Tinder Temptresses Unite....It's Dating Thread 106

[PrizeyPrize]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP

Destinysdaughter I have had a few matches that have turned out to be a no on the dating front but mutually good from an otherwise perspective so have kept in touch. It's good when that happens. It's also good that you have potential "fun" iron to make up for the potential lack from writer guy

Yes it's true recycled, he's messaged me this morning but no mention of meeting up..this is waaaaay too slow for me anyway I need to see someone regular to keep my interest.

I now have another iron which is looking promising MrCamper, although not quite as hot as Fireman he looks nice n we have a lot in common so think he'll occupy my time a bit more n stop me analysing fireman.

Destiny mrwriter sounds nice

Yes I got a gardener and decorator from one of mine!

I've got lots of 'irons' right now, some will probably be fun only but some could possibly become something more. I see it as a numbers game really...

( tho sonetimes it feels more like a full time job! )

OK, so I said that I would get a bit of an outside perspective on how fast things are moving with MissAwsome so here we go.
Two weeks and two days from the fist date we had our 7th date which was our first weekend together and ended up involving the following over the three days:
Meeting her Father
Told to leave a spare toothbrush and other things at hers
Met a few of her Friends
Given Spare Keys to her place

Since then there have been more meeting of her friends, requests to meet my friends and family (not happened yet due to other issues), the L word, talks about the future, invites to family events, meeting my daughter (introduced as my friend). These have rolled out more slowly though than the flood that happened on date number 7.

Even writing this I am thinking that I should be worried but things are really good and I can really see myself with her. She is definitely not a bunny boiler, I have dated enough of them to know

Way I look at it Recycled is if it's meant to be then it will be. To be honest I'm just like MissAwesome (love the name ) in that if I like someone n it's reciprocated then why mess about eh? Life too short n we not teenagers anymore. I know what I want in life and I think you should grab happiness.

Saying that tho...I've hurt a couple of guys in the past by taking thingsfast and then realising I don't quite like them as much as I thought.., I get bored easy tho so think that's my problem.

Not sure if that's good advice or not

I think when it's right it's right, you just want to be with them all the time and include them in your life. When it's reciprocated then it's the best feeling in the world!

Oh my gosh, I havent checked in for a week and there is SO much!

I will catch up, but for those who know me from a few pages back, Brown Eyes turned out to be a douche (genuinely gutted, but his radio silence tells me all).

In other news, from the old old thread, YPT is (kind of) back on the scene. -The things I would do to him- We have an undeniable tension and get on well, but I feel like that is where it is stuck!

Potential new RL iron. He was planning to take me out for an awesome first date, yet I have self sabotaged by making excuses. And the thing is, this guy IS ONE OF THE GOOD ONES.

Why is it that the nice ones I run from and the idiots I stick around for? I think personally I am just not ready to settle down again yet, so I know with them it won't ever get serious, and therefore things will fizzle out eventually anyway. Does anyone else do this?

sparklesnpearls
Thanks, that is actually really helpful! I do worry that although things are going well and fast that it doesn't mean it will last so I shall keep myself just a little guarded just in case.
Destinysdaughter
It does feel pretty good at the moment
misszp
Sorry to hear about BrownEyes.
Sounds like you should go out of your way to make things happen with RL Iron though to make up for the self sabotaging otherwise that iron may jump out of your fire

mizzp I know what you mean about the self sabotage thing! I am talking myself out of my date with MrWelshboy tomorrow because he seems fantastic and I cant really believe that he will be.
Whywhywhywhywhy!!!!!!

waving I saw your thread too. Sorry you've had such a tough ride with him. Glad you're ready to move onwards and upwards too though! I'm finding I'm quite enjoying the will we/won't we bit about dating, it's fun and I do like a bit of intensity. I am just worried about my own judgement though as exh was pretty controlling and so I've been used to believing my opinions and views about situations are rubbish, just trying to go with the flow now which comes so easily to most but is a massive exercise for me!

destiny I love that you have so many irons! Am finding that I only really have time to deal with one at once but it's nice to know that someone has got a full plate

Id actually like just one but since the hot leads often go cold, it's good to have a few...😀

It's also quite a good way of networking I find. Got a gardener and decorator through it and another guy who was a big Prince fan who uploaded all Prince's music onto my laptop recently! 😀

Well I went on the date. Was just going to be a coffee but we had a long walk and open chat. We're in similar situations towards end of divorce, but his has taken longer.

Physically yes, personality good, future prospects... we're talking about another date end of next week. He's texting lots.

I think I could have fun with him, so going to focus on that for now. I had another potential on POF, but I could like this man and I'm not going to write back to the other one. I know that's prob wrong but I'd get confused talking to more than one man.

Misszp yep I'm a self sabotager too. The ones that want same as me I run from but the stand offish ones I want them more !

Lilac ooh that's exciting! Sounds like there's good potential there. Hope it works out but early days yet...

lilac yay! Glad it was a good date

I think I've made a mistake in talking on the phone too much to Welshboy. We've chatted every other day or so for the last fortnight and I already like him. Now I am thinking he can't possibly be this nice in person, got to be hiding something...and will be totally gutted if I'm proved right! Not necessarily over-investing but can feel the weight of expectation looming and I will be on a right downer if he turns out to be a knob - or even worse he thinks I am a knob!

I only have time away from my 3 sons every other weekend normally so am moving heaven and earth to get to this bloody date tomorrow evening when it's not my usual weekend off...gaaaah. Lesson learned hey.

Lilacpink u say you planned your next date for end of next week? You see I'd be fed up with the big space in between. Does it not bother you? Think i am too impatient

Lilac what is the etiquette on pof re: chatting to others? I know that until there's been an exclusivity chat then technically it's all fair game, but I wouldn't want a red hot iron to think I was still actively looking on there when all I've been doing is checking out whether he has been online! Although I did amend my profile so it said "WELSHIE STOP LOOKING AT MY PROFILE!!!!" because he said he kept on looking at it. And he told me he'd seen it haha. Double standards or what hey.

sparkles I couldn't fit in a date more than once a fortnight really. Unless I put in mahoosive effort to juggle stuff about. I'd never see my friends otherwise, and sisters before misters and all that

Ha I'll have had 3 in 8 days! But don't have a lot else going on as have moved to a new area so it's also part of my social life😀

It's hard the exclusivity stuff isn't it? If I really liked someone and thought it could go somewhere I'd probably stay off the dating site for a while.

In the olden days of course ( ie pre Internet ) you wouldn't be able to know they were looking for other women!

destiny yes I think you're right. Time to stop snooping and winding myself up. It makes me feel like I am behaving a bit needily when I know that I'm not actually!
And 3 dates in 8 days? yegads woman you're on fire

There's another thread at the moment about hobbies, think mine is OLD! 😁

And I don't have kids, so that helps!

He may change his work so we see each other earlier...never had that before, feel special. I'm ok with end of week if not as it's me holding it back too (don't get much childfree time so most evenings are out).

I'm so excited, but I have to not emotionally sign-up as know I could feel real drop if I do and it goes wrong.

Lilacpink40 If he is talking about changing work commitments to fit around you and see you early he must be pretty keen!

Destinysdaughter Wow, go you! You are really in demand.

SicknSpan I would say it is probably a little foolish to become exclusive before meeting in real life. The difference between online presence and real life personality and behavior can be incredible! Remember rules 3&4:
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.

In other news I posted my response to the blog on the comment section of the blog (I did not notice that it had one previously). Rather unsurprisingly it did not get published