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Tinder Temptresses Unite....It's Dating Thread 106

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PrizeyPrize · 10/07/2016 15:24

  1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
  2. Develop a thick skin.
  3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
  4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
  5. Trust your gut instinct.
  6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
  7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
  8. If it's not fun, stop.
  9. Loo update is mandatory.
10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP
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AsteroidB314 · 14/07/2016 19:36

Wow, at mraudidriver losing weight! now sod the audi, the losing weight is impressive!

Whatam1doing · 14/07/2016 20:24

Sorry ladies had a mad few weeks ...bigred witches thanks for asking I am fine.. And while planeman went quiet for a few days not silent but quieter than he usually is straight after our night together, he stepped back up on the day of the funeral lovely texts and then a call at the weekend in which he apologised for being so quiet, lots of things that I knew about and some in didn't which had just messed with his head..We talked about how it had made me feel and we're fine again. He's coming here again tomorrow night Grin

sparklesnpearls · 14/07/2016 20:25

It's me dating mr tall, just had second date.

Went for lunch n then laid in the sun by the river on a blanket, very romantic n snogged like teenagers Blush

I'm falling....he feels the same I think. Surely this is too good to be true, need bringing back to earth

RosettaPebble · 14/07/2016 21:55

Oh whatami that is brilliant news about Planeman. I really hoped he was one of the good ones.

singleandfab 314 neat sparkles so pleased that you are all having such a great time with your dates. Gives us all hope.

hellhasnofury welcome to the thread.

scarf glad you are feeling better.

motheroreily · 14/07/2016 22:23

Thank you all for advice re a special phone for OLD.

A few people have asked to swop numbers after we exchanged 8 or so messages on one day and I didn't feel comfortable with it at all. You've made me feel like I'm not making a fuss about nothing.

Im not chatting to anyone interesting at the mo sadly. Hopefully someone will turn up soon.

TheWitchesofIzalith · 15/07/2016 00:04

Oh, now look at that, loads more messages since I last looked, no wonder my poor demented menopausal brain get everyone mixed up.

flipflap Aha! The paranoia, date number ten and the coughing jogged my memory. Awww no...surely it's not come to an end? I had high hopes for you two. Surely it cannot end, not with a bang but with a whimpercoat retrieval.

whatamidoing hurray for Planeman! That's actually cheered me right up after a rather shitty day (nothing date or man-related). Also because I googled ByeFelipe, found it on Instagram and then couldn't stop reading all those awful messages. So much anger and twisted thinking from those men, it was very depressing. Planeman still being lovely and the other genuinely decent chaps some of you here have met reminds me that it's not all bad.

singleand fabulous I laughed myself silly at the idea of the numbed hand trapped in Audidriver's nether regions! Oh, I do love your descriptions of your shenanigans. And glad you finally got together again after him not making much of an effort. I remember you saying it was confusing you, as you were used to them doing the chasing and you usually had them eating out of your hand by then, and I thought 'Oh, what a brilliant, confident woman!'

sparklesandpearls what a lovely romantic date...and I mixed up Mr Tall with flipflop's man who I know remember had another nickname relating to being tall. You do need bringing back to earth though, you're far too happy, so here-have a virtual slap with a wet fish for daring to be so bloody loved-up on date two. Sheer madness, that's what it is Wink

TheWitchesofIzalith · 15/07/2016 00:08

Just realised I used the phrase 'decent chaps' and have made myself sound like someone from the Upper Fourth at Mallory Towers. I shall be having treacle pudding with custard and lashings of ginger beer for tea and saying 'jolly good show' next.

TheWitchesofIzalith · 15/07/2016 00:10

bigredcar PM'd you, and cringeing at how long my message is...sorry!

314 and neatfreak Jolly good show! Grin

TheWitchesofIzalith · 15/07/2016 00:16

Oh God, I've done it again. bigredcar I havent PM'd you, it was nowwhatBlush

NowWhat1983 · 15/07/2016 03:47

Very insightful and helpful PM it was too Flowers

Thebigredcar · 15/07/2016 05:48

Haha so much confusion thewitches!

Thebigredcar · 15/07/2016 06:02

I agree hearing planeman is back on the ball makes all seem right in the world again! Smile

Have an iron I've been chatting to for a couple of wks now but had a break in the middle while I threw myself into my daft relationship with ultimatum guy. Id suggested having coffee before I went of the site for my break, now he keeps saying, 'I'd like to see you sometime' etc but never actually suggesting anything. Shall I just say great when? I keep expecting him to initiate it now!

sparklesnpearls · 15/07/2016 08:58

Thanks TheWitches need a slap because we now making plans for the future n even discussing a mini break Confused date 3 tomorrow he staying over so will meet my 3 year old in morning but doesn't feel wrong somehow

sparklesnpearls · 15/07/2016 09:00

The bigredcar sometimes fellas just need a nudge along, I asked MrTall out think he would have dithered for weeks otherwise Grin

NowWhat1983 · 15/07/2016 11:28

I dont think Ive been on here long enough to know about planeman?

Its now two weeks since my first date with surgeon....where we ended up seeing each other all weekend. Oh well guess that is that. Sad

WontLetThoseRobotsDefeatMe · 15/07/2016 12:49

Lovely to catch up on people's loved up news!! Loss of circulation did make me giggle too - sort if thing I'd do, then try to extricate myself in a sexy way and end up falling on my arse!

Have been working some odd night shifts so have seen rather a lot of Mr Toothbrush - all very lovely. But..... he asked if I fancied a nice dinner out tomorrow - of course! And I was so excited I didn't really listen and now I'm going to one of his (and his late wife's) oldest friends birthdays. Yikes! I'm suddenly feeling rather aware of it only being 7 months since she died and that I don't want to look like either a younger-model-rebound-fling or a heartless-widower-chasing-bitch. Help!!

TheWitchesofIzalith · 15/07/2016 20:18

Ooh, sparklesandpearls I really am pleased for you, and jokes about wet fish-slapping aside just keep a teeny, weeny, little bit of Rule 3 from the OP in the back of your mind?...it's hard I know, ,but it seems things are moving at quite a pace so it is worth just keeping in mind...
On the other hand, I wish I had a lovely man wanting to take me on a weekend away , so 90% of me wants to say 'sod rule 3, life's too short, so you go, girl!'

TheWitchesofIzalith · 15/07/2016 20:27

Oh, robots oo-er!

You have crossed an invisible barrier there...being introduced to old friends is definite 'proper girlfriend' territory. Congrats!
I totally see your dilemma though. I would say, that if they are old friends then they must know him very well, and therefore have respect for his judgement... so they will very likely think that you are neither of those things as they will know he isn't the type of man to get involved with someone in that way.
I'm confused again...are we talking about the widower that you know through a sport that you officiate at? and the shenanigans on the kitchen table? Or is that someone else who is seeing an older widower?

WontLetThoseRobotsDefeatMe · 15/07/2016 20:54

No kitchen table sports widower is me!

And yes, Rule 3 is somewhere ahem,in my mind. Not necessarily always at the forefront though!

RibinaPet · 15/07/2016 22:06

Hi all, do you mind if I join back into this thread? I think I last posted back in May. And in the meantime I've plucked up the courage to subscribe to online dating.

Love reading all your stories, sounds like you've got loads going on. Wishing good luck to everyone.

I just wondered if you guys could advise me what I'm doing wrong?

Firstly I know I'm ok looking, I get a reasonable amount of attention in real life, and the other day I got wolf whistled in the street (highlight of my year!)

I've picked a really nice photo which is 5 years old, prob a big no no, but it was the best one I had.

I've updated my profile to say divorced with kids, as I'd previously not put it on then a guy cut off messaging me when I revealed that fact after we'd been chatting a while, so thought best advice was to put it all up front.

Sooo, my strategy was to click 'like' everyone I like. I saw today that every one of them has viewed my profile. 15 men in total - and not one of them has liked me back!!!!

Is it only because I'm divorced with kids??

FlipFlopFlapFlup · 16/07/2016 00:44

Oh ribina, I did a similar thing. I'm not divorced but have a daughter... I use tinder and I'm in my early 20's. I didn't feel right putting my daughter on my pictures so never did and kept feeling like anyone I spoke to went quiet as soon as me having a daughter came up in conversation. So I put a picture up of me and her where her face is practically covered and my matches definitely decreased. Thing is, as horrible as it feels, I'd rather they didn't bother in the first place if it's not what they're looking for than build up a real rapport and then it turn out I wasn't the right profile they were looking for... Someone will come who won't care, I suppose it depends on age bracket etc FlowersFlowers

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sparklesnpearls · 16/07/2016 09:43

????? Am I on right thread ?Grin

NowWhat1983 · 16/07/2016 13:48

Have I maybe over estimated how much interest the guys get?

Imagining them having women tripping over themsleves all the time?

RibinaPet · 16/07/2016 13:51

Thanks flipflop, I'm nearly 40 so can't be too much of a shock about the kids.

You're right about getting it out of the way first if they're not going to be interested. I kind of get it, why would they go out of their way to date someone with kids, when there are loads of options for them meeting someone without kids.

It makes me think meeting someone naturally is better

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