Tinder Temptresses Unite....It's Dating Thread 106

[PrizeyPrize]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP

Yep mine was too. I can totally relate. We need some fun in our lives

Third date for me this weekend. I'm wondering if too early, but just want him!

Ha! Me too. 3rd date Friday, 4th Saturday!

Lilac do some Amy Young therapy.....find her on YouTube and watch as many of her videos as you can. She's amazing and really knocks sense into me when the crazies start to happen.
knocking moose burger is giving up the goodies, the jiggery pokerey, the hot sex. Apparently men like to chase the stag, to feel like he's earnt that rare venison steak that he's worked so hard to achieve, like its prized and valued. If you serve up a moose burger on a plate, he's not worked at it and he values it less. Load of contrived manipulative bullshit if you ask me, those rules and treat them mean tactics are so out dated. If he's going to shag and leave he'll do it anyway if he's a knob so wtf is all the waiting around for, if he's a decent guy and you have something special he won't cum and go.

We've sexted so I'm assuming if I invite him back he'll know exactly what I mean.

Thanks prize I'll look that up!

This one is perfect! Love her!

Lololol at moose burgers! Always wondered what that was!

lilac I'm 8 months out too- you, knocking and I we bloody deserve some action! (And everyone else too ) X and I had a break up shag a while back but it was most unsatisafactory in all senses of the word.

Thanks prizey for the link and I'm glad there is a hottie on the scene :) How did you meet? And does he have a nickname?!

Thanks Sick ....hmmm...I think I'm gonna go with HotnCool - sums him up perfectly!

Oh & on Tinder of all places....he's a needle in a haystack!

So I was meant to be out tonight with Mr Needy from the other day who invited himself to my house and then took the huff when I said no! He apologised and said he was tired so we arranged to both going out for a couple of drinks tonight however he started texting how much he loved me and wanted a future with me and if I loved him I wouldnt go back on POF! He then said he was going to drive and would give me a lift home which i was not happy about - I said no to the lift so he has stropped off again! Worries me how needy some of these guys are!

Anyway back chatting online and texting a few men - its been 18 months for me without sex and I am quite keen but not with needy blokes lol.

Red flags aplenty there! 😱

Yes I think a parade of red flags awaving there - my last ex husband was needy and told me he loved me within a couple of weeks so I am very wary of over needy guys but I think this was a world record!

Why do you think you attract them?

I'm probably too nice and give them the benefit of the doubt - I probably need to get a bit harder but its not really in my personality. I am getting better at weeding them out tho.

I'm sure there is a happy medium out there somewhere!

I think dating is pretty good therapy- I'm learning more about myself with each ballsup!

Good evening to you all! A year and a half after my husband left and I am feeling so much better about life and, well, myself. There are a few men out there with who I am having some good moments, mutual attraction, laughs, conversations, drinks but haven't actually DTD yet. I am NOT looking for a serious relationship but some fun with decent men. I'm 47 btw.

Anyway, I live in France and August in France is like living in a ghost town; businesses and shops close for a month and everyone leaves town. I'm off to England next week but am looking forward to three rather lovely men who will be returning early September too.

I've just FOR THE FIRST TIME joined a French dating site. It's been three days and I don't know whether to laugh out loud or cry. All the things I've heard about are so true; most of them are after a fling (aka sex), I think? But, is it very wrong of me to want a bit of light-hearted fun after being so very good in a not so good marriage and very, very good ever since? I don't want to take any risks, obviously...

So, my questions to you is should I run a mile from those who are honestly saying they don't want a serious relationship? And do you have any advice on how to avoid making a complete fool of myself?

This if you want fun and they want fun, you're both single and you use protection where's the harm?

If you think at all that you could feel upset afterwards don't do it.

You can only have a feeling if you let yourself feel it. For example, you sleep with a new non-serious-relationship man and he doesn't phone afterwards.
A) You decide that you feel like a fool
B) You decide you feel it was fun and it's fine
C) You decide you feel it was ok, but in the future you'd prefer to be in a relationship.

Your feelings are your feelings. If someone tries to impose or adapt your feelings they only win if you go along with them.

Lesson 2,3,4 and 5 learnt!

Flowers turned out to be an arsehole. He made a comment about women and sex I didn't agree with and I told him straight away he was out of line. He apologise and was lovely after saying it was banter that went too far so we moved passed it.

2.30 today when we are meeting at 6 I text him to arrange where to meet and I get back that he was cancelling due to our personalities clashing and blocked me before I could even respond!

I was sad at first but think I'v missed a bullet to be honest! If he acts like that after been pulled up once then do one out of my life child!!!

I have a date on Wednesday lined up and have learnt my lesson! Don't go goo goo over some flowers!

Bloody hell that was brutal! Hope you didn't get him a pressie...

Luckily I didn't! What a cock!

Life is not about the mistakes you make but about how you learn from them!

Lessons learnt!

Saw strawberries and prosecco man last night. Just a sofa and tv night so nothing too exciting. I'm off on holiday in the morning for ten days so we will see. He has said he will miss me so...

He's nice. But I'm not 100% convinced as we are very different. But different can sometimes be good. Who knows? I'm going to enjoy my holiday and see where we are when I get back.

Addicted signing off for ten days in the sun. See you on the other side

Hi guys. I've secretly read your thread from afar and gleaned a lot of comfort from it knowing I wasn't alone!
Tonight may i please share the fact I have a date tomorrow and I'm buzzing......it's first date, havnt communicated massively (which is appealing as gives me the feel he's not desperate like some of the men online!) but enough to feel we like each other.
I've had quite a few dates in my few years of singledom but never before have i felt like this! It's not nerves it's excitement like Christmas is coming for a child! Could it really mean it's going to go good!!!
Off to read the rest of your news just needed to blurt all of that out 😳

sicknspan I totally agree. Dating has been therapy for me...have learnt so much about myself and what I want! I was thinking today...that I am a very different person to the first time I dated.