewhite

choco how are you today ?