Tinder Temptresses Unite....It's Dating Thread 106

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1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP

Thanks for that! I did have my doubts. I asked him if it was really his picture and he said it was. He probably looks like a troll!

But... he said he wanted to Skype so I'd have found out pretty quick!

#colourmeconfused

Maybe I should Skype ( yuk) just to find out what he really looks like...

Yes you're right I just googled it!
Well I guess being a lying twat online is international...

Ive told him it's the TV vet and he said no it's me. I said, do you think I'm stupid? I've googled it. Twat.

Lana thanks for pointing out who it was. It did look too good to be true but I wouldn't have known who it was. I was nearly 'catfished'!

Gosh lots going on here.. will go back and read what you've all been up to.

planeman might have redeemed himself yesterday with his morning text but that was it all day, no reply to my text back and nothing today, I caved at lunchtime and texted asking was he ok and surprisingly no reply so I've deleted all the texts. We never whatsapped so don't know if he's "read" it and can't archive texts deleted everything he's every sent me ...best thing then I can't re read them and make excuses for him. Am really not surprised something was just off on Tuesday. Oh well I'm off on holidays early next week for 2 weeks and wouldn't have been in touch with him, though he did say he was going to download WhatsApp so we could text.. don't think so Mr. .

Anyway so far mrvtall has been in touch every day since he went on holiday both via WhatsApp and by face time. And we talk about all sorts.

And now my long term tinder penpal has perked up and and is chatting each night via messenger...

Arranged to meet on Monday evening, no time or place arranged yet. Stupidly can't meet at coffee shop as nothing open in evening. Didn't work that out well did I?! Friend suggested Wetherspoons - big enough to hide in a corner somewhere whereas all the local pubs everyone knows each other!!!

First proper date EVER, how do we even start talking?! I'm such a newbie it isn't funny!

Interesting post here from Baggage Reclaim about texting basically saying if they're too busy to call they're not interested in a real relationship...

www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/crumb-communications-if-they-havent-got-time-to-pick-up-the-phone-they-havent-got-time-for-a-relationship/

What do you talk about on a first date? Hmm well do you have any interests in common? What do you want to know about them? Also a chance to see if you click. Can be a bit awkward at first but they'll be feeling nervous too! Just enjoy it and see it as dipping your toe into the water.

Note to self: don't message/like whilst drunk. You will wake up with messages from blokes that you really don't fancy. Beer googles rules apply online too slaps self round head

And plane man ? Wtf is he playing at???? It seems like out of sight, out of mind. Very disappointing.

On another note, does anyone think it's worth paying for match.com ? I've registered but you can't really do anything without paying?

Sorry this thread is moving so fast I can't keep up!

Skyrabbit I met my ex husband on there so it can work but that was 12 years ago so my knowledge isnt up to date. Obv he is also an ex because he's a complete arse but that's not the sites fault! What I was going to say was I have been on there a little bit but not paid and they have now sent me a 50% off offer so might be worth holding out for that - I would share it with you but think its an unique code.

Sure someone will be along with more up to date info - I quite fancy joining myself so I will be interested to see

I paid for match.com in April and its due to run out soon but I suspended it In May. I didn't like it All don't get me wrong I met a lovely guy on it (car man) will always be the one that got away. I didn't like the way it worked. Hated knowing people had looked but found me not worthy of a comment or anything and the whole he's on line when...? and the ones who did message me oh dear just no.

Hi
Reading this thread with interest. Want to start OLD after marriage broke up 3 years ago. I am wondering if I should take a few months to get ready for OLD? Sounds like you need a thick skin but I am a bit self conscious about my weight (not massive but def overweight) so wondering if should lose the weight first? I am early 50s so not sure if that is too old. ..

garden OLD can be hard work! If you live in a busy area and can get out and about quite easily I think I'd recommend Meet ups to try and meet someone or at least to increase your social circle so you might be able to meet someone that way. OLD can be quite brutal at times and is a bit hit and miss. Go for it but take it all with a pinch of salt!

And regards the weight? Do it...for yourself!

A guy I've met online has asked me to give him some feedback on a novel he's written. I was happy to do so but after a few chapters I'm realising it's not v good! He seems like a nice guy, is a professional, checked out his LinkedIn profile and he is who he says he is. I'd like go meet him but oh God his novel is dreadful!

What to do...?

Hello all. You lot have been so busy!

Sorry that planeman is being a tit but glad that the lovely sounding mrtall is still on the scene.

Cant remember what nicknames i gave my irons so off to find thread and post again!

Destinys. You lie - convincingly

This happened to me once; book was shite but the bloke was hot. I stroked his ego. It was the kind thing to do.

I have a match.com membership, after the trial I suspended it and they sent me various offers and I took £9.99 a month for 6 months.

I know what you mean about people looking and no comment but we can't be everyone's cup of tea (that's the way I'm looking at it anyway!).

I've had a lot of messages from people absolutely miles away from me however I'm so unused to this I'm using it as chatting to men practice lol

I may try Match and see how it goes - they are offering £7.99 a month for 6 months.

Does anybody else get fed up with the messages men send - it sometimes feel like extracting teeth getting any conversation going apart from hi how are you! The only actual good message I've had which referenced anything on my profile was from a 61 year old - I'm 47- I'm debating replying just because it would be nice to have some actual conversation!

I've only been doing this a week and feel a bit jaded already!

Yes it can be hard. And often doesn't go anywhere. Ask questions? Find out if you have anything in common. It's the hi hun how r u ones I really hate!!

I've got a date tonight with a 48 year old management consultant. He sounds intelligent and good fun. I hope so! Anyway will have a few glasses of wine in the sun which will be nice.

That sounds fun for tonight Destiny - good luck with the management consultant.

I tend to get messages 'hi hun u r stunning' which I know I am not just average - then try to get a bit of conversation going asking questions, open ended stuff etc but its such hard work. If they are this bad on a computer screen when they can think about answers etc I do wonder what they will be like in real life! So far I havent even met anyone in real life!

Never mind I will be positive its early days

I often search profiles myself to see who I might like and then send them a message. It's good to be proactive!

@Destiny if novel/ Management Consultant guy is from Essex message me! I met someone with the same CV it was a nightmare!

Ha no they are actually 2 different men and not from Essex! ( been busy online this week after my disappointments last week...) 😀