Tinder Temptresses Unite....It's Dating Thread 106

[PrizeyPrize]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP

I actually braved it and sent a guy the first message today as we were matched (I am using this site called Once)
I am trying to be at bit more open minded and make an effort myself as usually I would just wait and see if they message me..
We'll see if he replies to me.

How this is Tinder otherwise Thing? I haven't signed up yet and as I am going on holiday abroad with DD next Sat for two weeks I might leave it until after we come back.

Not been on here for a while as after intensive dating for a week had a break!
So been 'dating' Mr Army who is ok but def hiding something. Mr 'Highly sexed' who is just always changing the subject to sex. Mr 'I made my own detox and poisened myself' is slightly unhinged so keeping him at arms length. Back on Tinder this weekend to find Mr Right. Met one yesterday but too short. This is difficult!

Prosecco I'm also on Once. It's a bit annoying I haven't liked any yet! Only been on about 5 days tho

Please can someone help me with tinder? I'm trying to log in with an alternative fb account but it just keeps connecting to my usual fb account!

So I tried to just take all my stuff off and use that one but it's still keeping my profile pic from fb as my profile pic on tinder! Which is useless as I don't post photos of my self on fb so it's nit of me! Argh can anyone help!?

Oh ignore me it's changed my pic now!! I do still wish I could log in through an alternate fb account though. Don't know how to do it with out removing my fb account from my iPad which I don't want to do...I use it alot

3beardedgoats I want to use an alternative FB account as well.. I wonder would it be easier to set up on a laptop?

Outnumbrd I have been on it since last weeks Thursday so about 10 days but only liked two so far.. I think I am going to stay on it and see who comes up.. This guy today liked me straight away I liked him but hasn't messaged me so I bit the bullet and send him a message.. Hasn't replied yet.

My first like messaged me straight away but ghosted me after the spoke on the phone.. (we message couple of days first)

Where have you met those guys you've been dating ? On Tinder?

Newbie here - I ended LTR a few months ago but have been working silly hours. All good now and am about to get photos done for a profile so joining this for support. Have a q in the meantime as I'm clearly bloody clueless, there was a leaving do at work last week and late in the evening After lots of drinks, there were lots of hugs all round started for lovely bloke who was leaving. In the course of hugging another bloke, he told me I was gorgeous and then later put his hand on my back and then held my hand with his fingers interlinking mine - is this general drunken fuckwittage that normally happens on a work night out? You can tell I haven't been out much ...........

Thingintheattic - that's appalling not having just a bit of common decency to say it to you. Its not like he actually had to see you face to face!

I have replied to my messages and one of them has asked me out! It seems very quick so not sure what to do with that.

Also had a falling out with ex tonight so probably not the best mood to be messaging men!

Hi prosecco yes, I did reply after hours and hours. He had said 'hey, where are you?' And I left it till late then just said 'here'
Haven't heard anything since

Oh, sorry, that was in response to your question about Invisible.

To whoever asked me how Tinder was otherwise ( sorry, I find it difficult on my little phone to scroll back through the messages) well it's ok, but nobody's very proactive. I've only had four matches and I swiped so much on Saturday that I ran out of men!
I am only limiting myself to 20km though, and I didn't right-swipe very many.
I find this kilometre thing a pain... A guy I matched with on Saturday just started chatting, but he lives 80km away! He was only in my area for the weekend, so that was a complete waste of time. Wish people could put their home area in too. Not everyone wants a casual hook up that lives miles away.

Yes Prosecco on Tinder.

I live in London and they are very proactive here Thing

Thing I have found Tinder to be a waste of time. As I mentioned before, I have my limit set to 40 miles but while Tinder shows me people supposedly within that distance, it is clear from what people have written in their profile space that the majority are not within 40 miles at all but are a LOT further away than that - ie, London, Manchester (ie, over 100 miles). And it's simply unbelievable that all these people from so far away are visiting this area on the same day. I've been on it for months, have only had two matches - yes, two - and both of those were fake spambots trying to get me to another site.

Outnumbrd Interesting to know as I live in London too. I will definitely try Tinder at some point.

Thing re: Invisible I just don't get it.. Why was he so keen to meet up asap while he was on holiday and now this.. I really just don't understand!

I went on a date at the weekend. And I thought he was nice enough but not for me but on the date he said lets arrange to meet on thurs and I said yes but now I'm home I wish I said no. I felt under pressure when he said it face to face, ive never had that before normally people ask afterwards.

Ahhhh will I get bad karma now and spend my whole life being ghosted? I'm so weak

Mother he probably knew you wouldn't agree to it afterwards. I'm the same tho but I end up giving it a go in the hope it'll work out only to find a few dates later I wish I'd listened to my gut!

Well I had date 3 with mr fireman, we went for an Indian n then went back to his where he treated me to his hose! was very nice indeed, he's so hot but seemed to think same about me so I was a happy girl! He now gone away for a week with his kids so will have to bring myself back to earth!

Really sparkles I am learning so much! I do have issues with being too compliant and not liking upsetting people. I don't think his ego will be damaged he seemed quite confident but I didn't say no thank you as I didn't want to offend.

I'm going to cancel it

Has any one else had this? Started using tinder and got lots of matches. Had a message from a match I really like the look of....then the app buggered up and it's wiped my messages! Argh how can I find him again?!

Yes happened to me. You just have to go through swiping again n hope he turns up! Well that was my experience, bloody annoying tho !

Fixed it!

I logged in and out again and my messages reappeared! So try that if it happens again...I was gutted he's hot! Lol

Result!

Thing TinderGuy sounds great! I don't think we'll forget "oo dear" man anytime soon He's lovely in so many ways but the lack of passion and excitement just made me dispair. He's a very passionate man in other respects - work, sport, friendships ... just not sex. Having said that, Audidriver isn't much better and I suspect that it's because they're lazy and like to take a back seat. Audidriver has said that he loves how I take control and know what I want ... that's because if I didn't, we'd still be drinking feckin' tea and chatting! honestly. Both of them are very forthright and enthusiastic about ... stuff ... by text but in the flesh, nothing. Not a thing. Audidriver doesn't even give an orgasm alert. The only way I know he's arrived is the way he suddently goes all relaxed. We're never satisfied are we We spent all yesterday texting and I just wish he was like that in the flesh but he's not. (He's young and hot though so I don't care).

The other two have got in touch, I'd imagine becuase I joined WatsApp and showed up on their 'contacts list' or however it works. Plus, they're probably bored and fancy some distraction and attention. Nothing more.

I have another iron now too (why do they all come at once?) I've known this one for 10 years and he asked me out before but I said no as he was too intimidating. he looks like Richard Gere 30 years ago I know him through work so get to meet/kiss/hug him regularly but he's started e-mailing me asking if I'm available so I might just say yes.

Whatam1doing how exciting! I bet you can't wait for tomorrow night! give us all the juicy details on Wednesday

Thing just read your up-date re TinderwineGuy - fucking arse! Love your FB message

Sparkles&pearls

Single how can you not go for it with a Richard gere doppelgänger ! Now I'm jealous!

Fireman is good looking but he knows it and can be a bit arrogant at times, that's his only bad trait so far ...