Dry 14

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This is the thread for all those who are living, or committed to living, life free from alcohol.
Go sober warriors !

Thanks patchwork and Maudlin. Really appreciated and you are so so right. I went AF not long prior to summer holidays and have been away a lot so I think I'm still figuring out my Friday night defences. Craving's passed, also realised I was bloody hungry.

Numpty

Xxx

Waves at onewhitepillow

Think I'll give headspace a go too not my usual kind of thing though, so I'm a bit sceptical ! How much is it please ? Mulling over trying the yoga sometime, but I am creaky and last time I tried it I was pregnant and found it a bit weird.....baby now about to take driving test ! I never could sit crossed legged, even at school !

Evening all hope everyone is ok. Another sober day for us all in the bag!! And - a whole sober 'anxiety-hangover-shame-cringe-free' weekend ahead of us with good sleeps and productive days

Stay strong lizzytee you can do it and slim if you don't mind me saying that woman was a twat. No decent woman ever asks unless it's obvious I.e 9 months or you already know. Take no notice of her. Years ago (when I was a lovely size 8) some dick in work asked me the same thing in the middle of a crowded office. Happens to us all - don't let her bother you.

Hi all - feeling really annoyed. Husband said he was stopping drinking for 4 weeks.. it lasted 4 days then today he's been drinking wine with friends and brought a bottle home. I'm feeling pretty irritated - where is his resolve? If I can do 8 months surely he can do a few weeks!!

Evening! This is a fast moving thread which is lovely to see and obviously not lovely in the sense of alcohol fucking so many of us over.

Slim I don't care if you mind me saying it, she definitely was a twat!

Maudlin that's an excellent play it forward, I'm going to C&P that to read on a low moment and I was just wondering what to do with myself so iPlayers a good plan...GBBO here I come!

X post. I know misscookie !

My DH said he'd give up with me, he had a beer at the station last night on way home and is out tonight getting pissed. He seems to think it doesn't count out of the house!

Everyone has their own journey but I wish he'd stop rolling in the verge every few steps

Hi everyone - well done for getting through another day!!! I honestly can't remember the last time I didn't have at least 1 drink on a Friday night - it's certainly over 2 years ago. Looking forward to a busy weekend - I've made sure I've to drive to places etc and got lots to go. Hope everyone has a lovely weekend and is kind to themselves xxx

Ok all asking about Headspace - app available for apple and android stuff and first 10 days are free and you can repeat them as much as you like without paying anything. After that its a sub to access the whole library but around a fiver a month and I promise it is SO GOOD. And you can download all the sessions!
I actually have 3 months free to gift so if any one wants it after they have done the 10 day free trial pm me - first come first gets it in 11 days :)
And I am happy to be a Buddy if you want, but please don't out me in RL if I choose to Buddy up with you !
Seriously this and AJ Stop Drinking Nowww have been life savers for me .

Headspace has given me peace from the internal chatter in my brain and the tools to stop it when it starts up AND something to do/listen to if I can't relax or sleep, anytime.
AJ stop drinking app, used every day, helps in the first month but after that I used Headspace every day and AJ as I felt I needed it. Both are wonderful

I've found this really useful x

glad I would love the headspace app please. Need to work on relaxation and mindfulness definitely.
I have a cold and feel rough not hungover though so obvs that is positive. I'm losing weight... hurrah!
Busy weekend at my parents' house so no opportunity to drink thank goodness.

Good morning to everyone. Here's to a positive alcohol free day to all (day 5 to me) xx

good morning!

I woke up very happy. I think it is too easy to forget how depressing and miserable it is to wake up, every single day, hungover and ashamed with a horrible taste in your mouth and empty bottles around the house.

I feel fresh and calm. My skin looks bloody brilliant - I look years younger than I did six months ago.

Good morning gotta and sorry to hear you're feeling ill. I got sick and feverish for about three weeks in the first month of me stopping: I think your immune system might take a bit of a battering as your system recalibrates itself. There's better times ahead!

alison good morning! Welcome to day 5. You are doing brilliantly. Are you noticing benefits yet?

x

Gosh! So many people on this thread! It's Brill but I'm not going to be able to name check you all.

I'm still af. Still very very sad about dp leaving me, but I am ok.

My kids are amazing, I love my job, and I'm well respected at work, which is cool. I have great friends, and I'm no longer a drunk!

Something like 110 days now?

Thinking of going to aa... Just mainly because I want to avoid the lonely trigger - and because all my friends default support offer has revolved around wine

I couldn't do it. I drank at the wedding. I feel so weak.

choc I hope you don't mind me saying this, but it seems to me you've not made a decision to stop drinking - you're thinking about moderating and before you go out, you wonder if you are going to drink. I am not saying this with judgement - if you want to moderate, or drink just as you were doing, then you should - we're all adults here. But I wonder if leaving the option on the table for you is making things harder? If you want to stop drinking (and that is IF) then perhaps telling everyone you don't drink anymore, and taking the decision off the table would make it easier for you?

finnish how are you doing? We're always here when you feel like company. You are doing so well.

lizzytee waves back! How lovely to see you this bright fine morning.

Morning all,

Too many new posts and people to keep up with!

Sorry to hear that Choc really do wish you well on whatever you decide but you don't seem happy about the fact you drank last night.

Well last night I realised that it had probably been one of the first Fridays since our holiday in June that I hadn't drunk. We were driving back from somewhere and as we passed the supermarket I thought usually I would be thinking of getting some wine and soda. Although I haven't been drinking stupid amounts (until Monday night) it really made me realise that I had formed a habit again.

Had a phone call from a good friend about an hour or so later, she was in a real state, she told me a family member of hers had died under really horrific circumstances, I had read it in the local news but as there was no names I had no clue who it was, really in shock I offered to go round there but as I said that I had a twinge of panic, this friend is a drinker and I know she would try ply me with drink, i know I'm a big girl and can say no but she is so persuasive as she is the sort of person who feels guilty at her own drinking and makes her feel better to give others drink, I'm not in anyway slating her she is one of the most loveliest people you could ever meet but it's just her way and under the circumstances and shock I may have slipped. Thankfully she said no and that she would pop down today with her DC so the DC's could play and she could talk, so felt relieved as drinking with the kids isn't what we would usually do. I just feel so bad that my friend is going through a truly awful time and whilst obviously first and foremost I'm there for her, my second thought is to think of myself and worry about drinking.

Anyway sorry for the offloading and rambling but I feel like I can share things here, hope you don't mind.

Hope everyone else is ok.

Oh FalseNails poor you and your friend! I think we're so conditioned to put everyone else first it can be hard to stand by something that we feel benefits only us.

It doesn't, in the long run having you sober and present as a form of support will be far more beneficial for your friend than you going over and getting pissed with her last night.

That said I find it hard to say no because it makes it all about why I'm not and I suppose that would take the focus on why you went over and...argh!

What I'm trying really badly to say is, don't feel bad. Sobriety is a selfish thing but it's okay to be selfish about something that's so important to you and yours.

I've had a name change so I'm all match match, hopefully it'll signal me not feeling like quite like such an unfit mother too!

Glad you name changed Becoming Your not an unfit mother, onward's and upwards for you and all of us

You summed up what I was trying to say in my rambling

She has a heart of gold but is like Mrs Doyle off Father Ted with the "go on go on" with a cup of tea but with wine and like you say I was panicked as I would have felt obliged as I didn't want to turn the situation to anything about me when she is going through a truly awful time. That said it was thankfully avoided.

help please

Hi Becomingsober please don't take offence but I don't think sobriety is in any way selfish. I feel very strongly that it is a very brave thing to do.......
I think I understand what you mean in that you have to make it a priority/put yourself first etc, but I honestly don't see that as selfish. I really don't.
Change the word "selfish" to "self care" and in actual fact do that for most things and it takes on a whole new meaning

Thanks onewhitepillowleft. I'm all about the self care today. Feel rotten so have cancelled best friend tonight. Refuse to feel guilty. Luckily I'm at my parents' house so they are helping with the childcare and I'm in bed for a bit.
falsenails sorry to hear about your friend. You will be there for her, perhaps over the phone or sending flowers, in your own way but you've done the right thing.

buddhasbelly are you ok?