Tinder Temptresses Unite....It's Dating Thread 106

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1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP

ReCycled There are a lot of childfree people on MN, I have found in my years here. It has really good forums, many of which actually don't have anything to do with parenting, and it can be hugely supportive when you want to discuss things you might not want to talk about to close friends. Quite a few of the childfree people are teachers and find it a useful resource to see things from the other side, as it were. For me, although I don't want to parent or step parent, I am in fact a godfather to a friend's daughter and her brother also counts me as favourite uncle. I am therefore a godparent, which I think justifies my presence under "by parents for parents". It's very helpful in that respect, as a non-birth parent who still has some involvement with children.

StillDrSethHazlittMD Sorry if my question came out as judgemental. It was just curiosity is all as I would never have even known about this place if I hadn't become a father. I of course see that it has benefits wider than just parenting resources and thinking further I post on a food and drink thread of a car forum though I am no petrolhead

ReCycled yes I guess everyone is. But if you sleep with someone then I think it does change things. Probably a good reason to wait before DTD!

And at what point do you decide that that person is good enough and become exclusive? Feels a bit Catch 22 sometimes as you have to invest in someone, spend quality time with them and if you ( not you individually but all of us ),are hopping from one pp to another then you never get to find out!

ReCycled It's OK, I get a bit tetchy sometimes. I still get the occasional comment on MN that as I don't have kids I shouldn't be here or that my view on anything involving kids doesn't count. Yeah, tell that to the childfree teachers and nurses looking after children day in, day out!

Actually, until I came on this thread years ago, I had no idea anyone did the multi-dating thing. I really didn't. Opened my eyes - all these irons in the fire! I must admit, I personally wouldn't date anyone else once DTD has taken place - even if it then fizzles out in a relatively short space of time - but until an "are we exclusive" chat has taken place, all bets are surely off? So I don't think "Mr Cycling" necessarily deserved the blogger's ire - and a lot of women on MN would be doing the same as you/him.

Destinysdaughter I agree, though I would like to point out that I did feel pressured into DTD. I should have made excuses but I always struggle with that.

Good question on exclusivity, but I think 3 dates may not usually be long enough (that's how many it was with MissBlog)

I am now seeing someone exclusively and have been for just over a month now so was definitely open to exclusivity with the right person.

Thought I would share a picture of my "wedding ring"
I suppose it could look like a wedding ring from a distance but there was certainly no "talk" about it as if there was I would have put her straight that they are three hair bands (as seen separately in the background)!

I wonder whether we should now ask dates to sign a contract not to blog about dates without getting approval in writing for what they want to say....

StillDrSethHazlittMD I don't see it as any different from posting on here so I don't have an issue with any of it. I was quite amused really

Modern dating, it's all so complicated now. I remember being 19 ( so pre Internet ), going to the pub for an Xmas drink with pp from college, got pissed, snogged someone, went to a party, shagged him and ended up having a 4 year relationship!

Those were the days...

DestinysDaughter those were the days indeed.

recycled glad to hear that you are exclusive and a month into something with someone else. The blog lady was probably putting on a bit of spin for the readers.

I can't keep up with you all sorry. I'm going to go back and reread.

A quick update from me. I binned the guy that changed his name and age on his profile. I liked him but it was too sleazy to get past.

I did meet Mr Younger and wow. Neither of us are looking for serious so the age difference probably doesn't matter so much. He is so hot and very keen. I need to be careful though, I still feel that all is not as it seems with him but I can't put my finger on it. If I was looking for long term I think it would be enough to put me off. For a summer fling I'm happy to go with the flow.

Agree Destinys It was so much easier back in the day when you just sort of bumped into someone you liked the look of and ended up with them.

Rosetta what is it about MrYounger that puts you off? Something he's done/not done/said?

Hi everyone! I'll try and catch up a bit with you all!!
Recycled - wow, just wow to the blog - how did you find out? I thought, like you, everyone multidated at the beginning!! I may have inadvertently pissed people off myself thinking about it now

Destiny wow, that guy's a keeper, what with the gut and everything

..and dammit, I now can't remember other people's news!!

I'm a bit meh with the whole thing atm. The Brazilian guy isn't gonna go anywhere, and I'm not bothered tbh. The sexy plumber still isn't up here (but is still texting a lot!) and won't be for another 3 weeks or so, so that isn't going anywhere either.
Do have another iron in the fire though - ITguy. Haven't met yet, and he's now away for 2 weeks - grrr. We seem to connect pretty darn well, so it's positive. I really fancy him from one of his photos, and really don't from another - need to know what he actually looks like!!! How do I politely ask for a photo????

SkyRabbit I found it by accident. I was on Facebook and MissBlog came up under the "people you may know" list which I thought odd as we have no people in common. I clicked through out of curiosity and found the first post to be about her new blog.

Are you going to comment on her blog...?

< mischevious > 😈

Good evening everyone, this is my first (and last) post on here but I just had to come on and say thank you so much to everyone who has visited my blog today, it's been incredible that someone shared the link and about 60 people have clicked and viewed it!

The person who shared the link obviously didn't realise that the blog records where people have travelled from so it brought me the link to this page in return. I've sat and read your comments with amusement all day! There was absolutely no malice in my comments, just pure humour - especially the "concurrent not sequential" comment, which has had a lot of reaction amongst my friends! I hope he isn't offended, because when you read the post you'll see that I did actually really like him and I wanted to see where things went but he took that out of my hands.

I knew the page was public and was likely to be viewed by someone featured, but even I was surprised to see his outlet! And just too be clear, the purpose of the blog is just to let other single mums (and dads) know that they're not alone in their dating escapades, and that we're all in this together! If it gives someone the confidence to go out on a date then it's all good and I hope you find your happily ever after!

I've just updated it again so please feel free to have a look!

cutetalescurlytailsandcocktales.wordpress.com/

Hello

Hope no one minds me posting here - I used to post on the dating threads a few years ago. DH and I met on okcupid 4 years ago, have been living together since March 2015. We seem to have blended our families together nicely (he has a 21 year old DS and I have 12 year old DS and 10 year old DD) and got married on 30th July . Have included a few photos as we had such a lovely day

Aw a success story, how lovely! 😁

Lovely pics. Great to see happiness

Keep trying to post and losing messages. I originally posted months ago after STBXH left me for OW. Advice on dating helped me realise I wasn't strong enough.

Felt stronger today, went on POF and now have date lined up. So excited and nervous. What do I scope out on first date?

Also had weirdo messages e.g. Would I like wanking video? WTF, some odd men out there!?

Ooh exciting first date! For me it's a chance to see if there's any chemistry in RL.I've actually found it to be fairly immediate, tho pp can grow on you. See how you click, does he ask you questions, what happened to his last relationship, do you share similar values, sense of humour etc?

I think it's all a bit funny really. I have 65 'would like to meet' me. The amount I get to go out that could keep me in meals for months. Assuming blokes pay, otherwise I'd split bill.

I can see how it's possible to date lots and lots at the same time. I'd get confused so not for me though.

Chemistry, values, sense of humour. Good ideas thanks destiny.

Yes make sure you get a good meal out of it. Sod feminism, OLD is brutal!

Also, it's a good way to see if a man is mean with money...

And sometimes you can save yourself a wasted evening by simply having a phone call with them.

1st date advice? Make it short - don't be wasting precious kid free time on what might be frankly ducking awful. Coffee for an hour to scope them out. If you like em, then you can have a proper date.

Wow Wow wow to the wedding!!!!!!!!!! You both look so so happy! Congratulations xxx

My new Tinder iron is, wait for it.............. Moving to fucking Dubai ffs. He had a job interview today and got it. Arse. I really liked him on paper and connected insanely.