Tinder Temptresses Unite....It's Dating Thread 106

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1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP

Destinysdaughter To be honest I've no idea why they do the tiger thing or the bare chested thing. I also have issue with being called babe(s) which happens from women too.
singleandfabulous I think I read somewhere once that the perfect arrangement of Tinder pics should be something along the lines of:
1st Photo - Best photo (baiting the hook)
2nd Photo - Photo showing interest (shows that you have a personality)
3rd Photo - Photo showing caring/sharing (shows you are ably to get on with others)
4th Photo - Photo showing sport/activeness (shows that you engage and are enthusiastic)
5th Photo - Honest photo (so they don't have an unrealistic impression)

Ha in that case my realistic photos should show me lounging on the sofa vaping and MNetting...! 😈

SkyRabbit Photos with dolphins seem to be the female equivalent of tigers

Oh that's interesting ReCycled I'm just in the process of creating my Tinder account and have a few pictures showing exactly that I think.

1. Full face looking extremely good (a one-off as I normally look a bit shit).
2. One of me doing my hobby.
3. One of me helping out at a charity day for kids.
4. One of me in my running gear (post-race) a bit red faced but smiling.
5. err... honest you say...

SkyRabbit I agree. I think online dating has ruined relationships to be honest. It's just too easy now for men to stay in the revolving door permanently as fresh meat is always entering.

New here can I join you! Should have changed my name really as after years of you telling me to leave the bastard after 21 years of abusive marriage last October my ex left the family home. Been tough but not as tough as staying!

Dipping my toe into internet dating.... have absolutely no idea what I'm doing or even how to conduct a 'date' as was with my ex from the age of 15 so this is going to be interesting I have no idea what you do when lol if you know what I mean, how modern dating works or whether you just go with it. I really have no idea!!

Shall enjoy reading the thread later

singleandfabulous I have to say that in general I find the "honest" pics to be the most attractive. Maybe it's because it shows someone in a less intimidating way

single I completely agree! It's a sweet shop for them and they have access to women they wouldn't have the nerve to approach in RL. I was in my twenties pre Internet and it was v different. I initially thought Internet dating was a fantastic thing but I got disillusioned with it pretty quickly and had to have a very philosophical attitude towards meeting pp. I have met some great pp but many many more arseholes, timewasters, liars etc. Seems like some men are trying to find the 'perfect' woman and won't give real women a try. It's also a lot easier for men to just get sex now without the ' hassle and drama ' of an actual relationship!

shouldIjustputupwithit welcome to the weird and wonderful world of OLD!

Think you def need a sparkly new username.

Destinysdaughter Maybe it is "a lot easier for men to just get sex now without the ' hassle and drama ' of an actual relationship" but sex in a revolving door is never as good as in a serious relationship.

shouldIjustputupwithit Welcome to the world of OLD!
Advice I found useful was:
Always chat for a while before arranging a date
The first date isn't really a date it's a scoping session. So don't commit to something long like dinner in case you need to leave early, make it something short like drinks. You can always extend it to dinner if it goes really well.
Don't rule people out for minor things too early, today's annoyance is tomorrows endearing quality (it could also just be a slip and not representative).
Second dates should be active (physically or mentally) so that you can really engage and assess each other. Don't do the cinema as it is just dead time engagement wise (an if you need to crutch of the film you just watched to make conversation then why are you even bothering?)
For the longer term relationship milestones the Match.com study shows averages that you can gauge by. It is important not to judge yourself or your relationship by them though as there are lots of factors to change things, it's just useful sometimes to know what you might need to expect though.
Hope that helps

Welcome shouldI (you need a name change!)

ReCycled yes, I see what you mean. If someone is uber glamorous, it puts me off too as I think I won't measure up.

Destiny I completely agree with the sweet shop comment. It's a no risk way of approaching as many women as possible, which they wouldn't do in real life.

ReCyled I agree about the sex but dont think that the majority of men do. For them, newness is more exciting and fulfilling.

Thank you for the welcome and thank you ReCycledParent for the advice.

I have signed up to match.com and well that has been interesting (and scary as well one guy was practically ready to move in with me!), there is a guy I'm talking to. Showed a photo to my mum and got 'well doesn't he look like a weirdo' Ok so not conventionally good looking (but has a bit of a bad boy look about him lol) but seems really sweet and we chat easily. We are going to meet - I have a really busy week so will be another week at least before we can set something up. Am thinking of coffee? Is that good for a first meeting?

I am so annoyed with my Mum though

shouldiputupwithit is now newsparklylife because to be honest it really is!!

newsparklylife Excellent choice of name change and coffee is perfect for a first meeting (unless you need something stronger to calm your nerves)

Ah bollocks. I was supposed to be going to a gig tonight (may be cute guys there!). My friend has cried off. I'm all ready to go ! Think it's weird going by myself

I used to post on some of the dating threads a few months ago but have been having a bit of a rest as feeling disenchanted with it all. I still have Tinder on my phone and swipe regularly but possibly due to having been on there (on and off) since January I'm finding that I now see very few men I'm interested in and of those most match then either don't respond or message then disappear I think I need to get my online dating mojo back!

Wow a lot to catch on! Just a quick question: how quickly do you give somebody your number? I was chatting to a guy the other night (on a dating app) and he literally asked to swap numbers after about four messages.. I didn't feel comfortable doing it so I said no. It would be probably easier to chat over whatsapp but I don't want to give my number out straight away.

I'm ok with using Whatsapp and you can block them if you need to. Kik is just a username so no number needed at all. Do think tho that some men who use it are a bit dodgy...

I think do what you feel comfortable with and don't get pressurised. Go st your own pace. I sometimes wonder if this is men testing the boundaries. If you say no it doesn't seem to put them off!

Thanks Destiny. I have never heard of Kik.. ..
Must be my age.. but I am also not very savvy with all these new apps, I have no idea how for example snapchat works or what it is!

I agree, I explained to this guy that I didn't want to give my number to him yet but happy to chat on the app and he was fine about it.

Thanks Destiny. I have never heard of Kik.. ..
Must be my age.. but I am also not very savvy with all these new apps, I have no idea how for example snapchat works or what it is!

I agree, I explained to this guy that I didn't want to give my number to him yet but happy to chat on the app and he was fine about it.

Actually on reflection if it was Tinder I wouldn't give it out so quickly. You know virtually nothing about them on that site.

I've reached the point where I've had so many text conversations with guys I'm kinda losing the will to live!

It's just fucking Groundhog Day over and over. Except it's not me doing anything wrong! ( I think ).

I feel your pain Destinysdaughter - a guy on Tinder has just asked me "Does this match based on your location then?" I think I need lots more gin or to give up online dating!

OMG Look at this hunk! And he's a vet!

And what's the inevitable fly in the ointment...?

He only lives in fucking BERLIN!!!!

Why oh why? Why contact me?

That's a photo of Australian TV presenter (and vet) Chris Brown! I think he presents I'm a Celebrity in Oz so unfortunately I doubt he lives in Berlin or does online dating...