Tinder Temptresses Unite....It's Dating Thread 106

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1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP

Hi can I join? Been single for 18 months and met quite a lot of men through pof but joined tinder last week and I love it! I love the way they can't message you unless you've swiped right!

I've already got two planned, one on Sunday, he seems a bit laddish but seems fun which is what I need, and another on Monday night who I feel really strangely attracted to even though he's not my type at all! He's only 5ft 6 and has ginger hair!

I do actually like ginger hair btw but my usual type is tall well built dark guys which is why I mentioned it.

Also in 30 and these two are 22 and 25!

Welcome Kikibanana86 and congratulations on your 2 upcoming dates. How long is it until you are meeting them?

kiki I'm a lurker on here, never post, but just wanted to tell you - one of the first people I spoke to on OLD I discounted as I felt he was too young for me. He looked even younger than his age too, and wasn't what I'd consider my type at all. I went on countless other dates none of which had anything come of it.

Eventually agreed to meet the younger one, had the best time, and eight weeks later I am very, very happy.

Well, I've had it with Tinder. It's just pointless. I know I mentioned this a few days ago, but there is no point to it if the distance facility isn't even slightly accurate. Aside from the usual and aforementioned women supposedly within 35 miles of me whose profiles state they are in London (95 miles), Manchester (130 miles), Brighton (156 miles), today I have been presented with profiles from a woman who Tinder says is 18 miles away but who is in Edinburgh (337 miles) and 22 miles away but who is in KOREA. I had a profile yesterday from a woman who was apparently 1268 miles away which somehow seems quite a long way out of my 35 mile range setting.

Ah well, I can now tick Tinder off the list as being as useless as POF, Match, MySingleFriend and OKCupid. Next!

Have been lurking so thought I would introduce myself. Have been OLD since Christmas with varying degrees of success.

Several dates, a few possibilities but nothing has really come to fruition. I seem to pick the ones who are petrified of actually opening up. Got no real irons in at the moment as the ones I had seem to have fizzled so maybe it's time to try a different approach. Perhaps I should accept the date request from the 31 year old (I am nearly 46)...?

I use POF as I didn't get on well with Match. I quite like POF. Love the rules particularly the BS one.

Hello new peeps!

Well my date for today has just bloody cancelled on me!

Don't know if it's genuine or he just got cold feet. He said there was an accident at one of the sites he manages. Oh well, I'm out drinking tomorrow night and meeting the writer on Sunday so will have an early night instead...!

Destinysdaughter That is not good news about your date for today! I really hope he is genuine and picks the ball up and actively looks to rearrange the date.

Welcome Kikibanana86 & JOEY & addicted

Kikibanana86 I love ginger and blonde men too. Good luck!

JOEY that's the one feature that tempts me to try Tinder too. On other sites you just get inundated with messages from 'unsuitables.' Tell us how you get on with your younger men. I'm also a fan of younger men - see my posts All my irons are younger (still, not that hard as I'm 40-odd!)

Addicted Try the 31 year old. What have you got to lose? He may be fun, sexy, exciting, or just plain nice and interesting. Good to cut your dating teeth on at the very least. Have I mentioned that I'm a fan of younger men?

Destinys That sounds reasonable to be honest. It's not like his dog has died or something obvious. With your dating mojo, I'm sure he'll be back and you've still got the other irons. Don't forget to report back.

Well, my irons are all still hot but Audidriver has his son this weekend so I wont see him but he's been in touch all week so I'm happy. MrIT has recovered from whatever laid him low but still no offer of meeting up and I'm blowed if I'll be the one to arrange anything lazy arse

DrSeth I've just signed up to OKC and MySingleFriend so that doesn't bode well. Have you tried GruniadSoulMates?

joey that's nice to hear I do tend to go for younger men I don't really look for men over 35, reason being in not after marriage, babies, cohabitation etc, I've done all of that and have 5 kids and a house I enjoy being in control of! Lol

Also I secretly feel a bit younger than 30, I look it too, not much but I can pass for mid 20s,( it's the cheeks ) and I feel like the younger men are more on my wavelength at this point in my life.

I'm actually meeting the lady one, he's called zac, my friend cancelled on me tonight so he asked if we could meet up and I thought why not.

What's an iron btw?

That was meant to be the laddy one not the lady one

An 'iron' is having 'irons in the fire', ie, hot prospects, potential good dates/ men ( or women! )

Lol Kiki at your lady date! And welcome too :)

Destinys hope your night in was a good one.

recycled it wasnt the exclusvity bit that I was wondering about, just more about how "obvious" it is when doing OLD as with pof (dont know about others, pof is the only one I have)you can see when they've been online can't you. As I haven't got time to date more that one person at a time (and i do say this to ali my irons)I feel a bit awkward about logging in.

Morning all!

I'm actually really glad my date cancelled on me last night. I wasn't all that keen on him and I made some lovely soup, and put a bit of fake tan on my face so I look all lovely and glowy this morning instead of knackered! 😁

morning my date cancelled too well not so much cancelled as not bothered to get in touch when he was collecting me so i stayed in and didn't bother to chase him seriously it's supposed to be our second date why the fuck should i be chasing him?

i might have another date tonight though we shall see!

What is with all the flaky men! I had me plaster cancel on me on Wednesday. He's been grovelling ever since and I think it was for genuine reasons but tonight is my long awaited date with mr flowers.

He has been in constant contact the whole time he's been on holiday and we click really well via text. I'v not got too attached by keeping my other irons warm. We'l see what happens tonight! Fingers crossed he's as nice in real life!

I too had a night in last night and it was lovely to just pamper myself. I feel all glowy and hot!

Good luck to those on dates tonight. I'l be doing the loo update later. Can't wait to hear your stories too.

Well last night went well! He was exactly how I thought he would be, a bit of a geezer with a Danny dyer voice he was also really really hot! not the kind of person I would go for relationship wise but that's it what I'm looking for and he's not either.

Ended up going back to mine and the inevitable happened! Said we would meet up again Sunday.

The ones who cancel on you aren't worth bothering with ime, keep looking!

Kik that's exciting!

( glad somebody's getting some...) 😁

Sorry you've had cancellers too minop and abbs. Rubbishness.

Mrwelshboy was lovely. Glad i didnt talk myself out of going. We had a picnic at the castle then went back to his for snogging and chat. I was worried that we'd talked too much on the phone but it just meant that we were already pretty comfortable and it felt so easy. Would very much like to do more snog and chat but just see how it goes. We talked about going for a hike next Sunday perhaps but didn't confirm. Really hope it happens he was REALLY nice. And I fancied him rotten

Sick yay another great date! How lovely to go for a picnic at a castle, that's so romantic. 😁

hi all...
been lurking for a while . Have been single for 3 and a bit years. Have DC. Been building my life up, career going well (great actually), bought my own house and have got lots of projects done- am now a competent (ish) DIYer. My relationship with the DC's dad was quite abusive- he was controlling (verbal and mentally) and very very vicious with his tongue, calling me ugly, fat etc everything a girl wants to hear! He was also a cheater. Anyway....I've been busy building my life up and now would like to start dating. I'm JUST starting to feel a bit lonely and like I'm missing male company. I'm very nervous abouty starting dating and whether my skin will be thick enough to cope.

How did you know you were ready?

Hey playdough! I'd say that if youre ready enough to think about it then go for it. I've just come from a similar sounding relationship so for you. It's a bit of a distraction for me and I have no intentions of anything serious but it is nice for my ego in that I've been on a few dates now, and they have wanted to meet again even if I didn't. And so you can just choose whether there is someone you like enough to see again, take it at your own pace/ you're in control.

I like plenty if fish because I can hide my profile pics and just choose who I message. Again its about keeping control of it for me.

Go on have a go, its fun!

Re:whatsapp, you know the "last seen" time, is that whatsapp in general or your conversation with them? Ex is bugging me and I'm thinking about blocking him.