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Tinder Temptresses Unite....It's Dating Thread 106

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PrizeyPrize · 10/07/2016 15:24

  1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
  2. Develop a thick skin.
  3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
  4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
  5. Trust your gut instinct.
  6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
  7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
  8. If it's not fun, stop.
  9. Loo update is mandatory.
10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP
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Whatam1doing · 18/08/2016 13:48

So many good dating stories.. am still on holiday and in constant contact with mrvtall we are 2 weeks into our 3 weeks of badly times holidays ..but having lots of lovely chats by message and on the phone via what's app. We've made plans for the bank holiday weekend when I get back as he hasn't got his kids that weekend. Am really looking forward to seeing him again.

And planeman has blown it.. nothing from him since the night in the hotel until I was about to board the plane and a "have a great holiday see you when yiu get back" text comes through. I replied with "don't think so bye!"

Am now not on any dating sites so think I'll see how things go with mrvtall for now.

singleandfabulous · 18/08/2016 13:57

Destinys laughing at the spreadsheet but bloody good idea and Shock at the man's girlfriend texting you.

Ewww at TheTongueMaster! and 'the alphabet experience? How original. Boys learn that in high school don't they? Tell him he needs to graduate! Grin

Oh Whatam1doing you've had some back luck there but glad Mrvtall is still going strong and keeping in touch. I had such high hopes for planeman.

I'm thinking of giving audidriver the heave-ho. As beautiful as he is, there's just no passion now we've dtd. He seems to have become very lazy just lying there Sad

singleandfabulous · 18/08/2016 13:58

Is PrizyPrize still around? We'll need a new thread soon.

Destinysdaughter · 18/08/2016 14:11

Well gotta laugh or you'd cry with despair sometimes!

And bad dating experiences do make good anecdotes so not all wasted.

So glad I rejoined this thread. 😀

Destinysdaughter · 18/08/2016 14:13

Single Mr T said he read it in a porn mag many years ago. Pre Internet obvs.

Whatam1doing · 18/08/2016 14:15

Oh single I know so did I but he's let himself down and I'm not gonna just be grateful that he was around when mum died and keep letting him off ...despite the mind blowing sex!!
mrvtall is lovely and I am really looking forward to spending time with him and having a laugh getting to know him. The 3 weeks holiday has meant we've talked and chatted more than I think we'd have done if we'd been at home and in work and just getting a text makes me smile, I'm sure it's gonna be a learing curve for me with him being blind but at least I know he likes me and isn't bothered what I look like !

Destinysdaughter · 18/08/2016 14:22

What hmm that would be an interesting experience being with someone who was blind. You'd never have another bad hair day again!

I had a male friend who had a blind gf. He said it was amazing, like she had a sixth sense. I guess your other senses get heightened when a major one is so restricted.

He also said the sex was mind blowing! 😀

minop · 18/08/2016 15:07

2nd date with mr flowers tomorrow night. We've been chatting none stop since our last date, he's really attentive and nice but very sarcastic. He's keeping my interest which is new for me. I'v found dating with kids hard work because of restrictions seeing them I start to get bored but he's been making me laugh.

With him sending me flowers on my birthday before we'd even met I now have a dilemma; it's his birthday on Tuesday. I can't just let it pass without doing anything but don't want to go over the top. Suggestions???

Sick I loved your present idea and I agree that if he doesn't like nice things done for him there's plenty out there that do!
It has made me second guess what to get flowers

Destinysdaughter · 18/08/2016 15:14

Hmm are you meeting on his bday? You could offer to take him out to dinner?

Or if you do have the same sense of humour something jokey?

I never know what to buy men.

minop · 18/08/2016 15:42

I offered to take him for dinner but he has his kids on his birthday.

We joke about my brother bought me a monkey teddy for my birthday so I don't have to date any apes (plus I had a childhood monkey teddy called Charles) this is Charles the 2nd and he says soon he's going to become redundant in keeping me company on a night.

I thought of getting him a lady monkey? Or is that too much?

ReCycledParent · 18/08/2016 16:01

minop you should get him a monkey onesie Grin

Destinysdaughter · 18/08/2016 18:25

That's hilarious!

In other news the osteopath who was sooo keen to meet tomorrow suddenly has a party to go to tomorrow! Why are these men sooo flakey...?

This is why it's wise to not put all your eggs in one basket. They keep falling out and smashing!

PrizeyPrize · 18/08/2016 20:11

Hey single yes I'm still here! 👋
Met a hottie that I really like....after several weeks of texting we finally met last week and chemistry was fabulous from get go, he's a lovely person and amazingly hot - I'm so attracted to him it's unreal. We ended up back at his and moose burger was duly served (think its out of character for him and me to do this on first date, but we both said it felt completely right) the sex was off the scale good. We've been texting/and or calling everyday and he still seems keen too. Night away is planned 😍 for next date. I'm trying to keep my sensible head on here as, well, we've all seen this lark before on here. But got to say, it feels like this may have potential, God I hope so. I'm just enjoying it for the moment no pressure or need to define "the relationship" - I'm just enjoying getting to know him.
So difficult to keep up with thread. If I don't get there in time to do a new one, feel free anyone to do the honours.

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knockingonheavensdoor · 18/08/2016 20:15

Is there any way of telling when someone was last active on tinder? I'm on date number 3 tomorrow with someone I really really like and am hoping he feels the same!

PrizeyPrize · 18/08/2016 20:20

Knocking yes you need chrome extension called Flamite. But do not do it....he probably is still active and there in lies the madness. Loads of guys use it just to pass time (hence all the no messagers) doesn't mean he's going on dates or even interested in meeting another woman. I would strongly suggest you don't fret, if even if he is, let him discover for himself that catches like you don't come along easily.

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knockingonheavensdoor · 18/08/2016 20:23

Ah ok, I'll take your advice then, thank you. He's lovely and I have now reason to suspect, it just feels too right and I can't help but think something must be wrong!

Lilacpink40 · 18/08/2016 20:23

Well second date went well. I'm considering moose burgers next date as I fancy the pants off him and if it doesn't go anywhere after I'd get on with life hopefully feeling less frustrated. It's good to hear serving burgers early can work out on here for others prize Grin

After years of a miserable marriage and months of getting over it, I'm now feeling positive. Even if it ends, at least I feel like I could have a new relationship.

minop lady monkey toy sounds a good present at it relates to your shared joke. Or matching onesies?

Lilacpink40 · 18/08/2016 20:26

knock I'm actively fighting second-guessing my new man. It's hard as I'm expecting to find out something bad, but so far nothing makes me want to end things.

knockingonheavensdoor · 18/08/2016 20:26

Excuse my ignorance but what's a moose burger?

knockingonheavensdoor · 18/08/2016 20:27

Oh good Lilac glad to hear things are going well and you're in the same boat

Destinysdaughter · 18/08/2016 20:28

It's shagging!

knockingonheavensdoor · 18/08/2016 20:28

Oh thank you! I'm hoping for one of those this weekend!! 4 long dry years for me Blush

Destinysdaughter · 18/08/2016 20:29

It's a reference to something about not sleeping with men too early from 'Why men love bitches' book - well worth a read!

knockingonheavensdoor · 18/08/2016 20:30

Is 3 dates too early? I'm all of quiver over this Confused

Lilacpink40 · 18/08/2016 20:31

It's 8 months for me, but my marriage was rubbish so I didn't completely let go for years. It would be good to really have fun Blush

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