Anyone up? DH is leaving me follow up thread. Onit's on it!!

[onitlikeacarbonnet]

Link to my last thread.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2658829-Anyone-up-DH-is-leaving-me?msgid=62446916

Hope it's all gone well onit..

Wanted to very quickly say I'm home
DC are sleeping soundly in their beds and I'm heading to mine now too.
Been a hard graft today but had good friends (and amazing, friendly fit moving guys) to keep me going. A few tears but overwhelming feelings of relief; not fear or sadness.
No party tonight as I'm knackered but I'll definitely crack a bottle tomorrow and hope some of you will join me. I'd never have thought I'd get here so fast. 3 months is not long for a families life to change, but change it has and, with your help, hopefully for the better.
thank you

I'm so pleased for you, I've been following every post on this thread. Raising a glass for you now

Hope the move has gone well onit. You deserve the happiest of times in the future & you will have them as you are amazing. Wishing you & your DCs the happiest of times in your new home. A new beginning for you

Hoorah, well done onit, Yes it is unheard of to have moved on so fast, even to be able to find & purchase your house in that time.
Not that it will be of any succour, Your XH has been far from the nastiest bastard we see here on MN.
KOKO

Thanks for the update.

Make sure you build some fun and rest time into your weekend ...don't make it all about work
;-)

What time are we opening the celebratory drinks?
Congratulations onit...so glad it went well for your new home

So happy for the three of you.
Onwards and definitely upwards for you all.
onit you are an amazing lady and I wish you nothing but happiness and health for your future.
💐 🍾xxx

Il be having a for you later Onit. I'm so very pleased for you. You've shown courage in the face of an awful situation and conducted yourself brilliantly. You've held your kids needs as most important despite your pain, in years to come they'll remember how well you held yourself. They're very lucky to have you. Enjoy the start of your new life!

Promised myself a wee glass of fizz once I've opened another 2 boxes; the second of which has my DVDs in (which I need as no tv and no wifi )
Give me half an hour

I couldn't wait-im having a gin in a tin and virtually chink chinking it with you.

Couldn't wait either onit ..but have raised my glass to you and toasted to your good health & happiness!

...and will continue in the same vein for at least the next 2 hours

I've finished my wee bottle of prosecco, managed my 2 boxes and unwrapped all my bigger pictures and mirrors too.
I thank you for your good wishes

Well done! Hope you sleep well tonight. Was so pleased you mainly felt relieved.

Fantastic news - sweet dreams xx

Delighted for you op,theres only one place to go.And thats up.So good luck to you and your dc

Been following your journey onit. I am in awe of your strength in the face of this awful situation you have found yourself in.

I really hope you are rewarded with much happiness and contentment in your new home.

Try to close your heart to the LCB, he does not deserve you and I don't think he ever did.

One day he will realise what he has thrown away. Not only has he deserted you but also, the DC he is supposed to love and cherish. He will find the guilt very hard to bare as time goes by, especially when it becomes apparent how much he is missing, by being a weekend dad.

I believe this relationship will soon flounder after the dust settles. He deserted his family and broke their hearts. It is built on deceit and his family's heartache. He will never find true happiness with this woman.

One day onit you will meet a good man who will love and care for you, and all this will be just a bad memory.

Remember hold your head high and be strong none of this was your fault.

So so so pleased for you and your DC onit God, you've more than lived up to your name! You are a total hero and I'm so excited for your new lives together. You've done so much already, under masses of emotional strain and unnecessary manipulative to downright nasty bullshit for LCB - now you can cut contact with him right down and focus on you and your DC's AMAZING NEW LIFE TOGETHER. You're free!!!!! Free of all the lying, cheating, blaming, self-pitying, shamelessly self-justifying bullshit and into the next brilliant, happy, supported, loved and loving phase of your life! YAY!

Just remembering when my LCB of a dad left us to secretly start a family abroad he didn't tell us about for five years we had just moved into this wreck of a house that needed everything done from wiring to water pipes not to get into the vile decor. Mum got things done but by bit and then my awesome stepdad and plumber/carpenter/electrician/plumber/general man of awesomeness came along and sorted it right out. Now it's worth heaps but much more importantly they are super loved up and lovely.

Anyway, slightly off track there - but so very very pleased for you.

dowser hopefully you are my mum and getting to read about how brilliant I think you are!

x a trillion

It still feels like a bereavement but, in the way of a death, there is strange comfort in the process of doing things.
It was horrible packing. I cried. A lot. Probably partly because I was doing it alone. Unpacking has been much more therapeutic even when I've been alone,
I'm not relishing the mornings job of phone calls to spend money I don't have; and to inform the many institutions I have dealings with that my address has changed.
But I have a friend popping in so its all good.
Kitten I hope dowser is your mum to! And I hope my DC are half as in love with me as adults as you obviously are with your amazing mum.

*too

Much much love and the bestest of wishes in your new home Onit!!!!

I think your kids will think you are fucking incredible onit! Because you bloody well are!!

How are you doing onit?

Running out of data on my phone and no broadband till the 27th
Other than that, totally knackered but ok.
DC settled really, really well. I feel at home already. Had loads of help the first couple of days. Good friends who scrubbed my bathroom and kitchen including the manky oven while I sorted furniture and boxes.

I'm washing machineless (though it's ordered) and ds has just wet his bed but my fault as I forgot his pull up at bedtime.
LCB had the DC after school on Monday but although I saw him when he dropped them off he had parked up the street and I stayed at my door so I didn't even see him properly. Couldn't tell you if he had work clothes on or civvies.
The morning of completion I texted to tell him the missives had concluded and he replied hours later with no reference to my text only to enquire when the best time would be to talk to the DC
Needless to say he spoke to them on Sunday morning. Even my solicitor commented on his lack of participation in the sale of his house.

I found out the address of OW. I'm considering going to see her. Not to intimidate or even speak at all. Just to look her in the eye.
I talked to a friend about it and she said I should just say "thank you and good luck" then drive away.