Tinder Temptresses Unite....It's Dating Thread 106

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1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP

Whatam1doing that's brilliant! ha ha ... at least he's doing his best. If he's that good when he's tired heaven knows what he'd be like when fully rested Good for you. Isn't it strange that mrvtall is messaging again now he's away. how do you feel about him? Do you think he's just keeping you warm or do you think he misses you and now has time to message?

Misszp I like your thinking (it's not me it's him). I think that relationships are so hard and it takes so much effort to sustain one that they just can't be bothered unless they're forced to. I think in a social network, men feel obliged to behave properly as their relationships are played out in public. In online dating, they're private so there's no social judgement so they're free (they think) to act as they please.

The dickpics came about out of the blue really. Very late at night about an hour after we'd been messaging. Up it pops (sorry!) on my screen! As I haven't actually seen it in the flesh, it was less "oo how erotic to see my old friend" and more "oh my! that's um... big! and what's that in the background..."

Robots he sounds like a keeper! How lovely of him.

Destiny He sounds very intense already and you've only just got in touch.

Single - we have lots of mutual friends in real life and don't live that far apart from each other. We've met quite a lot in person, got on well, have each other on social media etc, so it isn't an online iron ghosting, and I am so annoyed he thinks it's acceptable to spend almost a weekend with me, say he wants to see me again, and then.... Radio silence. I would rather he just say it how it is. Idiot. Coward. Fuckboy. Number is deleted. I will not make excuses for him as he always has his phone on him and always managed to reply in the first couple of months. I do feel slightly gutted though as he is the first guy I've met and who I felt a spark with, and I've dated several since my LTR breakdown :(

Sorry everyone me post, but I will catch up promise!

single mrvtall hasn't just starred messaging he's been in text communication every day since we matched in on Tinder 2 weeks ago. He's also a caller , understandably considering he's blind much easier to talk than text. We've spoken every day since our date last Wednesday apart from yesterday as he was flying and I was otherwise occupied!!.

Well as I expected no communication from planeman at all since he left at 5am...predictable much? I'm giving him the benefit of the doubt today as I know he had back to back meetings but ....Mmmm we'll see. If I don't get a morning text tomorrow I'll delete him I did warn him of this last night ...well I told him I'd block him ...seems a bit extreme that.

misszp oh I see, i thought you'd met online. In that case its very rude. A distinct whiff of 'cant be arsed' about it.

whatam1 sorry for the confusion. How disappointing re planeman. Does he normally keep in regular touch (morning/night)?

Well mrIT has been in touch all day and suggested that we meet next week for a drink. i really hope i fancy him. i hope he's tall too.

No communication from Audidriver I really dont know if or when Ill see him again.

Hi all could do with some advice - been chatting to two men one of whom has been much better at communicating than the other however all his profile shots are full length from a distance - I agreed to meet him next week and he mentioned a news story he was involved in 15 years ago as his 'moment of fame' I googled it and I really didnt fancy him at all and he's now 15 years older aaargh!

I'm no oil painting but I just cant see me being attracted to him - what do I do? I would feel really bad saying now I've seen your face I dont want to meet - he seems a nice enough bloke from emails. Would you just meet up - he wants to go for a bar meal.

I've learnt my lesson for next time!!

Oh dear that's not good! If uou don't fancy him there's really no point. However some pp can win you over with their personalities. If you really didn't want to go you could say you've now met someone...?

I'm really fed up today. Had 2 nice dates in the last week. But... First guy said we would meet up on Fri but last minute said he was too tired and not heard from him since. Second guy has not responded to my message on the dating site and has since removed his photo!

Another guy I was chatting to online who I found v attractive seems to have updated his photo and it looks nothing like his original one st all!

All these dead ends and disappointments make me so cynical and despairing sometimes, why does it have to be so difficult??!

Oh Destinys how disappointing. I think it's wise to remember that a lot of people doing OLD are just in it for the shits and giggles and not at all serious. mist do it to pass the time and entertain themselves. The paid sites ate better than the free ones as they force you to make a committment financially but still...
Its a numbers game really so just kerp trying & extend your search radius.

Petal68 maybe meet him for a drink just to see if theres any chemistry.

Petal I'd still go meet him because you never know. I was once Charing to a guy where in some photos he looked OK, then I saw his Facebook photo and nearly cancelled. I went anyway and he was much better in person and we had a lot of fun. You just never know and worse that happens is you don't like him so don't see him again.

Destiny I go through stages of this too. It can be disheartening but just when I think I'm done things start hotting up. Just hang in there and have some fun with it all.

When sending the first message I've been sending them a compliment on what it was about them that I liked. Tinder is good for that because you know they liked you already. Feedback I've had from men is that they liked me sending the first message as there's a lot of fake women's profiles with lots of spam.

petal see I wouldn't be bothered about a picture from 15 years ago not doing it for me , everyone changes many for the better age. Can you not zoom on the full length pics to get a better look at him now ? If you're that convinced you won't like him maybe just go for a drink and not a meal give him a chance.

So my conversation with planeman the other night obviously worked woke up to my usual morning text and a "sorry babe yesterday was manic ...and Id had no sleep! your fault....In bed for 5.30 PM slept straight through to alarm this morning. .don't block me! "

Thanks, that's part of the problem, you just don't know what pp's real intentions are. These 2 guys I met were so keen to meet me tho and then when they did they lost interest. Can't help but think it's me!

Whatam sounds plausible to me!

Oh destiny it'll be the truth he was exhausted on Tuesday night and I knew he had meetings yesterday. He just needs reminding he's seeing someone as hes been on his own a while and gets caught up in work and forgets. ...

So I have agreed to meet the man who ghosted me seven months ago, on Saturday. I know it's daft, but I am being more cautious this time, rose-tinted glasses very gone!

Oh tanya is this CM? (Or am I muddling him up with the other chap?) I'm so pleased for you if it is. It felt like unfinished business for you. And as you say so long as you are cautious then at least you will know one way or the other and will stop wondering what if...

Destiny it is not you. It really isn't. It's the nature of OLD unfortunately. They both probably had a perfectly good time with you but they were probably chatting to others and it seems to me that they can get stuck in that phase where they almost forget about you because they are back at the beginning of the cycle with someone else. Does that make sense? It's like they are stuck in a revolving door, you step out expecting them to follow but it doesn't occur to them and they just keep going round...
Hmm not a good analogy but I hope you know what I mean?

whatam I'm so happy that Planeman is getting it right

petal I would meet him too. You never know and you may at least have a good laugh.

I have two irons. I hid my tinder profile a couple of weeks ago but you can still chat to your matches. One man has been keen to stay in touch, flirty, fun and excellent communication but he's 9 years younger than me. He's very hot and we definitely have a connection over text. But he is 9 years younger! Yikes. We are meeting at the weekend. Probably been chatting for too long but holidays etc have made it hard to sync. I have a niggling feeling he is hiding something though.

If anyone remembers I broke the seal after years of enforced celibacy, a couple of months ago. II was after a picnic in the park date and I felt the man was older than he said. He then changed his name on the dating app and knocked 10 years off his already questionable age . We did get on so well in person and on text and we have stayed friendly, exchanging the odd message.
He now wants to meet again, seems keen to move things on from our current friendship. I am happy to meet as friends but I don't know if I can get past the sleazy changes to his profile. He has explained why and it is feasible but so many years knocked off? Screams desperation for a pretty young thing to me. I guess he didn't get one because he is back and that is not good for my ego! I do like lots of things about him though.

Bloody men!

Hi all, lots of busy dating ladies.

Everything going brilliantly with Long Distance boy.
Spent Friday through to Sunday together, I met his family, we even took his and my kids out.
He's staying at mine tomorrow night.
Things seem so natural with him. We get on great and have fab chemistry. Also have had the "chat" and want to give it a go.
Did not expect this at all. But happy about it all the same.

Yay Starskey brilliant news. A hot summer for you regardless of the weather. He sounds lovely.

It's Bee, Rosetta, I was seeing CM for a while, but it wasn't right. Thanks for that way of thinking, you're right, it did feel unfinished, and meeting on Saturday will tie up that loose end one way or another.

Of course tanya I had a feeling I had muddled up the names. I hope things go well for you on Saturday.

Thanks Rosetta, he is lovely, am well smitten but it's mutual, so all good. :-)

Rosetta aw thanks for that, you're probably right! I'm v tired of the revolving door personally, want something I can take to the next level... I sold a gold bracelet today that an ex bought me and got £130 for it so pretty pleased with that!

And I'd be very wary of a guy knocking years off his age on a dating site, well sleazy!

Starskey that's fantastic, great for all us dating hopefuls to hear!

Rosetta a good way of thinking of dating. You can jump out and back in them doors as many times as it takes and how much fun you have depends on your mindset when spinning around!
And 9 years young sounds great. At least he's honest about his age, a bit creepy of the other one.

What I have high hopes for planeman.

I've heard little from mr plaster this week and was starting to get a complex. We'd pencilled in a date for tomorrow but not heard since so I sat on my hands and played the waiting game. He's just text saying sorry he's had a horrid week, sickness bug, poorly child and then his cat died. And I'v been thinking he might be ghosting me. You just never know what might be going on (unless they tell you but we all know what men are like) mr flowers is on holiday now so we'll see when he gets back if we get a date in. I have my beautiful flowers to look at for now!

Getting lots of Hi Hun / hi sexy / how r u tonight.

Must be approaching the weekend...!😀😱😈

Well fireman not texting me much and noticed his photo back on pof and he on whatsapp a lot

Not looking good....

Oh Sparkles sorry to hear that. Such a shame as he seemed so nice. Still, onwards and upwards. I hate WhatsApp for that very reason. Do you have any more irons in the fire?

Destiny It's tedious isnt it. I wish theyd be more inventive and original.

Starskey He sounds brilliant!

No news from any of my irons really. MrIT being very polite & romantic after the pornographic video! No contact from Richard Geer or Audidriver. Must get my Tinder profile up this weekend ready for when all my existing irons go 'poof' as they all seem to do.