Anyone up? DH is leaving me follow up thread. Onit's on it!!

[onitlikeacarbonnet]

Link to my last thread.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2658829-Anyone-up-DH-is-leaving-me?msgid=62446916

Nothing so profound mix

You are all so amazingly supportive.
There is no way I would be here without the advice, sharing of your own stories, the anger when I was sad, the humour when I was low; the faith you've shown in a complete stranger on the Internet. More faith than the man who promised to love and cherish me.
The best decision I have made through all this was to start my original thread. From that dark place at 2 in the morning my life has changed beyond my worst nightmares. And I'm surviving.

I wish I could give each and every one of you a personal thank you.

I'll probably not have time over the next few days to keep updating but I want you to know how much I appreciate this and will continue to.

This thread is my journal, a record of the worst months of my life. I will keep posting as I want to be able to reflect, and measure the change in my outlook.

I know there will be more bad times to come. But I also know I'm not alone, irl or here.

It said fuck you, you lying, cheating cunt. I hope she fucks you up like you fucked me.

Not eloquent but extremely cathartic.

I've been following this whole thing and I think you're doing brilliantly. Respect x

A lovely post onit.

I hope you keep on posting when you can, even when things improve and you are properly back on your feet again. It'll be a lovely journal of doing up your own place and moving on to better times then, not just a record of the sad stuff.

Fingers crossed for a smooth and problem free moving day.

Stressing!!!! Needing handholding
Surveyor came yesterday to check very old extension and found some issues which, while they shouldn't stall the sale, are causing lots if extra worry and potentially could cost money which I don't have to spare.
After fees, the equity I have is a few thousand less than I'd hoped. I won't be able to do much other than chuck paint at the walls and certainly won't be able to fit a new kitchen or get roof fixed unless it's absolutely necessary.
I'm alone today and so organised I have some cleaning to do and that's about it.

Deep breaths! Moving is always stressful never mind what you are going through, don't worry about the new house. It's all cosmetic. I'm here if you need to talk

Thanks Gypsy
I'm trying to eat and going to dismantle my bed before I clean the kids bathroom
Plus ds managed to wet the bed last night for the first time in weeks. Despite my best efforts I guess the DC are nervous too

Try not to worry to much about it onit, it's good that your surveyor is doing a good job & is being thorough... But if it's not bad enough to stall the purchase it must be manageable?
You may not be able to rectify the issues immediately but you will & can in the future.
Almost there, keep onit

(I've pm'd you)
The kids will be fine. They will see it as a big adventure. Get the tunes on and rage clean. You are scrubbing away your past, the hurt and him.

Had a call from my solicitor to say 99.9% certain sale will conclude today
Keep everything crossed for me please and I'll buy you all a virtual drink later

Oh dear.
Just wondering why this survey didn't come in sooner.

I'm a bit confused. Is it on your old house on it or the new one.

Brilliant onit exciting times ahead!!!

Dowser the survey is on the house she is selling (I think!)

My dh' buyers had two surveys. On the second one he found some dry rot in the floor. They asked for .£1000 off so the house was initially listed at £109,000 ( we thought was a bit overpriced) and he came down to £94,000 with the extra thousand off.

We just wanted rid and luckily he wasn't buying another house.

I always thought if the buyers knocked you down from your original price the money they knocked off was to give them the chance to do repairs/ upgrade etc but that just doesn't appear to be the case now.

That makes sense thanks. I feared it was on the new one.

No it's the old house.
Hopeful they won't drop the offer as my solicitor is organising an indemnity.

I know they're keen to move too. Their broadband router got delivered today

Everything crossed here for you onit.

It doesn't matter if you can't paint it all in one go.
(when I was a student I had a painting party, everyone came in their old clothes, & painted/sanded/primed for 3 hours, then I paid them by way of a huge cheap meal, (I think it was curry or chilli) & vino !!! it was amazingly effective & we had the music loud !

also had a thought last night, you must find a way to tell your DCs that they their father cannot come into the house.

Sorry onit - I got confused and thought it was the new house

When you crack open a bottle - post and I'll crack one with you

Tomorrow is the beginning of your new start onit- I know it wont be easy but you have done so well to get this far so quickly.thinking of you and wishing you a nice smooth move for tomorrow-and here's a very unmumsnetty big x as well.

Good luck for tomorrow.

Let's hope all goes well.
We can have an online party .;-)

Thinking of you OP. Hopefully tomorrow is just the start of much happiness. I think your life is going you be for you and your DC's from now on and I think that is just how it should be. Good luck with the move!

Moving on up, Moving on out.......

Good luck today! Happy Moving Day !

Thinking of you and the little onits today

Thinking of you today and i hope the move goes smooth.

Hope you are all settled in..even if it's a little bit chaotic, it's all yours.
:-)