Tinder Temptresses Unite....It's Dating Thread 106

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1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP

I believe the "last seen" in WhatsApp is general and not chat dependant, but you can hide this (though in turn this does hide all last seen statuses from you)

Settings-Account-Privacy-Last Seen

Another lack of date he was coming down booking a hotel went quiet Friday today nothing I tried to get back on tinder but it threw me out so I'm guessing even tinder doesn't want me bugger

Thanks Sickandspan.

So...I joined Tinder last night. Got quite a few matches which was a little confidence boost. Chatted to a few but found it hard work to be a honest. It didn't really flow very easily.

I might try Plenty of fish next...I cannot actually imagine going to meet anybody. I was with my ex for 10 years and that ended 3 years ago so I haven't been on a date for 13 years!!!

Oh no abbs! It's so rude isnt it. Sorry.

Playdough good going on signing up. Hope the matches come to something! First pof date I went on was my first in 20 years. I was literally shaking with nerves and had to sit on my hands, didn't even trust myself to light a cigarette because it would have been so obvious

abbs that's so annoying! Why do they do this?

I'm finally meeting the writer and have just confirmed it. I do hop we get on, I feel like I know him already.

Will let you know.

However stupidly I went out drinking last night and didn't get home till 1, woke up at 7 feeling well rough, took some paracetamol and tried to get a bit more sleep! Need to jump in the shower and wake myself up!

Gonna wear this dress for my date...

Destinysdaughter...the dress is great! Lovely colour. You look good in it!

Sickandspan...thanks! That's really reassuring- if you can do it after 20 years then I can do it too. I can imagine if be a wreck too! I'd be worried I'd clam up and not know what to say. It's all way out my comfort zone but surprisingly fun! Was getting a buzz each time it was a match 😂 felt like I was 'winning' a game, haha

I used to feel sick with nerves before a blind date and always felt like chickening out a few minutes before

However once you've got over the initial awkward small talk it can be good fun! A glass of wine always helps too...😀

Wow Destinys that looks fantastic. Good luck with your writer date!

Oh god yes, the nerves. Mine are a lot better these days thank god but I still get them really badly if I really fancy someone and I've been on over 100 dates so you'd think I'd be a pro by now!

I've just had a really weird date. Met the writer at 1 and we stayed in the pub till 8, so a really long date! First thing was, he was much more posh ( well spoken ) than I imagined, was quite a shock! Also taller and better looking. We had a lot in common, have worked in similar fields, so had some good conversations about that. He reminded me of Tom Huddleston ( not as good looking tho) but a similar vibe.

So all good but...I have got no idea whether he fancied me or not! Usually I can tell, but he was so polite and well mannered I've literally got no idea. I wouldn't be surprised if he sent me a ' you were lovely but there was no chemistry' emails. Or maybe he did like me but is too polite to show it!

We will see...

And he had v pale, bright blue eyes, almost exactly like mine, which was a bit disconcerting!

Where is everybody??

Im here! How strange. How did the date conclude? (handshake? hug? cheek kiss?) I like posh totty! Hardly ever meet any though but I adore good manners. Did you fancy him?

Well he gave me a lift home, kissed goodbye ( on the mouth but not a snog) , I said it would be nice to meet again, and he agreed, and I said well, you know how to contact me. So we spent 7 hours this together, didn't run out of conversation,had a laugh and he kept buying me wine...he's not my normal type physically but he was attractive. He wasn't sleazy or pushy which was nice.

I really wanted to send a loo update when I realised how posh he was, as I was a bit shocked but couldn't get wifi!

ha! @ the loo update fail. how annoying! Well the kiss looks promissing but perhaps manners prevented him from snogging you. I think you'll have to wait and see if he gets in touch. looks positive though.

Love the dress destinys! How on earth did he manage to be so well mannered with boobs like that Glad Writer was fun.

And 100 dates single? I know who I'll be coming to for dating advice!

Have tentatively planned a second date with Welshboy for next Saturday night. Am going to stoke the fire for other irons to distract me from pinning too much hope on it

Sick lol! I did have a shawl to cover my modesty...

Think I've probably had over 100 dates too as I've been doing this for years, in between relationships. I've had more than 20 this year alone!

Good plan to have a few extra fires on the go as you never know how they're going to turn out.

I got a text from Mr posh writer saying lovely to meet you, look forward to cooking you dinner. We did talk about how much he enjoys cooking but doesn't do it much for himself. So thats nice

Ah! There you go Destinys - he was just showing those impeccable manners.

Oh Sick Im glad you & Welshboy are still getting it on - he sounds great & really keen too. Always good to have ofher irons though just in case.

Yes, I realise '100 dates' makes me sound like a right goer but Im cough mid cough forties and Ive done a bit of online dating and refuse to settle so they soon mount up. A bit like interviews (had dozens of those too). Quiet good at superficial meetings which i know i can walk away from in an hour or so. The problem comes when I REALLY like someone though; dear me, i suffer from nerves really badly then - just terrible; all my flirtiness, sparkle and wit fly out of the window and Im left with smiling and nodding in my sodding seduction repertoire. Great.

Been thinking about my epic 7 hour date yesterday and was thinking, there weren't any red flags! So, he;

Didn't slag off any exes, in fact is friends with most of them
Isn't disrespectful of women or sexist
Has a good relationship with his mum
Is into personal development ( he teaches it )
Listens
Isn't boastful
Is very articulate
Isn't overweight
Can cook
Has lots of friends, Inc female friends

So I'm now thinking, he's too good for me! Aaaaargh!

I need to find some faults with this guy...

Meanwhile, this is my latest hot prospect from Pof ( ie Plenty of Fuckwits)

"wow top pics babe sexy smile great body real cracler love sexy curvy blondes and never 44 your to sexy young looking indeed serious and be good to know you "

How do you even reply to garbage like this? ( not that I'm going to, but still...)

I had an epic date yesterday too...

Met at 1pm at Costa and be brought me a present of a box of posh tea (I'd made it clear in my profile how much I hated coffee and loved tea) so big plus there. We chatted for an hour or so then decided to go to the local country park for a walk. Ended up having tea and cake there and then sat on a wall by the lake for an hour or so just chatting and holding hands.

Then back to mine and sat in the garden for an hour in the sun with more chatting. Then we went to the chippy and had fish and chips while watching the Olympics. Then possibly the nicest 'stand up hug' I've ever had followed by a bit of snogging and he left at 9.20.

All clothes intact and a bit of a sore chin from the bristle. It was simply perfect and I'm (hopefully) seeing him again tomorrow. If not, then I had the best time but I do have a good feeling. And he's 39 (I am almost 46)!!

Addicted that sounds lovely! And that age difference is nothing really. So nice that you just did normal stuff together, and buying you tea shows you he pays attention. Always a good sign!

I thought so. He's completely different to my usual 'type' but perhaps that's what's needed. He's very tactile too which I love. I know it's all BS until it isn't but I'm hoping that it will work out. At least until tomorrow as I want to snog him again..

Sometimes our 'type' isn't really our type if you know what I mean.

Well Posh has emailed me 8 times today! Stuff from Youtube and even his poetry! It's nice and makes a change to not be getting loads of smutty messages. Unfortunately, he's not gonna be free till the 26th, which is ages away. And...I'd been thinking of going away that weekend. Not sure whether to now...?