Tinder Temptresses Unite....It's Dating Thread 106

[PrizeyPrize]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP

Destiny I think I will try to message some people myself as you suggest I wont have to take rejection to heart!

Hopefully this week I will actually meet some men in real life!

I need to get started again with OD!

I don't know if it's the sun that's hotting all these irons up but I'm starting to struggle juggling.

Mr plaster is a short texted but very chatty in real life and consistent in his communication. I'm having fun but it's defo not long term. He's not forward enough for me, I'd walk all over him but we're both happy with short term fun

Mr flowers is great. Still not met as he's on holiday but we have long easy conversations everyday. Starting to get worried about over investing but keeping it real by distracting myself with other irons till he's back. The day after he lands he's book a restaurant for our date already, fingers crossed he's as nice in RL

And a new iron who wants to take me out on Thursday night. No name yet as I don't know much about him. I might cancel him but pencilled it in for now! I'm tired out with them all!

So update on my date tonight. He was nice, v chatty, smiley and intelligent, v easy to talk to which was nice. Same age as me and had all his own hair! Lol. He liked me but not looking for anything serious. I find a lot of middle aged men who are divorced don't want to do serious dating and I think I've had to come to terms with that. At least he's not looking to meet someone 20 years younger than him, unlike a lot of men my own age. So, I will definitely see him again even if it's just for a bit of fun.

Had to laugh as he gave me a lift home and was driving a black Porsche! When I was young that would have been the height of cool but now it's such a middle age cliche..!!😀😱

minop just remember until you've actually met them face to face it's not real...!

I know destiny I keep reminding myself. I'm trying not to feel guilty about talking to so many too. It feels a little wrong but it can go wrong so quick I could be left with cold irons in a blink.

Good news on your date tonight! Light hearted fun and who knows where it could go. So what are you calling him?

Yeah Destiny I agree with that as my fireman doesn't seem to want anything serious. I pulled him up tonight n said I didn't want to play games n if he wasn't that bothered just to say..he replied with he liked me n wasn't playing games n would like to arrange date 4 so am happy with that

Think I'll call him Porscheman!

Date set for tonight with guy I met on match. We've been chatting and he seems really nice, he'd been quiet over the last few days so I was beginning to get wary but chatted yesterday evening and all good. 7pm tonight at local beach bar/coffee shop

I shall name him treeman as he's an arborist! Very nervous but hey if it all goes tits up its good practice!!!

Having been married to a controlling, needy liar I may have my red flag warning system too high but what do you all think of this guy I'm supposed to be meeting on Thursday?

Messaged a couple of times on the site then said he was leaving the site but wanted to carry on chatting so I gave him my number before I normally do. Texting loads about how he really likes me cant wait to meet me, thinks i'm lovely - he hardly knows anything about me. He of course hasnt left the site. Sent me a message this morning saying someone had called him ugly on the site and maybe he didnt deserve anyone - all woe is me.

Obviously talking to someone else at the same time but kept getting things mixed up. No problem with talking to someone else but calling me babe and hun cos he cant remember who is who I think!

I pulled him about saying he was leaving the site and now he says he will leave if we get on when we meet!

Think they are a few red flags there or am I being too picky!

Good luck sparky life, I still get nervous and I've prob had 60 dates over the years

newsparklylife

You seem to be getting on really well considering you are new at all this - hope your date goes well tonight!

Hmmmm petal extremely shady to me. Candy shop mentality I think.

I personally would give him heave ho, plenty more where he came from

Thanks Candy that's how I'm feeling as well. There must be a happy medium between full on neediness and couldn't care less attitiude just need to find a man who has it!

Wish I hadn't given him my number think he could be difficult!

Sorry Sparkles that should have been!

petal he hasn't even met you and he's behaving like this? It's not a good sign really. He sounds a bit all over the place. He can't 'really like' you as he hasn't met you!

Personally I try not to have massive chats before I've met someone for real. If you want to meet him go ahead but be a bit wary...

I'd just have a short coffee meet so you can leave if you need to.

I actually deleted someone who kept texting me calling me 'babe'. Can't stand it. So I'd sack him off just for that..! 😀😱

Right daters, I'm a frequent reader, very infrequent poster.
But I have a stupid grin on my face. Stupid grin. Cheshire Cat style.
Met a bloke in my phone shop, he was flirting pretty hard, just figured he was trying to sell me the Internet thing I went on to price up. Turns out we grew up in the same area, he knows my cousin.
Nothing came of it, I said I'd go back when the Internet box came in stock but didn't. This was about 4/5 months ago.
Been doing POF for a couple of months, had a mutual match with a bloke, though he looked familiar but couldn't place him, he messaged me and then about 10 messages in we both clicked who the other one was. We swapped numbers, lots of texting for a couple of days. We were meant to be meeting up tomorrow but we were both at a loose end last nigh (and I really wanted to meet him) so we went to pub last night and there's a definite chemistry. Like a lot. Like I just wanna look at him and smile. A lot.
So we had a couple of pints, he walked me home in the rain and he stayed over. No shagging, didn't want to, we just chatted and he made me laugh so much my cheeks hurt. He didn't push anything in bed, just lots of really nice, really nice kissing.
And now I can't stop smiling. I've never had a proper 'feeling' about anyone like this before and it's scaring me a bit! Eek. Excited scared!
I just needed to get my crazy out in here with like minded dating people!

Destiny

Yeah I'm thinking the same way - he doesn't even ask questions just hun and babe all the time and text speak which is not good all the time.

Oh well on to the next one!

Damson sounds like a lovely night just be careful not to fall too hard, too fast for him but good luck

petal that's exactly what I need to be told! I needed to get the excited out of me so I can be rational

Oooooh damson it's just fab when that happens isn't it?

I love it but hate being out of control of my feelings too. Love scares me!

Well that's me off on my holidays and not a word from planeman so let that be a lesson no matter how nice and supportive they are or can seem to be. They can still be absolute shit's. I've not blocked him because I wanted to prove to myself that he wasn't going to message me.

Am so glad I've got mrvtall on the scene he's on holiday with his kids and has messaged and/or called most days. He really does seem to be a nice guy, am looking forward to when I get home and we can have a few more dates, we managed 3 before he went away, and one was an all day walk on the beach and In the forest, so he's not a stranger.

Everyone have a fabulous few weeks of dating and I look forward to catching up on the gossip when I get back

Sorry for butting in ladies. Was thinking of joining Plenty more fish. Any views on that site or any site recommendations? Total novy at internet dating... thanks

whatam you dont really 'know' me from the thread but I have read through the thread and that seems a real shame that he has just disappeared off the face of the earth when he had been so supportive. It will be his loss in the long term.

silk I am on plenty of fish and there is plenty of men on there even in my small city but I've only been on just over a week and already had two fairly dodgy men and lots of Hi hun type of messages. The best message I've had from someone who actually read and mentioned things from my profile was a bit too old and smoked but the way its going I might look at him again! Anyway I think all you can do is try it and see how it goes you can always delete it if you're not happy.

A few more people messaged me today and I have another date fro Friday night - fingers crossed this one is a bit more normal!